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[[File:Messages OkCupid.png|right|thumb|400x400px|On OkCupid, women receive 8 times as many messages per week as men even though the sex ratio is even and men in online dating are not uglier than elsewhere (Rudder, 2014). [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_rate_80.25_of_men_as_.22below_average.22.2C_while_men_rate_women_on_a_bell_curve|More information]].]]
[[File:Messages OkCupid.png|right|thumb|400x400px|On OkCupid, women receive 8 times as many messages per week as men even though the sex ratio is even and men in online dating are not uglier than elsewhere (Rudder, 2014). [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_rate_80.25_of_men_as_.22below_average.22.2C_while_men_rate_women_on_a_bell_curve|More information]].]]
Women are much more choosy than men and [[Libido|have a lower sex drive]]. Even in stable relationships men masturbate four times as often as women.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Libido#Masturbation</ref>
'''Female choosiness'''
Men would also more readily agree to unsolicited invitations to sex,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref>
 
By virtue of a having a womb, women have more [[Bateman's principle|parental investment]], so they evolved to be more choosy maters.
A result of this is that men's demand for sex is insatiable and men are [[sex drive|doomed to be horny]].
Even in stable relationships men masturbate four times as often as women.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Libido#Masturbation</ref>
Men much more readily agree to unsolicited invitations to sex,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref>
they less likely regret casual sex<ref>http://doi.org/10.1177/1474704916682903</ref>
they less likely regret casual sex<ref>http://doi.org/10.1177/1474704916682903</ref>
and more often regret missing out on sex.<ref>https://doi.org/10.1177/1474704916682903</ref>
and more often regret missing out on sex.<ref>https://doi.org/10.1177/1474704916682903</ref>
Additionally, there are very large sex differences in sexual disgust.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_feel_sexual_disgust_when_they_imagine_even_talking_to_an_unattractive_man</ref> Women are more coy (reluctant to have sex) across the globe and flirting universally consists of the man impressing the woman.<ref>https://books.google.com/books/about/Human_Ethology.html?id=WADsngEACAAJ</ref><ref>http://doi.org/10.1080/00224490903402520</ref>
Additionally, there are large sex differences in sexual disgust.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_feel_sexual_disgust_when_they_imagine_even_talking_to_an_unattractive_man</ref>
Women are more coy (reluctant to have sex) across the globe and flirting universally consists of the man impressing the woman.<ref>https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false</ref><ref>http://doi.org/10.1080/00224490903402520</ref>
Women overwhelmingly prefer being asked out on dates vs doing the asking, presumably to more easily choose between different men by deferring the responsibility of the initiation on the men.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#93.25_of_women_preferred_being_asked_out_on_a_date_rather_than_doing_the_asking</ref>
Women overwhelmingly prefer being asked out on dates vs doing the asking, presumably to more easily choose between different men by deferring the responsibility of the initiation on the men.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#93.25_of_women_preferred_being_asked_out_on_a_date_rather_than_doing_the_asking</ref>
Related to this, women receive on average 20 times as many matches as men on Tinder, which suggests men are more promiscuous.<ref>Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, Royal Ottawa Health Care Group A First Look at User Activity on Tinder</ref>
Women's coyness and reluctance to initiate anything can be seen on Tinder where women have on average 20 times as many matches as men.<ref>Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, Royal Ottawa Health Care Group A First Look at User Activity on Tinder</ref>
The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating,<ref>https://hingeirl.com/hinge-reports/whats-the-biggest-challenge-men-face-on-dating-apps-a-qa-with-aviv-goldgeier-junior-growth-engineer</ref><ref>ttps://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps/</ref>
The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating,<ref>https://hingeirl.com/hinge-reports/whats-the-biggest-challenge-men-face-on-dating-apps-a-qa-with-aviv-goldgeier-junior-growth-engineer</ref><ref>ttps://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps/</ref>
and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 8 times as many messages.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Hypergamy</ref>
and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 8 times as many messages.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Hypergamy</ref>
Men are more choosy about looks for long-term relationships than for short-term relationships, but women are even choosier in long-term relationships because they care about looks ''in addition'' to men's ability to provide.
 
