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The blackpill holds that women's emancipation is causing mass inceldom and deteriorating male-female relationships, and that the only solution is returning to traditions, enforcing monogamy and restoring the natural subordination of women.[1] Blackpillers see the rise of lookism, hypergamy and a corruption of the natural gender roles as outcomes of the sexual revolution and as the main causes of inceldom. Many blackpillers regard the abolition of sexual sublimation as an existential threat and see modern society as a behavioral sink. Some blackpillers believe that a social collapse is inevitable and therefore advocate that ugly men should adopt a fatalistic and defeatist outlook.[2]

Blackpillers agree that without systemic changes, self-improvement is futile for many incels and, therefore, blackpillers tend to have animosity toward pick-up artists and redpillers, who instead believe men can greatly increase their relationship success by e.g. game and bodybuilding. Other than that, blackpill and redpill knowledge is nearly identical.

Most blackpillers seek to reduce suffering as well as lookism, degeneracy, and societal decay. Most blackpillers are atheist, but some promote cultural Christianity or other religions. Most blackpillers believe in evolutionary psychology and biological determinism, in which they scientifically ground their ideas. The science behind the blackpill is being collected in the Scientific Blackpill article and on the subreddit /r/BlackPillScience.

The term "blackpill" is pill jargon and is also used less politically, especially outside of the manosphere, simply referring to a bitter truth that nothing can be done about. Not all blackpillers are incels (noncel blackpillers) and not all incels are blackpillers.

Overview[edit | edit source]

In the manosphere, a blackpill refers to a very uncomfortable fact about dating or a political argument about how only traditionalism or other large-scale changes could improve the situation. These facts and arguments, as well as the movement that has organized around them, are collectively referred to as the blackpill. Some blackpillers expect spreading blackpill knowledge to spark a revolution.[3]

Blackpilled individuals believe that gynocentrism, technology, modernity have unleashed female sexuality and created a shallow, lookist and hypergamous dating sphere which is destroying the social fabric of modern civilization. The growth in popularity of the blackpill can in part be explained by the failure of the mainstream media and society of bluepilled pontification, to account for otherwise inexplicable phenomena such as the halo effect, hybristophilia, cacophobia and how female choosiness is leads to female hypergamy.

Many aspects of the blackpill are based on science and not new to academia at all, in fact, they often draw from scientific literature that predates the prevalent gynocentric monoculture in the social sciences. Blackpillers believe there are factors that are mostly pre-determined and unchangeable, but that play a vastly underappreciated role in female mate choice. The main factors are thought to be looks, money, and status. This triad was popularized as the LMS theory in non-pill-ideological PSL forums in response to the self-improvement enthusiasm of redpillers and pickup artists. Other important, and also largely immutable factors include physical stature, race, IQ, personality, and neurotypicality. All of these factors are part of the central themes of the blackpill which are summarized below.

The blackpill can be seen as a counterweight to the prevalent and bluepilled assumption that having a poor social and romantic life is mostly one's own fault. It provides an basis whereby one can reject the barrage of "self-improvement" advice that is ubiquitous in media, advertising and in day-to-day platitude and virtue signaling.

Meanings of the blackpill[edit | edit source]

Ugly people are objectively ugly[edit | edit source]

Main articles: Looks (Life) and Beauty

Humans universally prefer good looking people and agree fairly consistently about who is attractive.[4][5][6][7][8][9] They agree more about the looks of very attractive and unattractive individuals, hence for them looks are more objective.[10] People agree less about people of average attractiveness, so here individual preferences play a greater role. Even babies prefer attractive faces over non-attractive ones long before culture could have affected their preferences,[11][12] and even blind men have the same preferences about women's hourglas shape as sighted men.[13] Also, among widely different cultures, universal standards for beauty exist[14] and women almost universally prefer tall men to short men.[15] Taken together, these research findings strongly suggest that the preference for beauty is largely innate, likely evolved by sexual selection, rather than by social construction. What is more, people automatically associate physical attractiveness with various positive traits to an unreasonable degree, e.g. a good personality, humor, morality, intelligence and health (halo effect).[16] This may even affect parents treating their good looking offspring better.[17] In contrast to intuitive judgements, looks are only weakly related to health and even less with morality or cognitive ability which suggests beauty evolved only because it looks good.

