In the manosphere, the blackpill is primarily a philosophy which holds that traditionalism is a necessary response to the incel problem to prevent social collapse. Some blackpillers think that social collapse has already arrived and is irreversible in our lifetime and hence advocate fatalism. Blackpillers are mostly concerned with lookism and hypergamy which are thought to have intensified recently. Blackpillers agree that, for many incels, self-improvement is futile without systemic changes, and therefore blackpillers tend to have animosity toward pick-up artists and redpillers, who instead believe one can greatly improve by game and bodybuilding. Most proponents seek to reduce suffering as well as lookism, degeneracy, and societal decay. Most blackpillers are atheist, but some promote cultural Christianity.
For more information on the science often cited by blackpillers, see the Scientific Blackpill article.
- 1 Meanings of the blackpill
- 1.1 Looks are largely objective, especially ugly people's looks
- 1.2 Women are just as 'visual' as men
- 1.3 Women are choosy and hypergamous
- 1.4 Women prefer dominant and stoic men
- 1.5 Women are teenagers
- 1.6 Sexlessness and loneliness are harmful
- 1.7 The dual mating strategy
- 1.8 Other themes
- 1.9 Conclusion
- 2 Comparison to other pills
- 3 Disagreement over solutions
- 4 First use of the term blackpill
- 5 References
- 6 See Also
Meanings of the blackpill[edit | edit source]
In the manosphere, a blackpill refers to an uncomfortable fact about dating or a political argument about how only traditionalism can solve dating problems. These facts and arguments, as well as the movement that has organized around them, are collectively referred to as the blackpill. Blackpilled individuals believe that feminism, technology, modernity have unleashed female sexuality and created a shallow, lookist and hypergamous dating sphere which is destroying the social fabric of modern civilization. Blackpillers "spread the blackpill" with the intention to demotivate other men from looking for personal solutions and encourage them to consider to systemic problems instead. "The blackpill becoming widespread" can also mean that men's dating problems are becoming more ubiquitous. Some blackpillers expect this to spark a revolution.
The blackpill and the redpill philosophies largely overlap, but they disagree in one point: The redpill assumes most men can leverage knowledge about female sexuality to improve themselves, e.g. by bodybuilding and pickup artistry, whereas the blackpill assumes that for many men self-improvement is futile in today's cultural and economic circumstances. Blackpillers believe there are factors that are mostly pre-determined and unchangeable, but that play a vastly underappreciated role in female mate choice. The main factors are:
Many aspects of the blackpill are based on science and not new to academia at all, in fact, they often draw from scientific literature that predates the prevalent feminist monoculture in the social sciences. The blackpill consists of the following central themes, most of which are related to one of more factors of the LMS triad.
Looks are largely objective, especially ugly people's looks[edit | edit source]
Humans universally prefer good looking people and agree fairly consistently about who is attractive. They agree more about the looks of very attractive and unattractive individuals, hence for them looks are more objective. People agree less about people of average attractiveness, so here individual preferences play a greater role. Even babies prefer attractive faces over non-attractive ones long before culture could have affected their preferences, and even blind men have the same preferences about women's hourglas shape as sighted men. Also, among widely different cultures, universal standards for beauty exist and women almost universally prefer tall men to short men. Taken together, these research findings strongly suggest that the preference for beauty is largely innate, likely evolved by sexual selection, rather than by social construction. People also automatically associate physical attractiveness with various positive traits to an unreasonable degree, e.g. a good personality, humor, morality, intelligence and health (halo effect). This may even affect parents treating their good looking offspring better. In contrast to intuitive judgements, looks are only weakly related to health and even less with morality or cognitive ability which suggests beauty evolved only because it looks good.
Women are just as 'visual' as men[edit | edit source]
Women place a minimum threshold of physical attractiveness on potential mates before they are willing to consider anything else about them. Women also lie about the degree of importance of physical attractiveness. Women are also seemingly more choosy about looks than men, e.g. they rate 80% of men as below 5/10 with a skewed distribution both in online dating and non-online contexts, whereas men rate women normally. The common objection to women being shallow about looks in online dating is that in real life women would care about personality and that one could easily make up for bad looks with a good personality. Sadly, various studies showed looks are the only factor to predict initial romantic interest, and they are only slightly less important in long-term dating. Looks are highly heritable as well, so even though lifestyle choices like bodybuilding can improve looks, much of it is predetermined, with more than half of an individual's lean mass being hereditary, and an individual's response to resistance training is also significantly determined by genetics. Men's attractiveness and masculinity also predict a woman's chance of orgasm. While not as drastic as women's harsh ratings of men's looks suggest, there is indeed evidence of women dating up in looks, e.g. unattractive men were less likely married in one study (15% less likely married than attractive men). Conversely, very unattractive women were more likely being married than other women, providing some evidence for Juggernaut law. The more attractive the male partner, the sooner women allow for sex to occur and the less likely they would prefer a condom, providing evidence for sexy son hypothesis.
