Incel, is an academic sociological term that is short for and means, 'involuntary celibacy', a life circumstance. Individual philosophies like the blackpill or subcultures like 4chan culture emerge on some, but not all, forums dedicated to involuntary celibates and go in and out of fashion. Inceldom was first academically recognized as a sociological phenomenon by the Donnelly Study. The Donnelly Study defined incels as all adults who want to have a willing sexual partner of the gender that they are attracted to, but cannot find one for six months or more. This definition, however, has too many holes.
For the purposes of this wiki, an incel is someone who would be rejected by the vast majority of the single members of the gender they are attracted to in spaces socially designated for dating if they tried, for at least a few years. The first lexicographer to define "incel", defined incel as a gender-neutral life cirumstance rather than a subculture. Its unabbreviated form was coined in 1739 by Antoine Banier in his book on ancient Greek mythology. Inceldom overlaps but is distinct from 'sexual frustration', in that an involuntary celibate may simply accept their inceldom and not feel bad about it.
The current non-niche incel internet forums are: incels.co, Reddit's Braincels, Facebook's Incelistan, Incelistan.net, love-shy.com, Incelswithouthate, and Foreveralone. Roughly 28% of men between the ages of 18-30 are involuntarily celibate. Self-described incels tend to be known as, "dating realists".
Because the definition of incel is wonky, there are a number of shared experiences incels have that are worth highlighting.
Incels generally have:
- never been propositioned or hit on
- never been complimented in a sexual way
- never have had sex without paying for it
- never been on a date
- always have been rejected
Sexual frustration vs. inceldom
The first lexicographer to define "incel", defined it as a gender-neutral life cirumstance rather than a subculture. Its unabbreviated form was coined in 1739 by Antoine Banier in his book on ancient Greek mythology. Inceldom overlaps but is distinct from 'sexual frustration', in that an involuntary celibate may simply accept their incelibacy and not feel bad about it.
Can't an incel just see a hooker?
Frequenting prostitutes or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual, romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance/sociability, but not without money. Even if it did count as a sexual or romantic relationship, most self-identified incels cannot afford it on a regular basis. Also, many escortcels frequently characterize prostitution as not a fully sexual experience as it usually lacks sexual validation. Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the side effects of inceldom but it does not constitute a sexual relationship.
Incels want genuine companionship.
Love-shy vs. incel
Love-shyness is the fear of romantic or sexual relationships. It is possible for a person to be both incel and love-shy, and most are both to some degree or another. For instance, a person could originally be incel, then suffer large numbers of turn downs, and eventually become love-shy and unable to approach.
Life as an Incel
Incels aren't allowed to develop, creating a list of negative symptoms often including erectile dysfunction and anorgasmia. The American Journal of Public Health found that delayed sexual activity, "creates health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being." Single mancels (and most single normie men) are supposed to be asexual beings whenever they aren't paying a woman. They are told that their penis is gross, cheap, and threatening, and that no one wants to look at it. They usually aren't told that masturbation is healthy growing up and often are told it's unhealthy. They must never speak of sexual desires around women they aren't or *are* paying unless the woman is a hooker, which is illegal. To be incel is to be forced involuntarily into public displays of asexuality. This may be one of the causes of exhibitionist behavior in some men, as a revolt against societies determination of most single men as asexual beings.
Since normies, chads, beckys, stacies, tanners, and brads don't like to pair up people anymore, they tell incels it's near 100% incels own fault that they can't find a partner. So they offer self-help "advice". Incels are told by normies that looks don't matter, but normies always are curious about how ugly incels are and assume they don't take enough showers or get enough haircuts. They tell incels to be themselves, but to pick up hobbies they don't like. They tell incels that pick up artists are full of shit but that incels don't have enough 'game' to date rape drunk women at bars 'pick up women'. They tell incels that they are too nice but also that they are assholes. They tell incels that sexual intimacy is not that important, but they themselves buy and/or create movies and songs about how sexual intimacy is one of the most important things in the world and they get upset if they have a few week long dry spell.
They tell incels that they 'just need to get laid', and also that they 'don't need sex'.
They tell incels that sexual intimacy isn't a commodity in a game with a reward, but think of male virgins as "losers" and tell incels that they don't "deserve" intimacy due to their actions.
Normies, especially feminist normies, insist that sexual freedom is a sorting mechanism for male feminists and good personalities like OJ Simpson and Jeremy Meeks, and that your local grocery store bagger deserves to be an incel because maybe he went on 4chan once or twice.
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