Women are just as 'visual' as men[edit | edit source]

Main article: Looks (Love)
Women rate 80% of men below medium, while men rate women on a more even bell curve distribution (Rudder, 2014). More information.

Ratings of physical attractiveness predict romantic interest to the same extent in women and men as a large meta study (N = 29,414) concluded.[18] What is more, women place a minimum threshold of physical attractiveness on potential mates before they are willing to consider anything else about them.[19] Moreover, women lie about the importance of physical attractiveness.[20] Women are also seemingly more choosy about looks than men, e.g. they rate 80% of men as below 5/10 with a skewed distribution both in online dating and non-online contexts, whereas men rate women normally.[21] The common objection to women being shallow about looks in online dating is that in real life women would care about personality and that one could easily make up for bad looks with a good personality. Sadly, various studies showed looks are the only factor to predict initial romantic interest,[22] and they are only slightly less important in long-term dating.[23] Looks are highly heritable as well,[24] so even though lifestyle choices like bodybuilding can improve looks, much of it is predetermined, with more than half of an individual's lean mass being hereditary,[25] and an individual's response to resistance training is significantly determined by genetics.[26] Furthermore, men's attractiveness and masculinity predict a woman's chance of orgasm.[27] While not as drastic as women's harsh ratings of men's looks suggest, there is indeed evidence of women dating up in looks, e.g. unattractive men were less likely married in one study (15% less likely married than attractive men).[28] Conversely, very unattractive women were more likely being married than other women, providing some evidence for Juggernaut law.[29] The more attractive the male partner, the sooner women allow for sex to occur[30] and the less likely they would prefer a condom,[31] providing evidence for the sexy son hypothesis.

The misconception that women would not care about looks may stem from the women-are-wonderful effect,[32] or from the fact that men prefer young and fertile women and youth is associated with beauty. It also requires a much higher level of looks for women to copulate with a complete stranger only because of his looks than vice-versa, so this simply happens rarely. It may also be a remnant of monogamy norms, forcing women to marry men regardless of their looks.

Women are coy and hypergamous[edit | edit source]

Main articles: Libido and Hypergamy
On OkCupid, women receive 8 times as many messages per week as men even though the sex ratio is even and men in online dating are not uglier than elsewhere (Rudder, 2014). More information.

Women are much more choosy than men and have a lower sex drive. Even in stable relationships men masturbate four times as often as women.[33] Men would also more readily agree to unsolicited invitations to sex,[34] they less likely regret casual sex[35] and more often regret missing out on sex.[36] Additionally, there are very large sex differences in sexual disgust.[37] Women are more coy (reluctant to have sex) across the globe and flirting universally consists of the man impressing the woman.[38][39] Women overwhelmingly prefer being asked out on dates vs doing the asking, presumably to more easily choose between different men by deferring the responsibility of the initiation on the men.[40] Related to this, women receive on average 20 times as many matches as men on Tinder, which suggests men are more promiscuous.[41] The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating,[42][43] and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 8 times as many messages.[44] Men are more choosy about looks for long-term relationships than for short-term relationships, but women are even choosier in long-term relationships because they care about looks in addition to men's ability to provide. Women are thought to have reproduced twice as reliably as men throughout history, possibly largely due to their greater choosiness or, equivalently, men's greater promiscuity.[45]

Number of received messages by income bracket and age (OkCupid Blog). More information.

As a result of being choosy, women are hypergamous, meaning they tend to date up. A woman tends to not only want a good partner, but one who is better than herself or better than other available partners or her current partner. This preference ties into the natural hierarchical organization in humans. Men do not care about women's socioeconomic status and achievements, but women care a lot about men's.[46][47] Women with higher income tend to have a preference for men with even higher income, while men have no such preferences.[48] Women are prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner.[49] What is more, there is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status or marry men with lower income than their own, and preferring to remain single when they cannot date up or across the social hierarchy.[50][51][52][53][54][55][56] This means, as women surpass men in socioeconomic status, more men are becoming sexually unattractive. Since women are always anxious about not having the best man available, they get bored with relationships and sex sooner,[57] and women are more likely to initiate divorce across a wide variety of cultures[58] and have been in the US at least since year 1862.[59] Further, women prefer partnered men over single men which may be related to women's preference for high status.[60][61][62] Men do not show such preferences.