Women are choosy and hypergamous[edit | edit source]
There is a host of evidence that women are much more choosy maters than men. For example, women receive on average 20 times as many matches as men on Tinder, which suggests men are more promiscuous. The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating, and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 8 times as many messages. But lots of evidence can also be found elsewhere, for example men would much more readily agree to unsolicited invitations to sex and they less likely regret casual sex. There are also very large sex differences in sexual disgust. Women are more coy (reluctant to have sex) across the globe and flirting universally consists of the man impressing the woman. Men are more choosy about looks for long-term relationships than for short-term relationships, but women are even choosier in long-term relationships because they are about looks and men's ability to provide. Women are thought to have reproduced twice as reliably as men throughout history, possibly largely due to their greater choosiness or, equivalently, men's greater promiscuity.
Women's hypergamy is their tendency or preference to date up and it is a particular form of their choosiness. Namely, a woman tends to not only want a good partner, but one who is better than herself or better than other available partners or her current partner. This preference ties into the natural hierarchical organization in humans. Male intrasexual competition as well as mere genetic dispositions such as differences in physical strength give rise to males with highest peer popularity, rank or status (alpha males) and males with lower status (beta males). Men do not care about women's socioeconomic status and achievements, but women care a lot about men's. Women with higher income tend to have preference for a man with even higher income, while men have no such preferences. Women are also prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner. What is more, there is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status or marry men with lower income than their own, and preferring to remain single when they cannot date up or across the social hierarchy. This means that as women surpass more men in socioeconomic status, more men are becoming sexually unattractive with regards to women's hypergamous preferences. Since women are constantly anxious about not having the best man available, they get bored with relationships and sex sooner, and women are also more likely to initiate divorce across a wide variety of cultures and have been in the US at least since year 1862. Women also prefer partnered men over single men which may be related to women's preference for high status. Men do not show such preferences.
Hypergamy naturally follows from sex differences in sex drive and women's preference for high status men: Men have a higher sex drive, possibly because they have less parental investment. This results in women having much more options to choose from and in chronic sexual frustration for most men. Both men and women aim up to roughly the same extent and few aim unrealistically high, but since men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, they more readily make compromises and eventually date down, particularly if they experience frequent rejection.
One can regard sexual relationships as a deal and study them with the principles of economics. Women want resources from men because women have been dependent on men's resources throughout history. Men want sex and also certainty that the offspring in which they invest their resources is theirs (a problem that women do not face). One can thus model the sexual market as one in which men can sell the resources and women can sell exclusive access to sex. This means, welfare and affirmative action for women, as well as decreasing economic growth and increasing economic inequality, tend to reduce the sexual market value of lots of men because provision of resources are men's main goods. Women's sexual market value is, on the other hand, rather determined by their looks and their reputation of chastity and faithfulness. The economic dynamics in such kind of sexual market are believed to also give rise hypergamy, and they also motivate different kinds of intrasexual competition for each sex and fundamentally shaped psychological sex differences.
There is evidence that hypergamy has intensified in the recent years. Namely, the top 5-20% of men (i.e. "Chads") are now having more sex than before the sexual revolution. In addition, women's infidelity rate has increased, and for people aged 20 to 30, it is now close to men's infidelity rate, and overall also only a bit lower than men's, which is curious in light that women are much more likely to tolerate it (presumably because men can't have babies). The more men date down, and the more partners are available e.g. through online dating and social networks, the choosier women become as they can choose from more options leading them to wait for the perceived opportunity for a partner of very high mate value. This results in men dating down even more out of frustration, possibly aggravating the situation and forming a positive feedback loop in male sexual frustration and female choosiness.
In summary, women's love style is more opportunistic and transactional than men's. Women are loved nearly unconditionally, men are not. Social expectations for men are overall higher, hence femcels are expected to be rarer than male incels and more likely volcels. Since women have more dating options available to them, they tend to have much more power over relationships than they like to admit (Briffault's law). There exists a strong women-are-wonderful bias in that women are perceived more favorably than men in all kinds of regards which also suggests men are overall held to higher standards.
