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'''Game''' is [[PUA|pick-up-artist]] lingo for the skillful manipulation of mental states ("frame")<ref>https://www.diaryfrenchpua.com/english/the-concept-of-frame-seduction/</ref> to help with [[courtship]] and seduction.<ref>https://www.pualingo.com/game/</ref> | '''Game''' is [[PUA|pick-up-artist]] lingo for the skillful manipulation of mental states ("frame")<ref>https://www.diaryfrenchpua.com/english/the-concept-of-frame-seduction/</ref> to help with [[courtship]] and seduction.<ref>https://www.pualingo.com/game/</ref> In practice, game means different things to different pick-up artists, but all use 'game' as part of a broader meritocratic philosophy of gamifying life, complete with 'winners' and 'losers'.<ref>https://www.pualingo.com/game/</ref> Among major [[PUA]]s 'successful game' is mostly about '[[CBT|self-induced self-esteem]]'. Smaller [[PUA]]s include showing-off or fabricating accomplishments in general as 'successful game' quite often. | ||
Around the mid-2000s PUA lingo entered colloquial speech through the adoption of modified PUA tactics by the general public, Hollywood, dating coaches etc. | Around the mid-2000s PUA lingo entered colloquial speech through the adoption of modified PUA tactics by the general public, Hollywood, dating coaches etc. Colloquially, game is about [[confidence]], [[charisma|charm]] and [[Beauty#Beautiful_behavior|smoothness]] in showing off, much like courtship is presented in many Hollywood films.<ref>https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Game</ref> Or even more broadly and colloquially, "game", is shorthand for any type of non-arranged [[seduction]] activity.<ref>https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Game Trick Turner definition and others</ref> | ||
''Frame'' is a pseudo-scientific concept used to refer to mental conditions that "give direction" to everything that happens in an social interaction (including dating) and which a man with game can skillfully manipulate to his advantage.<ref name="pua">https://www.diaryfrenchpua.com/english/the-concept-of-frame-seduction/</ref> | ''Frame'' is a pseudo-scientific concept used to refer to mental conditions that "give direction" to everything that happens in an social interaction (including dating) and which a man with game can skillfully manipulate to his advantage.<ref name="pua">https://www.diaryfrenchpua.com/english/the-concept-of-frame-seduction/</ref> | ||
==Neil Strauss== | ==Neil Strauss== | ||
In 2005, [[Neil Strauss]] published, "The Game", which is described as pushing [[PUA]] in the mainstream.<ref>https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2015/10/neil-strauss-the-game/409789/</ref> | In 2005, [[Neil Strauss]] published, "The Game", which is described as pushing [[PUA]] in the mainstream.<ref>https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2015/10/neil-strauss-the-game/409789/</ref> | ||
In it Strauss describes game as boldness, speech patterns, standing out, smiling, awareness of surroundings, not using questions, love, and being able to take compliments.<ref>https://calvinrosser.com/notes/the-game-neil-strauss/</ref> | In it Strauss describes game as boldness, speech patterns, standing out, smiling, awareness of surroundings, not using questions, love, and being able to take compliments.<ref>https://calvinrosser.com/notes/the-game-neil-strauss/</ref> | ||
==RSD Nation== | ==RSD Nation== | ||
[[Real Social Dynamics|RSD Nation]] were arguably the most influential in formalizing, "game", in the [[PUA]] community. Perhaps because they were the largest PUA group in history. They argued that looks and money did not matter in dating, and that only 'game' did. RSD Nation promoted, "natural game", and defined it as changing, "how you expect the world to respond to you".<ref>https://archive.org/stream/pdfy-ExC5kZNMZrSkYanb/RSD-National-Blueprint-Decoded-NOTES_djvu.txt</ref> This boils down to thinking positively about yourself to make others do the same. In general, RSD nation promoted game as a [[neoliberal]] or highly individualistic self-actualization project, such as literally asking people to read Ayn Rand to develop game.<ref>https://archive.org/stream/pdfy-ExC5kZNMZrSkYanb/RSD-National-Blueprint-Decoded-NOTES_djvu.txt</ref> Unnatural game, promoted by followers of [[RooshV]], rather than RSD, was about "becoming the best man you can be", rather than thinking-it-to-fruition.<ref>https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-41952.html?__cf_chl_jschl_tk__=8b7ca1dc0307f0efabe8521e348d3c2d1d26b13d-1582292509-0-Acoi0SVAM85D4ov45_jTeJOi1OGskYx97wH3rp2N_lCJyM6uuoqaCIeu_J-WQD90ra8pE6-R8ahfBzP8GR8mp7Fk6F-1bFRBSCpWj9VfvmekZAr3zaIgeaSeh1tx8qjA5shX4_J_2PjtukwMQ9YfhDXOURrgBTMLwbiBP32XOOOhtyGjiuFIMbZNbh11YheOIN67EOqaPsKzZ7KwybCLku8Kv27Mk0yFjyEkxAJDDegrSwwMc6xtYu2Bx833Lw7AHHmfUP8r_wbAQOwH0Cz6vkjlo3EdJdADfySoafrn-x0M</ref> | |||