In terms of evolutionary psychology, hypergamy and women's choosiness can be explained by sex differences in parental investment (Bateman's principle), which in turn results in sex differences in sex drive. This results in women having much more options to choose from and in chronic sexual frustration for most men.[63] Men and women aim up to the same extent and few aim unrealistically high,[64] but since men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, they more readily make compromises and eventually date down,[65] particularly if they experience frequent rejection.[66] This this reason, the population of male incels tends to be larger than female incels, and femcels are likely more often volcels.

In terms of economics, one can also regard sexual relationships as a deal and study them with market principles. Women want resources from men because women have been heavily dependent on men's resources throughout history.[67] Men want sex and also certainty that the offspring in which they invest their resources is theirs (a problem that women do not face).[68] One can thus model the sexual market as one in which men can sell the resources and women can sell exclusive access to sex.[69][70] This means, welfare and affirmative action for women, as well as decreasing economic growth and increasing economic inequality, tend to reduce the sexual market value of lots of men because provision of resources are men's main goods. Women's sexual market value is, on the other hand, rather determined by their looks and their reputation of non-sluttiness (things that men desire).[71] The economic dynamics in such kind of sexual market are believed to also give rise hypergamy,[72] and they also motivate different kinds of intrasexual competition for each sex and are thought to have fundamentally shaped psychological sex differences.[73]

There is evidence that hypergamy has intensified in the recent years. The top 5-20% of men (i.e. "Chads") are now having more sex than before the sexual revolution.[74][75] In addition, women's infidelity rate has increased,[76] and for people aged 20 to 30, it is now close to men's infidelity rate,[77] and overall also only a bit lower than men's, which is curious in light that women are much more likely to tolerate it (presumably because men can't have babies).[78] The more men date down, and the more partners are available e.g. through online dating and social networks, the choosier women become as they can choose from more options leading them to wait for the perceived opportunity for a partner of very high mate value. This results in men dating down even more out of frustration, possibly aggravating the situation and forming a positive feedback loop in male sexual frustration and female choosiness.[79]

In summary, women's love style is more opportunistic and transactional than men's. Women are loved nearly unconditionally, men are not. Social expectations for men are overall higher, hence femcels are rarer than male incels and more likely volcels. Since women have more dating options available to them, they tend to have much more power over relationships than they like to admit (Briffault's law). There exists a strong women-are-wonderful bias in that women are perceived more favorably than men in all kinds of regards which additionally suggests men are overall held to higher standards.[80]

Women prefer dominant and stoic men[edit | edit source]

Main article: Personality
Women's rape fantasies. More information.

Contrary to mainstream dating advice that women would like nice men, many women, if not most women, are actually attracted to dominant and strong men, both physically dominant (strong muscles) and in character (confidence, stoicism).[81] In one study, not a single woman out of 160 significantly preferred the physically weaker man when given the choice between a strong and a weak one.[82] Women tend to prefer callous and psychopathic men, possibly because these act as costly signals of high status.[83] Further, most women have rape fantasies and aggressive men with low inhibition levels (e.g. ADHD, criminals, bullies) have substantially more sex partners and children.[84] In naturalistic settings (i.e. rating a video interaction between a male and a female), it has been shown that women generally rate the men with higher levels of psychopathy as more attractive, controlling for physical attractiveness.[85] A meta-analysis consisting of 53 studies found consistent evidence for a link between deliquency, drug use and greater sexual success in males.[86] Social status predicts 62% of the variance in men's mating opportunities.[87] Being physically weaker, women are believed to choose the most dominant male available to be protected from contenders (bodyguard hypothesis[88]) and to get access to high quality foods.[89]

