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=== Fake nice guy syndrome ===
=== Fake nice guy syndrome ===
When women as well as people in general talk about "fake nice guys" they are in fact referring to some autistic males, whom apologize after every single rude comment, and remark accidental or otherwise, thus advertising themselves to be nice all the time, and not showing the full range of human emotions. Which is unsettling to neurotypicals, since the behavior comes off as fake, robotic, creepy, psychopathic, crazy, confusing, etc. Autists whom communicate in such a fashion, naturally over estimate, the optimal amount of pro-social communication/behavior most people generally prefer. People generally tend to prefer those that are not too nice, not too mean as per the goldie locks principle.<ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goldilocks_principle</ref> However sexually women do in fact prefer the opposite of the fake nice guy. Ie. The real [[asshole]]. This may be hard for some autists to understand due to polarized thinking patterns (black and white thinking).<ref>https://www.psychedconsult.com/blog/no-room-for-gray-here<ref></ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology)</ref> A fairly common trait among autists whom tend to be stressed by ambiguous information/stimuli, and thus ignore said stimuli.
When women as well as people in general talk about "fake nice guys" they are in fact referring to some autistic males, whom apologize after every single rude comment, and remark accidental or otherwise, thus advertising themselves to be nice all the time, and not showing the full range of human emotions. Which is unsettling to neurotypicals, since the behavior comes off as fake, robotic, creepy, psychopathic, crazy, confusing, etc. Autists whom communicate in such a fashion, naturally over estimate, the optimal amount of pro-social communication/behavior most people generally prefer. People generally tend to prefer those that are not too nice, not too mean as per the goldie locks principle.<ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goldilocks_principle</ref> However sexually women do in fact prefer the opposite of the fake nice guy. Ie. The real [[asshole]]. This may be hard for some autists to understand due to polarized thinking patterns (black and white thinking).<ref>https://www.psychedconsult.com/blog/no-room-for-gray-here</ref></ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology)</ref> A fairly common trait among autists whom tend to be stressed by ambiguous information/stimuli, and thus ignore said stimuli.


== Dating advice ==
== Dating advice ==

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