[[Real Social Dynamics|RSD Nation]] were arguably the most influential in formalizing, "game", in the [[PUA]] community. | |||
== Ineffectiveness == | == Ineffectiveness == | ||
Multiple studies on face-to-face, [[online dating|online]] and [[blind dating]] concluded that among a variety of physical and personality traits, including extroversion, ''only physical attractiveness'' predicted initial romantic interest and strongly so.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> Since game should correlate with extroversion and confidence and such traits did not predict romantic interest or meeting again after the first date, this suggests game is largely ineffective in such settings as only looks matter. One of the first studies on this phenomenon dates back to 1966,<ref name="walster"></ref> which suggests superficiality in face-to-face dating at zero-acquaintance level is not a new phenomenon. | Multiple studies on face-to-face, [[online dating|online]] and [[blind dating]] concluded that among a variety of physical and personality traits, including extroversion, ''only physical attractiveness'' predicted initial romantic interest and strongly so.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> Since game should correlate with extroversion and confidence and such traits did not predict romantic interest or meeting again after the first date, this suggests game is largely ineffective in such settings as only looks matter. One of the first studies on this phenomenon dates back to 1966,<ref name="walster"></ref> which suggests superficiality in face-to-face dating at zero-acquaintance level is not a new phenomenon. | ||
Similarly, when OkCupid asked users to rate looks and personality separately, users did not distinguish between the two.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Your_looks_define_perception_of_your_personality_in_online_dating</ref> | Similarly, when OkCupid asked users to rate looks and personality separately, users did not distinguish between the two.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Your_looks_define_perception_of_your_personality_in_online_dating</ref> To confirm their hypothesis that pictures were what people were rating as good personality, OkCupid followed up with another internal study which showed that online bio text accounts for less than 10% of what users think of the profiles.<ref>https://archive.li/QNCbf</ref> This means ''game'' in terms of witty and confident textual self-descriptions is also largely ineffective. | ||
Meeting online is notably now the primary way couples get to know each other,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Meeting_online_is_now_the_primary_way_relationships_are_formed</ref> however, this includes meeting up through social networks and chats, where personality may play a larger role than in the blind and semi-blind dating. | Meeting online is notably now the primary way couples get to know each other,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Meeting_online_is_now_the_primary_way_relationships_are_formed</ref> however, this includes meeting up through social networks and chats, where personality may play a larger role than in the blind and semi-blind dating. | ||
==Effectiveness== | ==Effectiveness== | ||
Arguably, game in terms of charm, social skill and Machiavellian behavior may be effective outside of the face-to-face dating context, e.g. during socializing in a group, which is the more natural human mating context anyhow.<ref>https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1474704919887706</ref> In a social context, confidence, charm and related social skills may act as means of gaining [[dominance hierarchy|social status]] and intimidating other males in [[intrasexual competition]]s which, in turn, enables men access to women.