Women are much more passive maters than men, e.g. most of them prefer being asked out on a date vs doing the asking, i.e. they prefer men taking on the dominant/active role.[90] For men, a relationship is a project, for women it is a choice.[91] Women tend to dislike exclusively nice men and they dislike vegetarians, finding them less masculine.[92] Health is a stronger predictor of marriage satisfaction for males than for females, suggesting that it is more important for males to be confident and dependable (stoic).[93] Men might have been selected to hide/deny their illnesses and limitations (stoicism), possibly contributing to their earlier mortality.[94] For example, men with a mental condition frequently have less romantic success than women with the same condition.[95] Mental conditions that are especially detrimental are schizophrenia and autism.[96] There is evidence that these mental disorders can also be accurately detected even in photographic first impressions, somewhat independent of the effect of physical attractiveness on positive judgement, suggesting it is difficult to conceal these disorders from observers.[97]

Among blackpillers there is disagreement about whether dominance and aggression are actually conductive to dating success (science does suggest so, though likely only past some minimal standard of looks), some claiming that only looks truly matter. Better looks may allow one to act in a dominant manner to some extent, e.g. looks are correlated with extroversion (r = .2)[98] and attractive men are more readily forgiven for deviant behavior.[99][100]

Women are teenagers[edit | edit source]

Main articles: Tee-hee, Sluts, Foid psychology and Female solipsism

Women do not only look a lot more childlike than men (neoteny), but they also behave in a more childlike manner. For example, women's average emotional and crying behavior does not mature beyond the behavior of young teenage girls.[101][102] Adult women cry 4 times as often as men on average, and even more in stressful situations such as at the workplace.[103][104] Women's gossiping has been a concern throughout history[105] and women gossip much more about close friends and acquaintances than men,[106] particularly about looks,[107] are very mean to one another,[108][109] are significantly less cooperative towards each other than men are towards other men,[110] and they are are more often described as difficult or demanding[111] (even though one would expect the reverse due to the overall prevalent women-are-wonderful stereotype, implying women must be even worse than people like to admit). Female gossip is thought to be based in women's intrasexual competition in attracting high status males by their looks and reputation of faithfulness (since men and their mothers want certainty the offspring they invest in is their's). Men are also believed to be less gossipy and more cooperative because they can achieve more effective resource extraction by cooperating, something women do not need to worry much about.[112] Like children, women lie a lot, often presumably to avoid conflict (likely related women's higher agreeableness which is a childish/submissive trait in itself),[113] but also to avoid negative gossip from other women.[114] For example, women consistently underreport their number of past sex partners.[115] Women place 4.5 times greater importance on themselves as a group than men do.[116] Women make up the majority of victims of workplace mass hysteria which indicates they are more prone to hysterical groupthink and conformance.[117] Just like children, women want to be treated special, e.g. even feminist women prefer men who take care of them.[118] 23–33% of women have admitted to having gone on dates merely to get free food.[119] Women's self-sexualization, high beauty standards (sometimes leading to eating disorders[120]) and historically restricted female sexuality seem to be not a matter of misogynist cultural prescription, but women's own intrasexual competition.[121][122] The fact that seemingly the majority of women fails to recognize, let alone oppose the immense gynocentric contradictions and falsehoods in media narratives (e.g. about harassment, rape, the gender pay gap, the patriarchy and oppression of female sexuality[123]), is indicative of a childish solipsism and lack of self-awareness.

Sexlessness and loneliness are harmful[edit | edit source]

Ratings of how pleasurable and meaningful activities are, with sex being rated most highly in all categories (Grimma, Kemp & Jose, 2015) More information.
Main articles: Scientific Blackpill (Health) and Adverse effects of inceldom

