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"The white of the eye permits us to perceive signals of others accurately: reaction of a young Indian woman to a compliment—affection and timidity are juxtaposed. From a 50 frames/second 16 mm film (Figure 4.45)."<ref name="ethology"></ref><ref>https://web.archive.org/web/*/http://evolution.anthro.univie.ac.at:80/ishe/images/coy.gif</ref></p>}} | "The white of the eye permits us to perceive signals of others accurately: reaction of a young Indian woman to a compliment—affection and timidity are juxtaposed. From a 50 frames/second 16 mm film (Figure 4.45)."<ref name="ethology"></ref><ref>https://web.archive.org/web/*/http://evolution.anthro.univie.ac.at:80/ishe/images/coy.gif</ref></p>}} | ||
'''Courtship''' is the demonstration of one's genetic quality to the opposite sex in order to be [[sexual selection|selected]] for reproduction. In many animals this involves the display of ornamental traits that are under [[Fisherian runaway|runaway sexual selection]] | '''Courtship''' is the demonstration of one's genetic quality to the opposite sex in order to be [[sexual selection|selected]] for reproduction. In many animals this involves the display of ornamental traits that are under [[Fisherian runaway|runaway sexual selection]], especially with the male animals displaying such traits to the more choosy females. | ||
Throughout human history, [[arranged marriage]] was the dominant form of mating rather than free mate-choice with direct courtship, which may explain why it is somewhat [[social awkwardness|awkward]] for most. Though where courtship happens, it tends to take on very primal characteristics due to [[ | In humans, male courtship rather consists in [[costly signaling]] of the willingness and ability to provide resources as women depend on them,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> whereas the female makes promises of sexual exclusivity.<ref>https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-53145-010</ref> | ||
Throughout human history, [[arranged marriage]] was the dominant form of mating rather than free mate-choice with direct courtship, which may explain why it is somewhat [[social awkwardness|awkward]] for most. Though where courtship happens, it tends to take on very primal characteristics due to women's [[lordosis|backward]] sexuality. | |||
[[Romance]] is particularly costly male courtship display with emphasis on [[political correctness]] and [[beauty#Beautiful_behavior|beauty]]. | [[Romance]] is particularly costly male courtship display with emphasis on [[political correctness]] and [[beauty#Beautiful_behavior|beauty]]. | ||
== | == Parental investment == | ||
In many species, the females are more coy because they have more [[Bateman's principle|parental investment]], hence the males need to be more actively advertise themselves to the opposite sex. This also applies to humans, in fact, ethnologist [[Irenäus Eibl-Eibesfeldt]] observed that courtship in terms of flirting and female coyness is prevalent and pretty much the same the world over.<ref name="ethology">Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 2017. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref><ref>http://doi.org/10.1080/00224490903402520</ref> | In many species, the females are more coy because they have more [[Bateman's principle|parental investment]], hence the males need to be more actively advertise themselves to the opposite sex. This also applies to humans, in fact, ethnologist [[Irenäus Eibl-Eibesfeldt]] observed that courtship in terms of flirting and female coyness is prevalent and pretty much the same the world over.<ref name="ethology">Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 2017. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref><ref>http://doi.org/10.1080/00224490903402520</ref> | ||
Using his [[charm]], he was able to elicit the "[[sex drive#Female_passivity|coy]] glance" in girls around the world (see figure). | Using his [[charm]], he was able to elicit the "[[sex drive#Female_passivity|coy]] glance" in girls around the world (see figure). | ||
By virtue of their greater inward-orientation and sexual passiveness, human females engage in courtship display to a lesser extent, and | By virtue of their greater inward-orientation and sexual passiveness, human females engage in courtship display to a lesser extent, and largely in shape of presenting their [[beauty|curves]] and [[neoteny]] enhanced by [[fakeup|makeup]] and related means of arousing attention. In fact, contrary to other animals, where the females primarily select male's ornament, this aspect appears to be reversed in humans, with men finding great interest in the well-developed female breast, though women's breasts may also rather have evolved as a means of ensuring men's long-term investment. | ||
