Bodyguard hypothesis

From Incel Wiki
Jump to navigation Jump to search
Dan Bilzerian.

Bodyguard hypothesis suggests that women choose to pair bond with the most dominant man available to them in order to be protected from other contending males, especially sexually coercive ones. Women arguably used to need this protection because all men are stronger than almost all women.[1] Dominance in this case may even refer to non-violent social power determined by e.g. wealth, social competence and looks, but in non-human animals it is more about mere physical power.[2][3]

In many species, including humans, the greater parental investment on part of females causes males to engage in contest competitions over reproductive opportunities.[4][5] This results in an evolutionary arms race between males causing them to evolve to be stronger and taller than the females. A minority of males is predicted to shortcut this competition by directly coercing females into sex (rape) and threaten or kill the offspring (infanticide) for their own reproductive advantage. This, in turn, predicts females would evolve to prefer a strong partner who can protect herself and the offspring, especially from sexually coercive males of who are not as strong. Protective males defend their own reproductive interests, as well as augment the female's ability to survive and reproduce.[6]

The bodyguard hypothesis applies in particular to unpredictable, fast-life ecologies with a high prevalence of highly sexually active, promiscous men, and thus may primarily apply to fast-life strategic women, though other women may still possess related behavioral adaptations as vestiges.

Humans[edit | edit source]

In humans, bodyguarding may also play a special role due to the relatively large share of resources that males provide.[7][8] A long-term bond lasting at least a few years is hence highly conductive to reproductive success, especially in K-selected species. For such bonds to be stable, it is required that the male is the most dominant one the woman can attract as otherwise a more dominant male could contest that bond.

Bodyguard hypothesis predicts that women tend to date up, especially when the most dominant males engage in polygyny and hence hoard a substantial fraction of the females as it is the case in the human species.

Some suggested that women's choice does not matter much, and women rather get chosen by contest competition among males. Counter-evidence to this is e.g. that career women often refuse to date down and rather remain single if they cannot find a more socially dominant partner (see hypergamy). Many women also experience rape fantasies, which points to a desire to be dominated. Both of these aspects point to a preference for a partner that is at least as dominant as the woman herself. Women also more often than men report social status as an important mate preference,[citation needed] and they prefer men who have sex with other women,[9] i.e. men which have already won prior contest competitions. Women also have a clear preference for the physically stronger man when given the choice. In one study, none of 160 female students preferred a physically weaker male.[10] Women prefer callous and narcissistic men, which are also high status traits.[11] Women are sexually aroused by men who take on responsibility, do things, make the group laugh etc.[citation needed] In fact, the most dominant man isn't necessarily the physically most dominant one, since in humans, social power and wealth can provide more protection than mere physical force (as one can buy such force or use social ties to get access to it).

The sexual dimorphism in strength and neoteny may in part come from men preferring short, weak women who are easy to control and hence less likely to cuckold them. In fact, not just men have this preference, but also their relatives who have an interest their heirs of their family wealth are genetically related (as reproductive success of genetically related individuals slightly increases the fitness of one's own genes due to the similarity of the genes, i.e. kin selection).

The bodyguard hypothesis may explain why women loose interest in any given relationship more quickly than men[12] as exposing themselves to other men instead guarantees them to be attached to the most dominant man all the time in case their previous partner lost in status in the meanwhile.[13]

Extra-pair mating[edit | edit source]

There are two broad hypotheses in evolutionary psychology that seek to explain extrapair mating (infidelity) among human females. Cheating among females requires explanation as it is risky for women to betray their partners. By doing so, women risk both losing investment from their male partners and facing violence in retaliation for the social humiliation that often accompanies cuckoldry in humans. These two broad hypothesis are, roughly speaking, good genes benefits and the benefits of switching to a higher quality male partners. The good genes hypothesis argues that women gain direct genetic fitness benefits from cheating, as their offspring with men with superior genes will be more viable (likely to survive) and more likely to reproduce themselves, therefore increasing women's reproductive success. The other school of thought argues that women mostly cheat because they are dissatisfied with their current partner, usually due to his low investment or lack of ability to invest resources in herself and her offspring.[14] Supporting this hypothesis, there is some evidence, albeit from China, that women partnered with low-income men are more likely to commit infidelity.[15]

The partner-switching hypothesis also broadly supports the bodyguard hypothesis. As women face physical threat from cuckolding their male partners, it makes sense that they would tend to prefer physically, socially, or otherwise dominant men for these extrapair copulations, perhaps in an independent manner from the direct benefits they get from partnering with a higher-quality mate. There is evidence supporting this, as some studies have found a correlation between metrics of body attractiveness (which would be a proxy of overall physical dominance) and men's likelihood of reporting having cuckolded other men.[16] Women also seem to prefer muscular men as short-term partners,[17] and short-term mating in women may be broadly viewed as a tactic to achieve commitment from men who they perceive as higher-status and more dominant than themselves.