As summarized in the Scientific Blackpill article, sex and relationships possibly have a number of positive effects on health. Especially loneliness seems to be detrimental to health and sex is also regarded as the most pleasurable activity of all. In one report, loneliness was estimated to be as lethal as smoking 15 cigarettes per day. Both excessive smokers and lonely people are 50% more likely to die prematurely than those with healthy social relationships and non-smokers respectively. Sexlessness negatively affects both men and women.[124] What is more, the overall happiness of a country may positively affect productivity and the economy.[125][126] In fact, a Chinese company employed women to cheer up their male workers to great effect.[127] Populations with more unmarried men due to polygamy have greater violent conflict potential.[128][129] Being in a relationship may increase men's social status,[130] in particular among women who prefer partnered men over singles.[131] Sexual activity was related to greater well-being the next day,[132] and warm partner contact lowers cardiovascular stress.[133]

Causes of inceldom[edit | edit source]

Sexlessness and loneliness are thought to have many different causes, e.g. of economic, cultural or environmentalist/pessimist nature, as well as rapid technological changes. As systems hit limits of growth, economies stagnate and social networks allow for social comparison with more people, people plausibly become more narcissistic,[134] competitive[135][136][137][138] and choosy. The result is a low birth rate, coddled children who are prepared for late marriage and higher education,[139] and women save themselves up for the ideal mate.[140] At the same time, a decline of tradition and gender roles (driven by a push towards higher female workforce participation) and hypergamy are thought to accelerate the trend, essentially by a corruption of the natural gender roles. Beside this, it has been suggested today there is a large mismatch between the modern environment and our natural one, leading to deteriorating social functioning. In particular, people may have an expectation to be married rather than making their own choices as arranged marriage was a very common occurrence in human's past.[141] Increased mutational load mainly due to milder living conditions and modern medicine drastically reducing infant mortality,[142] as well as pollution (e.g. xenoestrogens), and/or changes in diet may have lead to a decline of masculine features, such as robust mandible, compact midface,[143] and also reduced testosterone levels and hence reduced muscle mass, but also a higher incident rate of all kinds of diseases (obesity, underweight) and mental conditions, e.g. autism. Likewise, sperm count has reduced as much as 50% in the past decades. Such changes should predict that more men now fall below what is objectively deemed as lowest bar for physical attractiveness by most women. Others have proposed a viscous cycle of mutants disrupting communal life and a thereby degraded communities disrupting mutant's and other peoples' sex lives.[144]

The dual mating strategy[edit | edit source]

Main article: Strategic pluralism

Dual-mating refers to a hypothesis that women have an innate mating strategy that involves two mates: A primary partner as long-term support (a beta cuckold), and secondary sex partner of higher mate quality in order to get "good genes" for the offspring (an alpha male) by cheating on or cuckolding their primary partner.[145] In recent times, this hypothesis was used to explain the rise of female infidelity,[146] as well as seemingly higher rates of cuckoldry and also seemingly increasing rates of beta men providing for single mothers in their 30s or 40s after they had obtained a child from a more desirable male, which was dubbed alpha fucks, beta bucks (AF/BB), in the manosphere. More recently, however, the dual-mating strategy fell in disfavor in the scientific community for a number of reasons. One reason is that non-paternity rates are globally very low, even though contraceptives and relaxed marital norms should make AF/BB occur much more often if it was natural.[147] E.g. only 3% of all children in the U.S. live with a step father.[148] Non-paternity rates are sometimes high in hunter-gatherers though and the men in such societies also often do not invest much in their offspring beyond childhood.[149][150]

Other themes[edit | edit source]