As a moderately polygynous species, human females are thought to have reproduced twice as reliably as males throughout history, possibly largely due to their greater choosiness or, equivalently, [[libido|men's greater promiscuity]] and competitiveness.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Before_.27enforced_monogamy.27.2C_women.27s_effective_population_size_was_up_to_17x_larger_than_men.27s</ref>
'''Women depend on men's resources'''
Further, women prefer partnered men over single men which may be related to women's preference for high status, but may also be an adaption of women living in [[polygyny|harems]].<ref>http://digital.library.okstate.edu/etd/umi-okstate-2649.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022103109001048</ref><ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1660608/</ref> Men do not show such preferences.


[[File:poorcel2.png|thumb|right|Number of received messages by income bracket and age (OkCupid Blog). [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_prefer_men_with_high_income_and_high_educational_status|More information]].]]
[[File:poorcel2.png|thumb|right|Number of received messages by income bracket and age (OkCupid Blog). [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_prefer_men_with_high_income_and_high_educational_status|More information]].]]
As a result of being choosy, women are [[hypergamy|hypergamous]], meaning they tend to ''date up''. A woman tends to not only want a good partner, but one who is better than herself or better than other available partners or her current partner.
Having greater parental investment, women also evolved to be heavily dependent on men's resources.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref>
This preference ties into the natural [[Human dominance hierarchies|hierarchical organization in humans]].
This makes women extra choosy as the man not only needs to be attractive, but also a good provider.
Men do not care about women's socioeconomic status and achievements, but women care a lot about men's.<ref>ftp://repec.iza.org/RePEc/Discussionpaper/dp11933.pdf</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_feel_sexual_disgust_when_they_imagine_even_talking_to_an_unattractive_man</ref>
 
'''Principle of least interest'''
 
As a result of being more choosy, women having much more options to choose from as there are overall more men desiring women than vice-versa.<ref>Baumeister, R.F. and Tice, D.M., 2001. The social dimension of sex. Allyn & Bacon.</ref>
Men and women aim up to the same extent and few aim unrealistically high,<ref>https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/advances/4/8/eaap9815.full.pdf</ref>
but since men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, they more readily make compromises and eventually date down,<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref>
particularly if they experience frequent rejection.<ref>https://econtent.hogrefe.com/doi/abs/10.1027/1864-9335/a000392</ref>
In economics, this is called the ''principle of least interest'' as the party that has the least interest (women in this case) get to decide on the conditions of the contract as the other party more readily compromises having fewer alternative options of as high value to them.
Making compromises means dating down, so women get to ''date up'' ([[hypergamy]]).<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016748701630277X</ref><ref>https://d-nb.info/997448148/34</ref>
 
'''Bodyguard principle'''
 
Being physically weaker, women are believed to choose the most dominant male available to be protected from contenders (bodyguard hypothesis<ref>https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4615-5985-6_21</ref>) and to get access to high quality foods.<ref>http://web.simmons.edu/%7Eturnerg/MCC/Matechoice2PDF.pdf</ref> Especially when many women accumulate at the most dominant males (polygyny), it implies women tend to date up overall and there is a surplus of men at the bottom of the socioeconomic hierarchy without any sex.
In fact, female hypergamy agrees with evidence that humans are a moderately polygamous species. In the Ethnographic Atlas, of 1,231 societies noted, 588 had frequent polygyny, 453 had occasional polygyny, and only 186 were fully monogamous.<ref>http://eclectic.ss.uci.edu/~drwhite/worldcul/atlas.htm</ref>
Women may have reproduced twice as often as men throughout history as a result.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Before_.27enforced_monogamy.27.2C_women.27s_effective_population_size_was_up_to_17x_larger_than_men.27s</ref>
Women prefer partnered men over single men which may be related to women's preference for high status, but may also be an adaption of women living in [[polygyny|harems]].<ref>http://digital.library.okstate.edu/etd/umi-okstate-2649.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022103109001048</ref><ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1660608/</ref> Men do not show such preferences.
 
