IncelSupport

A website called Incelsite.com was made in 2004. Born from the community Alana abandoned around 2003. This is the forum that eventually was rebranded to IncelSupport in 2006. IncelSupport had at least 3 domains in it's lifetime: z15.invisionfree.com/IncelSupport/index.php in 2006, then s176620169.onlinehome.us:80/ (incelsupport.org) in 2007, then incel.myonlineplace.org in 2008. On incel.myonlineplace.org lurkers used to outnumber actual posters. There was roughly an equal amount of men and women. Its members sometimes held meet-ups in the Washington, D.C. area.

The community was temporarily relocated to Yourenotalone.info, but the interim site didn't gain enough attraction

Bulletins

The IncelSupport forum gave the following reasons for Involuntary Celibacy:

• Geographic isolation
• Social Isolation
• Work-related Stress
• Economic Hardship
• Discouragement from Past Experiences
• Unconscious Repetition of Childhood Patterns
• Unresolved Family Issues
• Anxiety and Depression
• Low Self-Esteem
• Physical Illnesses
• Primacy Incels (this means everything is okay in life except, for some reason, sex and relationships)

Incelsite had a forum and a few years later, we made our own standalone forum called IncelSupport in 2008

Based on the research of Dr. Donnelly, they basically included anyone who would self- identify with being Incel and this meant that they'd include women, non-virgins, and even people who had children but were in a sexless marriage, etc. (Mentioning this to contrast to how many incels nowadays would reject these people as "normies").

Feminist Mods

Because IncelSupport was feminist and wouldn’t allow for misogyny, they would strictly moderate and consistently ban members who promoted it. One of the MOST notable things IncelSupport did was create "The Deadly Sins of Involuntary Celibacy". In retrospect, the unintended consequence of this was that banning misogynistic posters helped rid it from IncelSupport but it didn’t actually fix the misogyny from these posters. Many of these banned members would migrate to love-shy.com, which was a rival community.

Philosophical Differences with love-shy.com

Over the course of almost a decade, the general trend of these two main Incel support communities was that one became more feminist while one became more MRA. According to posts on r9k from 2013:

• "There is incelsupport, which I used to post on, but it's heavily moderated and overly PC, so 4chan types would hate it. There is the love-shy board - they basically seem like /r9k/ misogynists on steroids. That's about it, really."
• "wizardchan - overmoderated, slow, autistic"
• "incelsupport - overmoderated, slow, PC"
• "loveshy - slow, makes /r9k/ look like tolerant women's libbers"
• "All these places have their own ideologies though. The incelsupport board was kind of PC and wanted to ignore anything related to physical appearance or gender issues, whereas the love-shy board is essentially misogynist and bitter like /r9k/."

Ultimately, the forums became so ideologically split that – ironically – during this period, LoveShy forum became more like what Incel is nowadays and focused on external forces and sex, while IncelSupport forum was more like what love-shyness would be like and focused on the personality issues and self-improvement.

In Shy Boys IRL (a documentary about love-shy.com), there was this discussion which wouldn’t be allowed on IncelSupport:

UWT: "I don't know. I think you have somewhat feminist views but I mean that's it"

Kyle (a non-member): "Yeah, I agree that women are people."

Advanced: "No see, that's bullshit. And if you don't realize that, you've been brainwashed."

The ideological split between the forums was due to the policy regarding "free speech vs hate speech", "supportive vs toxic threads", and the moderation (or lack thereof).

Site Crash

In 2013, around the end, IncelSupport crashed. All the threads were lost. A temporary board was made but it wasn’t the same atmosphere. In 2014, interest was lost in the temporary board and efforts in fixing IncelSupport were eventually abandoned. The temporary board was abandoned too. Both forums are gone now and everything positive and supportive from the Incel community from the last 15 years is gone too.

IncelSupport's '7 deadly sins'

1. Apathy.

2. Excuses and justification.

3. Overanalysis.

4. Naivete.

5. Fear.

6. Rage.

7. Shame.

See Also

• Alana
• Reformed Incel
• Rebecca