|Date of Birth:||September 30, 1960|
|Occupation:||Law Firm Financial Dept|
By including this public figure on this wiki, we are not necessarily implying they are incel (involuntarily celibate) or are in any way associated with incels. Furthermore, with regards to any actual incels listed on this wiki, inceldom is a life circumstance, not an insult or a movement/community.
George Sodini was a 48-year-old computer analyst who was involuntarily celibate (incel) for 19 years and hadn't had a girlfriend in 25 years, since 1984. He studiously went to dating coach classes by scammer R. Don Steele. He also did home study of Don's dating coach materials, found no success, left a note on his dating frustration blog that hundreds of women just call him a 'nice guy', put 2 suicide notes in a bag, then tragically shot 12 women in a Pittsburgh aerobics (latin dance) class, killing 3. Sodini was a victim of dating advice. Sodini had a child with a woman named, "Lee Ann Valdiserri", in early 1991, and he had not known the baby for more than 4 months.
Feminist Reaction[edit | edit source]
As there was no evidence Sodini used love-shy.com or any incelospherian community that existed at that time, Jezebel randomly asserted that the True Forced Lonliness youtube vlogs must have influenced him. Despite there being no evidence of him viewing or associating with those extremely obscure and non-violent video blogs. Jezebel also tried to connect the 1980s French University shooting to him (lol). Feminists seemed dissapointed that simple dating advice and women could have alone motivated the attack, and desperately wanted to connect the attack to something other than those two things. To this day, feminists in the media and on wikipedia try to downplay Sodini's attack as not relevant to involuntary celibacy, and only focus on Elliot Rodger. After all Sodini had no known mental illnesses, had been successful with women before and had a child, and his vlogs showed no evident bad personality traits besides anger. If someone wants to make all involuntary celibates seem like unhinged weirdos, it's convenient to ignore Sodini.
Still Unreleased Suicide Notes[edit | edit source]
Police found two typed notes in Sodini's bag at the scene of the crime, each reflecting his depression and frustration with women. He complained of 'never having spent a weekend with a woman'  He apparently also complained in the notes about how he never vacationed with a woman, or lived with a woman, and how his sexual experiences were limited. 
Dating Coaching[edit | edit source]
Video exists of Sodini attending 3 day, 8 hour seminars by dating coach R. Don Steele, in the video Don Steele says, "Nice guys must die," Steele said in the video. "I would say that is the problem with most guys in the room. You are too nice."  Then, Sodini is shown shaking hands with one of Steele's "beautiful blond assistants" as part of an exercise in how to meet women.
"He was really, really quiet, he took a lot of notes," said Erin Micklow, 20, who was hired last year to work at a self-help seminar Sodini attended on how to date women.
Micklow, a model and an actress, described Sodini as "the most studious in the workshops." "George didn't seem like a bad person," she said. "He was there for self improvement."
part 2: 
Blog[edit | edit source]
In a July, 2009 blog post Sodini wrote, "Last time I slept all night with a girlfriend it was 1982. Proof I am a total malfunction. Girls and women don't even give me a second look anywhere. There is something blatantly wrong with me that no goddam person will tell me what it is." His last post before the shooting detailed his net worth of over 250 thousand dollars, the estranged mother of his child, and that people didn't know the full extent of his frustration and women would only ever call him a, "nice guy". He had also sought dating help to no avail before the shooting.
Link to Sodini's Full Blog: 
Sodini's last post before the shooting:
Vlog[edit | edit source]
In his first vlog, George says that R. Don Steele told him, he has "15 more years" to be successful with women. He said his objective was to "be real and emotionally connect with people". "Because when I'm 10 to 20 years older than she is, she has to feel good about this thing." In his second vlog George films his house as an exercise for the dating coach. George shows off his house, a copy of Steele's book, "How to Date Young Women: For Men over 35", his 75k house, Altima Car, 32 inch TV, computer, stereo, large speakers, matching couch and chair that will 'impress women' (in his words, possible sarcasm), dining room set, rug, 2 bedrooms, extra computer, a room 'so clean she will be impressed', cologne, "CDs and tapes I [he] bought since joining the list", his backyard, finished cellar, his network, and punching bag.
Footage[edit | edit source]
All two Sodini vlogs plus a news reel: 
See Also[edit | edit source]
References[edit | edit source]
- http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=8274254&page=1%7Ctitle=George Sodini Sought Dating Help Before Pennsylvania Gym Shooting