Women's preference for high status men ties into the [[Human dominance hierarchies|hierarchical organization in humans]].
Cross-culturally, men do not care about women's socioeconomic status and achievements, but women care a lot about men's.<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/29871054_International_Preferences_in_Selecting_Mates_A_Study_of_37_Cultures</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_.28and_men.29_pay_more_attention_to_high_status_men.2C_not_high_status_women</ref>
Women with higher income tend to have a preference for men with even higher income, while men have no such preferences.<ref>https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-psych-010418-103408</ref>
Women with higher income tend to have a preference for men with even higher income, while men have no such preferences.<ref>https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-psych-010418-103408</ref>
Women are 1,000 times choosier about a potential partner's wealth,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_1.2C000x_more_sensitive_than_men_to_economic_status_cues_when_rating_attractiveness</ref>
Women are 1,000 times choosier about a potential partner's wealth,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_1.2C000x_more_sensitive_than_men_to_economic_status_cues_when_rating_attractiveness</ref>
and they online dating profiles with a higher education than their own ''twice'' as often, and men with lower status ''half'' as often as men with equal status.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref>
and they like online dating profiles with a higher education status than their own ''twice'' as often, and men with lower status ''half'' as often as men with equal status.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref>
Women are twice as likely to marry up in income when they marry down in education<ref>https://ifstudies.org/blog/better-educated-women-still-prefer-higher-earning-husbands</ref>
Women are twice as likely to marry up in income when they marry down in education<ref>https://ifstudies.org/blog/better-educated-women-still-prefer-higher-earning-husbands</ref>
and women are prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S019188691500505X</ref>
and women are prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S019188691500505X</ref>
What is more, there is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status or marry men with lower income than their own, and preferring to remain single when they cannot date up or across the social hierarchy.<ref>https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6004239/High-flying-career-women-refusing-marry-despite-struggling-Mr-Right.html</ref><ref>https://www.edge.org/response-detail/26747</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_lose_mating_opportunities_with_higher_status.2C_men_gain_mating_opportunities</ref><ref>https://doi.org/10.1093/qje/qjv001</ref><ref>https://fee.org/articles/why-single-women-are-way-more-likely-to-own-a-home-than-single-men/</ref><ref>https://newsroom.wiley.com/press-release/journal-marriage-and-family/do-unmarried-women-face-shortages-partners-us-marriage-mar</ref><ref>https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.12603</ref>
What is more, there is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status or marry men with lower income than their own, and preferring to remain single when they cannot date up or across the social hierarchy.<ref>https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6004239/High-flying-career-women-refusing-marry-despite-struggling-Mr-Right.html</ref><ref>https://www.edge.org/response-detail/26747</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_lose_mating_opportunities_with_higher_status.2C_men_gain_mating_opportunities</ref><ref>https://doi.org/10.1093/qje/qjv001</ref><ref>https://fee.org/articles/why-single-women-are-way-more-likely-to-own-a-home-than-single-men/</ref><ref>https://newsroom.wiley.com/press-release/journal-marriage-and-family/do-unmarried-women-face-shortages-partners-us-marriage-mar</ref><ref>https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.12603</ref>
These findings suggest, as women are surpassing men in socioeconomic status, more men are becoming sexually unattractive.
These findings suggest, as women are surpassing men in socioeconomic status, more men are becoming sexually unattractive.
They also suggest, welfare and affirmative action for women, as well as decreasing economic growth and increasing economic inequality, tend to reduce the [[sexual market value]] of lots of men because provision of resources are men's main goods.
Women's sexual market value is, on the other hand, rather determined by their looks and their reputation of faithfulness (things that men desire).<ref>https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2018.03.011</ref>


'''Female fickleness'''
'''A rise of female hypergamy'''
 
Since women are constantly anxious about not having the best man available, they get bored with relationships and sex sooner,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref>
and women are more likely to initiate divorce across a wide variety of cultures<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_initiate_69.25_of_divorces</ref>
and have been in the US at least since year 1862.<ref>http://www.web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf</ref>
 
'''Female hypergamy explained by evolutionary psychology'''
 
In terms of evolutionary psychology, hypergamy and women's choosiness can be explained by sex differences in parental investment ([[Bateman's principle]]). This creates sex differences in sex drive with men being much more promiscuous maters and women evolving to be coy and dependent on men.
Being physically weaker, women are believed to choose the most dominant male available to be protected from contenders (bodyguard hypothesis<ref>https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4615-5985-6_21</ref>) and to get access to high quality foods.<ref>http://web.simmons.edu/%7Eturnerg/MCC/Matechoice2PDF.pdf</ref> Especially when many women accumulate at the most dominant males (polygyny), it implies women tend to date up overall and there is a surplus of men at the bottom of the socioeconomic hierarchy without any sex.
 
