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[[Incel]], is short for and means, ''''involuntarily celibate'''', colloquially known as, "can't get laid for a long time", a term describing a life circumstance.  It is not a subculture, organized group, movement, or a philosophy. Although, individual philosophies, memes, or subcultures like the [[blackpill]] sometimes emerge on individual forums dedicated to involuntary celibates and go in and out of fashion.  '[[Involuntarily celibate]]' or '[[incel]]' is the particular phrasing of, "can't get laid", that entered academia as an [[Donnelly Study#Incel is Now a Valid Academic Sociological Term|academic sociological term]]. This happened through the [[Donnelly Study]].  The [[Donnelly Study]] defined incels as people who would like to have a sexual or romantic relationship with someont of the gender they are attracted to but can't find one for free for 6 months or more, and then remain celibate.  The date may seem arbitrary, but there had to be a cutoff point, and sociologist [[Denise Donnelly]] chose 6 months as that factored in that almost everyone goes without sexual intimacy for months, but it is only unusual after a few months.  Most people who self-identify as incel are not [[standardcel]]s as they cannot find *anyone* willing to have sex with them for free. [[Ton den Boon|The first lexicographer to define "incel"]], defined it as a gender-neutral life cirumstance rather than a subculture. Its unabbreviated form was coined in 1739 by [[Antoine Banier]] in his book on the history of Ancient Athens. Inceldom overlaps but is distinct from '[[sexual frustration]]', in that an involuntary celibate may simply accept their [[incelibacy]] and not feel bad about it.  

Frequent visiting of prostitutes or sugar-daddying does not count as a sexual or romantic relationship, but rather a financial relationship.  Even if it did count as a sexual partnership, most self-identified incels cannot afford it on a regular basis.  Many incels frequently characterize prostitution as not a fully sexual experience as it usually lacks sexual validation.  Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the [[side effects of inceldom]] but no implementation of it so far has addressed inceldom itself as it usually takes the form of a service rather than a partnership.