  • Social atrophy: Blackpillers believe that due to gynocentrism, many incels have missed formative social and sexual experiences during adolescence, and won't be able to catch up on them later (it's over). Women are believed to have more of opportunities to do so. In an informal poll, 94.9% of users said they've missed developmental milestones.[151] The Donnelly Study and other studies on inceldom raised the same point. Men who do manage to attract a partner that late, for example by a good income, are believed to only get access to used up leftover women too old and sexually experienced to be sexually attractive (betabux).
  • Equal pay: Blackpillers believe admitting women a substantial income was a huge mistake, especially in combination with current economic stagnation. In the past, women's choosiness was naturally counterbalanced by their material dependence on men. Removing this dependence, renders men useless and reduces them to their looks[152] and "social skills" such as superficial posturing, brashness and obnoxiousness (clown world), departing from traditional masculine traits like being taciturn, quietly confident.
  • Greedy parents: Affirmative action incentivizes parents to push their female offspring into careers and to be pro-feminist. This forms a self-reinforcing vicious cycle as strengthened feminist policies only increase this incentive.
  • Women in power: Blackpillers believe allowing women in politics was a huge mistake. For one thing, this is believed to fuel gendered politics which will ultimately drive the sexes apart. It is also believed that old, childless and bitter token women are occupying influential positions, causing hysteria about social issues and pushing anti-male policies. It is also dreaded that by now the majority of social scientist, educators and social policy makes are by now female and hence have a genetic disregard to empathize with men's issues. Feminization of the workplace and politics is seen to cause overemphasis on useless socializing and posturing (clown world), draconian anti-harassment laws and limitations of freedom of expression (e.g. gossiping about or slut-shaming women). In fact, men's intrasexual competition is known to be much more ruthless in presence of women,[153] so women's increased workplace participation has likely an effect to this extent.
  • Religions had it right: Another theme is how it is implausible that the vast majority of prior cultures happened to be wrong about female sexuality as feminism claims. Blackpillers often jokingly invoke the trope that religious scripture has warned us of admitting women any power, but we did not listen.
  • Lookist & harsh dating opportunities: Contact to women is seen to be reduced to situations in which looks are the main thing that matters (e.g. bars and online dating[154]) especially for the many socially isolated millennials, aggravated by the fact that women more often have their own high incomes, so men cannot improve their SMV by income as much as in the past, and are hence more reduced to their physical appearance. The more unattractive the man, the longer longer courtship is required to convince a woman, so brief dating opportunities where only looks matter, pose huge disadvantages to such males. This is further aggravated by increasingly harsh social rules concerning flirting and harassment. As such, men perceive to lack opportunities to even get to know women, e.g. they reported this as a main reason for their singlehood on Reddit.[155]
  • Corrupt psychotherapy and psychiatry: Another frequent theme is that psychotherapy, counseling and psychiatry are useless and give poor advice. It is claimed they merely parrot bluepilled notions about being nice and taking a shower, and are ultimately a waste of time and money. There is indeed evidence that psychotherapist do not improve by training and that the effectiveness of psychotherapy is mostly not better than placebo (which consists in self-administered self-help, or in taking any action, other than psychotherapy). There is also some evidence (drawing on large samples from the U.S and Germany) that suggests psychotherapy can actively be harmful to the patient, being associated with negative personality changes (increases in neuroticism, stress and depression) and declines in positive traits (such as self esteem and conscientiousness).[156]

Conclusion[edit | edit source]

Each one of the central themes plays a part in deriving incel vocabulary. Looks and status being necessary for men, but unevenly distributed, gives rise to beta and alpha males, Virgin vs Chad. Chad represents women's tendency to date up (hypergamy) and to prefer dominant men. The higher sex drive and more active love style in men gives rise to beta orbiting. For women, Becky vs Stacy represent women's intra-sexual competition in looks.

Blackpills often mean that "it's over" for incels with poor looks and low social status or other flaws—that is, that they have next to no chance of 'ascending' or attaining sexual and social fulfillment. The blackpill gave rise to various spin-offs with varying degrees of seriousness, for instance, the 'dogpill.'

Proposed solutions[edit | edit source]

Believers in the blackpill have a wide variety of opinions about what needs or can be done about the systemic issues outlined above. Below is a list of various other proposed solutions:

  • Traditionalism: Traditionalist believe one should return to the nuclear family[157][158] Some regard religion as necessary, while others simply propose atheistic monogamy.[159][160][161] Some fear that a return to religion, hierarchies and chivalry (man proves himself to and protects the woman) will only lead to an exploitation of low status males, e.g. by duty to die in war or economic exploitation.
  • Technology: In opposition to traditionalists, some blackpillers claim that technological progress, such as highly immersive simulated relationship experiences and realistic sex dolls or sex bots present a possible solution to increasing male social alienation and inceldom. Futurologist Ian Pearson has predicted that the prevalence or at least the availability of sexbots will be substantial by the year 2050. Sexlessness is a major component of inceldom. Taken altogether, the components and input of sexbots means that the resulting price of the product will be geared towards a middle-class market segment.[162] Polls also show that men are more interested in sexbots than women, as such we're more likely to see the mass production of chickbots or fembots rather than manbots or malebots.[163] In conclusion, it is a fair bet that inceldom levels will drop dramatically among middle-class men by the middle of the 21st century. Some even suggest soon all women will be obsolete once science invents artificial wombs. Critics of these solutions maintain that due to phenomena such as the "uncanny valley" effect, such experiences will prove to be, essentially, an elaborate form of masturbation, and will likely not serve as suitable substitutes for actual sex and companionship. Artificial wombs are also touted as a technological solution for incels who wish to reproduce without a willing female partner. Some blackpillers also view advances in the medical field of plastic surgery as a source of optimism, and claim widespread societal awareness of lookism—potentially leading to government subsidized plastic surgery for incels—would also present a possible solution to the problem.
  • Genetic engineering: Some argue only changing human nature itself can help, which would either require genetic engineering, thousands of years of selective breeding.[164] These are only long-term solutions and are very optimistic about continuing technological progress.
  • Sex communism: Some propose sex communism and state-issued girlfriends as a solution to inceldom, however others have objected that such projects seems unlikely to succeed socially/politically, as they are well outside of the Overton Window in all liberal democracies, at least, and as such would likely require an authoritarian state that was invested in solving the problem to sucessfully implement, and it is also seen as doubtful whether healthy relationships can form when a relationship is not "earned", but assigned by fiat. Both men and women often want to be proud of their partner choice. For that, both men and women need to know where they stand.
  • Enforced monogamy & hierarchy: Traditionalists like Jordan Peterson say the solution to the incel problem lies primarily in socially enforcing monogamy, but he opposes the complete abolition of women's emancipation. In his words, "the question is not if, but how".[165] Peterson believes social hierarchies are necessary for people to have certainty where they stand which he regards to be important for relationships to form because women date up and across the social hierarchy. Peterson says enforcing monogamy mainly works by cultural norms against promiscuity and divorce. Peterson emphasizes responsibility, "growing up", as well as holding frame, which many incels perceive as Chadsplaining.
  • Reducing hypergamy & online dating: Substantial damage appears to be caused by women refusing to date men who are available. This may in part be due to being told to "grab opportunities, travel and keep your standards high" and that "the world is your oyster". Women appear to incite hypergamy in this manner, also by slutshaming (i.e. giving sex away too easily and hence loosing power over men by strategically withholding sex). One would need to establish social norms to discourage such behavior. Such efforts are strawmanned/slippery-sloped by anti-tradcons as going full sexual Marxism/Fascism, but arguably there is a middle ground where simply very high standards are discouraged, but standards still exist.
  • Lowering women's status: Women's hypergamy means that for each man there needs to be a woman of lower status. This implies, in order to reduce inceldom, women's status relative to men needs to be lowered in general. Not necessarily as far that all women are below men, but many in the manosphere do advocate for this. Women definitely should not outeducate men as much as they do today.
  • Incentives and disincentives: One can also systematically consider various ways of punishing singlehood and promiscuity, and reinforcing pairing up monogamously, whether by removing existing conditions (negative) or introducing new ones (positive). Blackpillers have proposed state subvention could pay male and female incels for pairing up (positive reinforcement).[166] Similarly, it has been proposed to disincentivize promiscuity and singlehood instead, e.g. by taxing promiscuous behavior[167] and singles (positive punishment). Further, one could remove burdens that are associated with pairing up, e.g. abolishing harassment laws and no-fault divorce laws (negative reinforcement). Lastly, one could e.g. deprive female singles and promiscuous individuals of certain benefits they may have (negative punishment). Of course there may be ethical concerns.
  • Economic growth: Since much of inceldom appears to be linked to economic stagnation (neetcel) and hitting perceived limits of growth such as overpopulation, another solution consist in increasing economic growth, and perhaps expanding the population beyond Earth by e.g. colonizing Mars, however such solutions are only relevant for future generations.
  • Sterilization & adoption: In response to eugenicists, others have argued male incels who do not want to reproduce should be enabled to enter a relationship with a female of similar SMV in return for being sterilized or be forced to make use of sperm donations or genetic enhancements like embryo selection, which may soon be available. This way, loneliness and social isolation could be reduced by enforced monogamy, but people unfit or are unwilling to reproduce would not pollute the gene pool, nor give birth to children they won't care for.
  • Stoicism: Others believe a positive effect of taking the blackpill is that it liberates from false hope and from expending time and effort for what is, in essence, a futile goal. Taking the blackpill means acknowledgement unethical, shallow and unhealthy mannerisms in the dating scene or even wider cultural practices, such as narcissism[168] and lookism (the halo effect and beauty-is-good stereotyping). Many blackpilled incels eventually complement or supplant the blackpill with the whitepill.
  • Nihilism, fatalism and incelicide: Some blackpillers say the damage done is irreparable at this point and advocate fatalism.[169][170][171][172][173] Such blackpillers are often driven by essentialist views that female sexuality is so strongly biologically hardwired that it would require a civil war to undo the sexual revolution, or that it is simply not feasible and has also historically never been substantially better (which is false since the number of incels is likely at a historical peak). Some social darwinist blackpillers promote fatalism and advocate incelicide. If nobody is left to be an incel, then the problem is solved. These kinds of solutions are of course not ethically tenable. Also if the core problem of the unequal distribution of female's sexual affections is left unresolved, then this would require a continuous purge of incels every generation.