Women prefer dominant and stoic men[edit | edit source]
Contrary to mainstream dating advice that women would like nice men, many women, if not most women, are actually attracted to dominant and strong men, both physically dominant (strong muscles) and in character (confidence, stoicism). In one study, not a single woman out of 160 significantly preferred the physically weaker man when given the choice between a strong and a weak one. Also, most women have rape fantasies and aggressive men with low inhibition levels (e.g. ADHD, criminals, bullies) have substantially more sex partners and children. In naturalistic settings (i.e. rating a video interaction between a male and a female), it has been shown that women generally rate the men with higher levels of psychopathy as more attractive, controlling for physical attractiveness. Many women appear to have a fondness for criminal men, in fact a meta-analysis consisting of 53 studies found consistent evidence for a link between deliquency, drug use and greater sexual success in males..
Women strongly prefer men of high status, in fact socioeconomic status predicts 62% of the variance in men's mating opportunities. Women are much more passive maters than men, e.g. most of them prefer being asked out on a date vs doing the asking, i.e. they prefer men taking on the dominant/active role. For men, a relationship is a project, for women it is a choice. Women tend to dislike exclusively nice men and they also dislike vegetarians, finding them less masculine. For men it is more important to be strong and dependable (stoic). For example, men with a mental condition frequently have less romantic success than women with the same condition. Mental conditions that are especially detrimental are schizophrenia and autism. There is evidence that these mental disorders can also be accurately detected even in photographic first impressions, somewhat independent of the effect of physical attractiveness on positive judgement, suggesting it is very difficult to conceal these disorders from observers.
Among blackpillers there is disagreement about whether dominance and aggression are actually conductive to dating success (science does suggest so, though likely only past some minimal standard of looks), some claiming that only looks truly matter. Better looks may allow one to act in a dominant manner to some extent, e.g. looks are correlated with extroversion (r = .2) and attractive men are more readily forgiven for deviant behavior.
Women are teenagers[edit | edit source]
Women do not only look a lot more childlike than men (neoteny), but they also behave in a more childlike manner. For example, women's average emotional and crying behavior does not mature beyond the behavior of young teenage girls. Adult women report crying 10 times as often as men in stressful situations such as at the workplace. Women also gossip a lot more than men, particularly about looks, are very mean to one another, are significantly less cooperative towards each other than men are towards other men, and they are also are much more often described as difficult or demanding (even though one would expect the reverse due to the overall prevalent women-are-wonderful stereotype, implying women must be even worse than people like to admit). Women's gossiping has been a concern throughout history and it is thought to be based in women's intrasexual competition in attracting high status males by their looks and reputation of chastity. Women also place much greater importance on themselves as a group than men do. Just like children, women want to be treated special, e.g. even feminist women prefer men who take care of them. Women's self-sexualization, high beauty standards (sometimes leading to eating disorder) and historically restricted female sexuality seem to be not a matter of misogynist cultural prescription, but women's own intrasexual competition. The fact that seemingly the majority of women fails to recognize, let alone oppose the immense gynocentric contradictions and falsehoods in media narratives (e.g. about harassment, rape, the gender pay gap, the patriarchy and oppression of female sexuality), is indicative of a childish solipsism and lack of self-awareness.
Sexlessness and loneliness are harmful[edit | edit source]
As summarized in the Scientific Blackpill article, sex and relationships possibly have a number of positive effects on health. Especially loneliness seems to be detrimental to health and sex is also regarded as the most pleasurable activity of all. In one report loneliness was estimated to be as lethal as smoking 15 cigarettes per day. Both excessive smokers and lonely people are 50% more likely to die prematurely than those with healthy social relationships and non-smokers respectively. Sexlessness negatively affects both men and women. It is also suspected that the overall happiness of a country affects productivity and the economy. In fact, a Chinese company employed women to cheer up their male workers to great effect. Populations with more unmarried men due to polygamy have greater violent conflict potential. There is evidence that being in a relationship increases men's social status in particular among women who find such men substantially more appealing than single men.
Sexlessness and loneliness are thought to have many different causes, some of economic and some of cultural nature. As local economies and businesses decline, the world grows together and economic growth vanishes, and social networks allow for social comparison with more people, people become narcissistic and highly competitive for the increasingly fewer high status positions. The result is low birth rate, coddled children who are prepared for late marriage, and women saving themselves up for the ideal mate etc. At the same time, a decline of tradition and gender roles largely driven by a push towards higher female workforce participation, as well as future pessimism and hypergamy are thought to accelerate the trend.