This preference for muscular men could be explained by muscular men being more physically attractive (in line with the good genes hypothesis) or because they are perceived by women as being more able to gain and control resources (in line with parental investment theory).[18] However, this female tendency also provides support for the bodyguard hypothesis, as it would greatly benefit a women prone to infidelity to cheat with men that have the physical and social dominance required to deterring their cuckolded current partner from taking revenge against her. Therefore, the partner-switching and bodyguard hypotheses are complementary in this manner. In many circumstances, women both benefit from 'trading-up' to a higher mate-value partner and gaining physical protection from that higher value male partner.

References[edit | edit source]

  2. Wrangham, R. W. 1979. On the evolution of ape social systems. Social Science Information 18:334-368.
  3. Packer, C., and A. E. Pusey. 1983. Adaptations of female lions to infanticide by incoming males. American Naturalist 121:716-728.

See also[edit | edit source]



GameOvergamingFrame (PUA)Signaling theoryRomantic idealizationCourtshipNeggingSexual market valueBeautyCharismaOrbiterBullyingLMSPUAAssholeTalk therapyIndicator of interestDominance hierarchyFuck-off signalsSocial circleSlayerNeurolinguistic programmingDatingOffline datingOnline datingBraggingAnabolic steroidGuitarClown GameJock

Misc. strategies


Pick Up Artists

R. Don SteeleRoss Jeffriesr/TRPReal Social DynamicsRooshVOwen CookPlayer SupremeWinston WuList of people in the seduction community


Alpha maleAlpha femaleBeta maleBeta femaleOmega maleOmega femaleSigma maleVox DayDominance hierarchy


NeurotypicalNeurodivergentCoolCharismaStoicAssholeDark triadBorderline personality disorderNice guySimpApproach anxietyButterflies in the stomachConfidenceShynessLove shyHedonophobiaAsperger's SyndromeSocial awkwardnessIQRationalityEvolutionary psychologyTestosteroneEstrogen

Celibacy states

SexlessnessCelibacyIncelDry spellDating LimboSingleVirginWizardVolcelAsexualSex haverMarriedAscendedRelationship


HypergamyCopulationNudityCasual sexPump and dumpPromiscuityCock carouselRapeSexual harassmentBodyguard hypothesisBetabuxProvisioningMarriage proposalReproductive successSexual envySex driveBateman's principleSexual economics theoryResources for orgasmsSex ratioFemale passivitySexual attractionAttraction ambiguity problemBody attractivenessMuscle theoryFemale orgasmHuman penisHulseyismSexual conflictSexual modestySlutWhoreLordosisLeggingsPaternity assuranceMicrochimerismPartible paternityFeminine imperativePussy cartelRejection (dating)Ghosting (dating)Shit testAdverse effects of inceldomMaslow's hierarchy of needsCauses of celibacyHomosexualityHomocel hypothesisDemographics of inceldomTeleiophilic delayPolygynyPolyandryMonogamyMarriageTraditionalist conservatismMate guardingMate poachingMate choice copyingIntrasexual competitionFacial masculinityNeotenyParthenophiliaFisherian runawaySexual selectionCreepinessValidationChadsexualHybristophiliaScelerophiliaQuality and primitivity theorySexclamationTumescenceClitorisTesticlesLooks bottleneckGaitIncestpillPraying mantisoidMigraine

Other theories

Timeless quotes on womenFemales are socially ineptWomen-are-wonderful effectGynocentrismApex fallacyFeminismSexual revolutionFemale subordinationFemale hypoagencyFemale solipsismPrincess syndromeLife on tutorial modeFemale privilegeFake depressionFemale sneakinessFemme fataleBriffault's lawJuggernaut lawArguing with holes Halo effectFailo effectSinglismVariability hypothesisPsychiatryCognitive behavioral therapyAntifragilityTriggeredLife historyScientific Blackpill + Scientific Blackpill (Supplemental)Evolutionary mismatchMutationFeminizationBehavioral sinkPolitical correctness‎Affirmative actionVirtue signalingEugenicsEnvironmentalismMale scarcityRegression toward the meanMatthew effectPatriarchyTutorial IslandEmpathy gapWelfare gameX-factor theoryBuy a wheelchair to pick up women gameClown WorldProblematicIncel crisis coverup