<!--Women want resources from men because women have been heavily dependent on men's resources throughout history.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref>
Men want sex and paternal certainty (a problem that women do not face).<ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12496732</ref>
 
In the sex market men can sell the resources and women can sell exclusive access to sex.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016748701630277X</ref><ref>https://d-nb.info/997448148/34</ref>
 
This results in women having much more options to choose from and in chronic sexual frustration for most men.<ref>Baumeister, R.F. and Tice, D.M., 2001. The social dimension of sex. Allyn & Bacon.</ref>
Men and women aim up to the same extent and few aim unrealistically high,<ref>https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/advances/4/8/eaap9815.full.pdf</ref>
but since men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, they more readily make compromises and eventually date down,<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref>
particularly if they experience frequent rejection.<ref>https://econtent.hogrefe.com/doi/abs/10.1027/1864-9335/a000392</ref>
 
This means, welfare and affirmative action for women, as well as decreasing economic growth and increasing economic inequality, tend to reduce the [[sexual market value]] of lots of men because provision of resources are men's main goods.
Women's sexual market value is, on the other hand, rather determined by their looks and their reputation of faithfulness (things that men desire).<ref>https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2018.03.011</ref>
The economic dynamics in such kind of sexual market are believed to also give rise hypergamy by the [[Hypergamy#Principle_of_least_interest|principle of least interest]],<ref>https://d-nb.info/997448148/34</ref>
and they also motivate different kinds of intrasexual competition for each sex and are thought to have fundamentally shaped psychological sex differences.<ref>http://doi.org/10.1002/9781119125563.evpsych113</ref>
-->
'''Female hypergamy has intensified'''


There is evidence that hypergamy has intensified in the recent years. The top 5-20% of men (i.e. "[[Chad|Chads]]") are now having more sex than before the sexual revolution.<ref>Harper CR, Dittus PJ, Leichliter JS, Aral, SO. Changes in the Distribution of Sex Partners in the United States: 2002 to 2011–2013. Sexually Transmitted Diseases: February 2017 - Volume 44 - Issue 2 - p 96–100. doi: 10.1097/OLQ.0000000000000554</ref><ref>https://journals.lww.com/stdjournal/Fulltext/2017/02000/Changes_in_the_Distribution_of_Sex_Partners_in_the.5.aspx</ref>  
There is evidence that hypergamy has intensified in the recent years. The top 5-20% of men (i.e. "[[Chad|Chads]]") are now having more sex than before the sexual revolution.<ref>Harper CR, Dittus PJ, Leichliter JS, Aral, SO. Changes in the Distribution of Sex Partners in the United States: 2002 to 2011–2013. Sexually Transmitted Diseases: February 2017 - Volume 44 - Issue 2 - p 96–100. doi: 10.1097/OLQ.0000000000000554</ref><ref>https://journals.lww.com/stdjournal/Fulltext/2017/02000/Changes_in_the_Distribution_of_Sex_Partners_in_the.5.aspx</ref>  
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and overall also only a bit lower than men's, which is curious in light that women are much more likely to tolerate it (presumably because men can't have babies).<ref>https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196146/Why-affairs-unforgivable-Six-women-forgive-partner-strayed-twice.html</ref>
and overall also only a bit lower than men's, which is curious in light that women are much more likely to tolerate it (presumably because men can't have babies).<ref>https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196146/Why-affairs-unforgivable-Six-women-forgive-partner-strayed-twice.html</ref>
The more men date down, and the more partners are available e.g. through online dating and social networks, the choosier women become as they can choose from more options leading them to wait for the perceived opportunity for a partner of very high mate value. This results in men dating down even more out of frustration, possibly aggravating the situation and forming a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_feedback_loop positive feedback loop] in male sexual frustration and female choosiness.<ref>https://www.technologyreview.com/s/601909/how-tinder-feedback-loop-forces-men-and-women-into-extreme-strategies/</ref>
The more men date down, and the more partners are available e.g. through online dating and social networks, the choosier women become as they can choose from more options leading them to wait for the perceived opportunity for a partner of very high mate value. This results in men dating down even more out of frustration, possibly aggravating the situation and forming a [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_feedback_loop positive feedback loop] in male sexual frustration and female choosiness.<ref>https://www.technologyreview.com/s/601909/how-tinder-feedback-loop-forces-men-and-women-into-extreme-strategies/</ref>
'''Female fickleness'''
Women get bored with relationships and sex much sooner than men<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref>
which may be a result of women being more choosy and more readily finding flaws in their partners and of an anxiousness not having made the best partner choice possible.
As a result, women are more likely to initiate divorce across a wide variety of cultures (e.g. 2/3 of divorces are initiated by women in the U.S.)<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_initiate_69.25_of_divorces</ref>
and have been in the U.S. at least since year 1862.<ref>http://www.web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf</ref>


'''Female hypergamy — a summary'''
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