The dual mating strategy[edit | edit source]
Dual-mating refers to a hypothesis that women have an innate mating strategy that involves two mates: A primary partner as long-term support (a beta cuckold), and secondary sex partner of higher mate quality in order to get "good genes" for the offspring (an alpha male) by cheating on or cuckolding their primary partner. In recent times, this hypothesis was used to explain the rise of female infidelity, as well as seemingly higher rates of cuckoldry and also seemingly increasing rates of beta men providing for single mothers in their 30s or 40s after they had obtained a child from a more desirable male, which was dubbed alpha fucks, beta bucks (AF/BB), in the manosphere. More recently, however, the dual-mating strategy fell in disfavor in the scientific community for a number of reasons. One reason is that non-paternity rates are globally very low, even though contraceptives and relaxed marital norms should make AF/BB occur much more often if it was natural. E.g. only 3% of all children in the U.S. live with a step father. Non-paternity rates are sometimes high in hunter-gatherers though and the men in such societies also often do not invest much in their offspring beyond childhood.
Other themes[edit | edit source]
Blackpillers believe that gynocentric Western culture, e.g. the lack of early marriage and de-emphasis on monogamy, as well as adverse societal and economic circumstances, cause some men to miss out on formative experiences at young age, e.g. opportunities to learn basic social skills and how to approach a woman and maintain a relationship. Most women, on the other hand, are believed to have countless of opportunities to to so. To such women, engaging with a virgin man is thought to be boring and alien, because women are believed to be socially, romantically and sexually much more mature. Men who fail to acquire such skills before their mid or late 20s are believed to be incapable of doing so later on, and are hence deprived of basic decency. Men who do manage to attract a partner that late, for example by a good income, are believed to only get access to used up leftover women too old and sexually experienced to be sexually attractive. Contact to women is seen to be reduced to situations in which looks are the main thing that matters (e.g. bars and online dating) especially for the many socially isolated millennials, aggravated by the fact that women more often have their own high incomes, so men cannot improve their SMV by income as much as in the past, and are hence more reduced to their physical appearance. The more unattractive man, the longer longer courtship is required to convince a woman (on the other of months), so brief dating opportunites where only looks matter, pose huge disadvantages to such males. This is further aggravated by increasingly harsh social rules concerning flirting and harassment.
Another frequent theme is that psychotherapy and counseling are useless and give poor advice. It is claimed they merely parrot bluepilled notions about being nice and taking a shower, and are ultimately a waste of time and money.
Conclusion[edit | edit source]
Each one of the central themes plays a part in deriving incel vocabulary. Looks and status being necessary for men, but unevenly distributed, gives rise to beta and alpha males, Virgin vs Chad. Chad represents women's tendency to date up (hypergamy) and to prefer dominant men. The higher sex drive and more active love style in men gives rise to beta orbiting. For women, Becky vs Stacy represent women's intra-sexual competition in looks.
Blackpills often mean that "it's over" for incels with poor looks and low social status or other flaws—that is, that they have next to no chance of 'ascending' or attaining sexual and social fulfillment. The blackpill gave rise to various spin-offs with varying degrees of seriousness, for instance, the 'dogpill.'
Comparison to other pills[edit | edit source]
Outside of the manosphere, the red, blue and black pills are used for other things than just dating. The blue pill generally refers to the denial of uncomfortable truths, the red pill refers to the revelation of an uncomfortable truth (as an analogy to the film The Matrix), and the black pill refers to uncomfortable truths that either nothing can be done about or it would require changes difficult to attain, e.g. large-scale cultural changes. The term blackpill was presumably first used by a blog commenter named Paragon (see the section below). Within the manosphere, the three pills are more narrowly concerned with social and romantic life, and they represent different tribes or ideologies with differing views on issues like the importance of looks in dating. The three ideologies can be summarized as follows (adapted from the BlackPillScience subreddit):
|Pill theory||Accepts uncomfortable truths?||Locus of control|
Both the redpill and blackpill acknowledge the importance of LMS for dating, but the redpill claims that one can leverage this knowledge for one's social and romantic success (internal locus of control), whereas the blackpill assumes that for some men there is no help without changing the conditions of mating altogether (external locus of control). The blackpill can be seen as a counterweight to the prevalent and bluepilled assumption that having a poor social and romantic life is mostly one's own fault. It provides an basis whereby one can reject the barrage of "self-improvement" advice that is ubiquitous in media, advertising and in day-to-day platitude and virtue signaling.