First use of the term blackpill[edit | edit source]

The term blackpill was first used by a blog commenter named Paragon on the Dalrock anti-feminist blog in 2011 and later adopted by OmegaVirginRevolt's blog. In his comment, Paragon defined the blackpill to mean (paraphrased) 'there's no personal solution to systemic dating problems for men and only societal hardship (such as mass poverty) can solve men's systemic dating issues'. In other words, some blackpillers don't believe that a sexual marxist, wealthy welfare state is possible. Paragon, having dating difficulties in Canada, moved from Canada to the Philippines, a less prosperous country than Canada, and married there. It should be noted, though that not all incels or incel boards, or blackpillers promote or believe in the original blackpill definition. In Paragon's words, the blackpill was:[174]

[..] to reconcile that there are no personal solutions to systemic problems – which can only resolve over evolutionary time.

And any solution will very much entail steep trade-offs, in that males can’t have their cake and eat it too – a prosperous population of deferred ecological pressures (like we currently enjoy), without an expectation that this prosperity will increase the mating latitude of females (dramatically perturbing the breeding population, to the point of near evolutionary instability).

One will always follow the other, as male consensus on these matters is practically impossible in terms of inter-sexual competition(as opposed to the broad accord females enjoy through an abundant wealth of sexual opportunities, courtesy of their reproductively limiting function).

Blackpill meme gallery[edit | edit source]

References[edit | edit source]

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  147. (see Section 6)
  164. https://just remove the space in this link

See Also[edit | edit source]



Biological essentialismTraditional conservatismFatalismBlackpillScientific BlackpillBehavioral sinkHypergamyBeautyDominance hierarchy


SlutMonogamyMarriagePolygynyPolyandrySexual sublimation




It's over

Cope or ropeCopeLay down and rot

L o o o k s


Looks theoryLookism.netLooksmax.orgLooksBeautyDecileFacial Aesthetics: Concepts and Clinical DiagnosisThe WallScientific Blackpill



Looks levels

ChadChadliteBradGigachadTannerPretty BoyBeckyStacyGigastacy


EthnicelJBW theoryRicecelCurrycelBlackcelArabcelWhitecel



Body Parts

EyesLateral orbital rimLipsLower thirdMandibleMaxillaEyebrowMoustacheBoobsFeetBrowridge

Body Characteristics

MacrophallismMidface ratioNeotenySexual attractivenessSexual dimorphism Facial Aesthetics: Concepts and Clinical DiagnosisFashionAntefaceFiveheadFrameFWHRCanthal tiltCompact midfaceGay FaceDeep-set eyesHunter eyes