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men.27s_social_status_accounts_for_62.25_of_the_variance_of_copulation_opportunities</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Among_male_university_students.2C_only_cues_of_physical_dominance_over_other_men_predicted_their_mating_success</ref> This intuition is perhaps what misleads PUAs to believe related behavior would be an effective dating strategy in the face-to-face setting. | Arguably, game in terms of charm, social skill and Machiavellian behavior may be effective outside of the face-to-face dating context, e.g. during socializing in a group, which is the more natural human mating context anyhow.<ref>https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1474704919887706</ref> In a social context, confidence, charm and related social skills may act as means of gaining [[dominance hierarchy|social status]] and intimidating other males in [[intrasexual competition]]s which, in turn, enables men access to women.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men.27s_social_status_accounts_for_62.25_of_the_variance_of_copulation_opportunities</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Among_male_university_students.2C_only_cues_of_physical_dominance_over_other_men_predicted_their_mating_success</ref> This intuition is perhaps what misleads PUAs to believe related behavior would be an effective dating strategy in the face-to-face setting. | ||
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However, despite looks being crucial in the zero-acquaintance setting and [[halo effect|unattractive individuals facing a number of impediments]], looks are also only very weakly correlated with lifetime sexual success,<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320299645_The_challenge_of_starting_and_keeping_a_relationship_Prevalence_rates_and_predictors_of_poor_mating_performance</ref> | However, despite looks being crucial in the zero-acquaintance setting and [[halo effect|unattractive individuals facing a number of impediments]], looks are also only very weakly correlated with lifetime sexual success,<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320299645_The_challenge_of_starting_and_keeping_a_relationship_Prevalence_rates_and_predictors_of_poor_mating_performance</ref> | ||
however, looks ''do'' matter somewhat in terms of {{W|assortative mating}} as attractiveness ratings within couples (both short and long-term) are moderately correlated (r = .4), meaning very attractive people rarely mate with very unattractive ones.<ref>https://dor.org/10.1037/0033-2909.104.2.226</ref> | however, looks ''do'' matter somewhat in terms of {{W|assortative mating}} as attractiveness ratings within couples (both short and long-term) are moderately correlated (r = .4), meaning very attractive people rarely mate with very unattractive ones.<ref>https://dor.org/10.1037/0033-2909.104.2.226</ref> | ||
==Other studies on frame-projection== | ==Other studies on frame-projection== | ||
=== Humor === | === Humor === | ||
A study claimed that humor was seen as a desirable long-term-partner trait in men by women, but only if the man is good looking.<ref>https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1475-6811.1998.tb00174.x</ref> A different study found self-deprecating humor by high-status presenters (but not low-status presenters) increased long-term attractiveness for both sexes.<ref>https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490800600303</ref> | A study claimed that humor was seen as a desirable long-term-partner trait in men by women, but only if the man is good looking.<ref>https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1475-6811.1998.tb00174.x</ref> A different study found self-deprecating humor by high-status presenters (but not low-status presenters) increased long-term attractiveness for both sexes.<ref>https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490800600303</ref> | ||
=== Clothing === | === Clothing === | ||
{{main_article|[[Fashion]]}} | {{main_article|[[Fashion]]}} | ||
Clothing is a way to display [[frame (PUA)|frame]] (if we're to take this term seriously) on both [[online dating]] and [[offline dating]]. | Clothing is a way to display [[frame (PUA)|frame]] (if we're to take this term seriously) on both [[online dating]] and [[offline dating]]. | ||
== See also == | == See also == | ||
* [[Courtship]] | * [[Courtship]] | ||
* [[Beauty]] | * [[Beauty]] | ||
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* [[Offline dating]] | * [[Offline dating]] | ||
*[[Neoliberalism]] | *[[Neoliberalism]] | ||
*[[Frame (dating)]] | |||
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