Disagreement over solutions[edit | edit source]
Believers in the blackpill have a wide variety of opinions about what needs or can be changed to solve the systemic issues outlined above, from pessimistic nihilism/fatalism to traditionalist beliefs such as returning to the nuclear family or stoicism. Some argue only changing human nature itself can help, which would either require genetic engineering, thousands of years of evolution or selective breeding. Some social darwinist blackpillers promote fatalism and advocate incelicide.
Not all blackpillers are fatalistic, but many conclude a deep pessimism and fatalism, others have what they see as a more optimistic outlook and promote atheistic monogamy or are driven by traditional conservatism. Expecting a return to more traditional sex roles and emphasis on marriage and monogamy which may not be a solution for everyone, but could at least improve the situation greatly for most people. There is disagreement over whether or not this would require a widespread return to the prioritization of religious values to implement.
In what could be considered a somewhat opposite position to the traditionalists, some blackpillers claim that technological progress, such as highly immersive simulated relationship experiences and realistic sex dolls present a possible solution to increasing male social alienation and inceldom. Critics of these solutions maintain that due to phenomena such as the "uncanny valley" effect, such experiences will prove to be, essentially, an elaborate form of masturbation, and will likely not serve as suitable substitutes for actual sex and companionship. Artificial wombs are also touted as a technological solution for incels who wish to reproduce without a willing female partner. Some blackpillers also view advances in the medical field of plastic surgery as a source of optimism, and claim widespread societal awareness of lookism - potentially leading to government subsidized plastic surgery for incels - would also present a possible solution to the problem.
Others believe a positive effect of taking the blackpill is that it liberates from false hope and from expending time and effort for what is, in essence, a futile goal. Taking the blackpill means acknowledgement unethical, shallow and unhealthy mannerisms in the dating scene or even wider cultural practices, such as narcissism and lookism (the halo effect and beauty-is-good stereotyping). Many blackpilled incels eventually complement or supplant the blackpill with the whitepill.
First use of the term blackpill[edit | edit source]
The term blackpill was first used by a blog commenter named Paragon on the Dalrock anti-feminist blog in 2011 and later adopted by OmegaVirginRevolt's blog. In his comment, Paragon defined the blackpill to mean (paraphrased) 'there's no personal solution to systemic dating problems for men and only societal hardship (such as mass poverty) can solve men's systemic dating issues'. In other words, some blackpillers don't believe that a sexual marxist, wealthy welfare state is possible. Paragon, having dating difficulties in Canada, moved from Canada to the Philippines, a less prosperous country than Canada, and married there. It should be noted, though that not all incels or incel boards, or blackpillers promote or believe in the original blackpill definition.
In paragons words, the blackpill was:
[..] to reconcile that there are no personal solutions to systemic problems – which can only resolve over evolutionary time.
And any solution will very much entail steep trade-offs, in that males can’t have their cake and eat it too – a prosperous population of deferred ecological pressures (like we currently enjoy), without an expectation that this prosperity will increase the mating latitude of females (dramatically perturbing the breeding population, to the point of near evolutionary instability).
One will always follow the other, as male consensus on these matters is practically impossible in terms of inter-sexual competition(as opposed to the broad accord females enjoy through an abundant wealth of sexual opportunities, courtesy of their reproductively limiting function).
References[edit | edit source]
- Di Dio C, Macaluso E, Rizzolatti G (2007) The Golden Beauty: Brain Response to Classical and Renaissance Sculptures. PLoS ONE2(11): e1201. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0001201
- Psychological Bulletin 2000, Vol. 126, No. 3, 390-423 DOI: 10.1037//0033-2909.126.3.390
- Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, Royal Ottawa Health Care Group A First Look at User Activity on Tinder
- Baumeister, R.F. and Tice, D.M., 2001. The social dimension of sex. Allyn & Bacon.
- Harper CR, Dittus PJ, Leichliter JS, Aral, SO. Changes in the Distribution of Sex Partners in the United States: 2002 to 2011–2013. Sexually Transmitted Diseases: February 2017 - Volume 44 - Issue 2 - p 96–100. doi: 10.1097/OLQ.0000000000000554
- https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/files/2013/02/The-Mate-Switching-Hypothesis-FINAL-PUBLISHED-2017.pdf (see Section 6)
See Also[edit | edit source]
- Biological essentialism
- COPE or ROPE
- Juggernaut law
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