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Incel, is short for and means, 'involuntarily celibate', colloquially known as, "can't find a partner for a long time", a term describing a life circumstance. It is not a subculture, organized group, movement, or a philosophy. Although, individual philosophies, memes, or subcultures like the [[blackpill]] sometimes emerge on individual forums dedicated to involuntary celibates and go in and out of fashion. 'Involuntarily celibate' or 'incel' is the particular phrasing of, "can't get laid", that entered academia as an academic sociological term. This happened through the [[Donnelly Study]]. The [[Donnelly Study]] defined incels as people who would like to have a sexual or romantic relationship with someone of the gender they are attracted to but can't find one for free for 6 months or more, and then remain celibate.[[File:67.jpg|thumb|right|<center>What people think incels want <br> vs. what they really want</center>‎]] The date may seem arbitrary, but there had to be a cutoff point, and sociologist [[Denise Donnelly]] chose 6 months as that factored in that almost everyone goes without sexual intimacy for months, but it is only unusual after a few months. Most people who self-identify as incel are not standardcels as they cannot find *anyone* willing to have sex with them for free. The first lexicographer to define "incel", defined it as a gender-neutral life cirumstance rather than a subculture. Its unabbreviated form was coined in 1739 by [[Antoine Banier]] in his book on ancient Greek mythology. Inceldom overlaps but is distinct from 'sexual frustration', in that an involuntary celibate may simply accept their [[incelibacy]] and not feel bad about it.

Frequenting prostitutes or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual or romantic relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance, but not without money. Even if it did count as a sexual or romantic relationship, most self-identified incels cannot afford it on a regular basis. Also, many [[escortcel]]s frequently characterize prostitution as not a fully sexual experience as it usually lacks sexual validation. Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the side effects of [[inceldom]] but it does not constitute a sexual relationship.

[[Love-shyness]] is the fear of romantic or sexual relationships. It is possible for a person to be both incel and [[love-shy]], and most are both to some degree or another. For instance, a person could originally be incel, then suffer large numbers of turn downs, and eventually become [[love-shy]] and unable to approach.

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