== Personality == | == Personality == | ||
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What can be achieved by personality traits like confidence/extroversion, niceness etc. ("[[game]]") during courtship seems to be highly overrated as research indicates initial romantic interest is mainly about looks and that personality traits do not play any role.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> Furthermore, access to women is thought to be largely determined by [[dominance hierarchy|dominance status]] among males as determined by [[LMS|looks, resources, status]], [[IQ|competence]], [[neurotypical]]ity etc, rather than direct courtship.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men.27s_social_status_accounts_for_62.25_of_the_variance_of_copulation_opportunities</ref> | What can be achieved by personality traits like confidence/extroversion, niceness etc. ("[[game]]") during courtship seems to be highly overrated as research indicates initial romantic interest is mainly about looks and that personality traits do not play any role.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> Furthermore, access to women is thought to be largely determined by [[dominance hierarchy|dominance status]] among males as determined by [[LMS|looks, resources, status]], [[IQ|competence]], [[neurotypical]]ity etc, rather than direct courtship.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men.27s_social_status_accounts_for_62.25_of_the_variance_of_copulation_opportunities</ref> | ||
Human courtship hence mainly amounts to a [[Sex drive#Female_passivity|coy waiting time]] in which the female tests her suitor and gathers social information about his status | Human courtship hence mainly amounts to a [[Sex drive#Female_passivity|coy waiting time]] in which the female tests her suitor and gathers social information about his status,<ref name="tradeinfo">Wachtmeister, C.A. and Enquist, M., 1999. ''The evolution of female coyness–trading time for information.'' [[https://doi.org/10.1098/rspb.2008.1273 Abstract]]</ref><ref name="optimal">McNamara, J.M., Fromhage, L., Barta, Z. and Houston, A.I.. 2008. ''The optimal coyness game.'' [[https://doi.org/10.1046/j.1439-0310.1999.00487.x Abstract]]</ref><ref name="biobasis">Grammer K. 1989. ''Human courtship behaviour: biological basis and cognitive processing.'' In: Rasa, A.E., Vogel, C. and Voland,E. (eds.): The Sociobiology of Sexual and Reproductive Strategies Chapmann and Hall,1989, New York. [[https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/8eab/95d1298b5165b84872c533f4f46a7805a0e4.pdf FullText]]</ref> which can either be overcome by waiting or coercion in shape of marriage or physical force. | ||
Women | Women may be a bit less coy if the man is good looking and sexy because potentially better looking and/or healthier offspring will make up for any potential flaws regarding character or resource provision,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#The_attractiveness_gap_in_a_couple_predicts_how_long_they_wait_before_engaging_in_sex</ref> | ||
which may be either explained by the [[sexy sons hypothesis]] or by the [[good genes hypothesis]]. | which may be either explained by the [[sexy sons hypothesis]] or by the [[good genes hypothesis]]. | ||
But anecdotal evidence suggests most women make even good looking men wait (though perhaps shorter), with women with a fast [[life history]] predisposition generally waiting less. | But anecdotal evidence suggests most women make even good looking men wait (though perhaps shorter), with women with a fast [[life history]] predisposition generally waiting less. | ||
The only male personality traits that do seem to matter are dark personality traits such as psychopathy.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Personality</ref> This notion is corroborated by research by Eibl Eibesfeldt who concluded the male dominate/female surrender pattern in human sexuality may be a remnant of ancient courtship adaptations in which pair formation only succeeds when the male is able to [[mogging|dominate]] the female, a behavior that can be observed in many reptiles, birds, and mammals.<ref>Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 1989. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref> Though these are generally | The only male personality traits that do seem to matter are dark personality traits such as psychopathy.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Personality</ref> This notion is corroborated by research by Eibl Eibesfeldt who concluded the male dominate/female surrender pattern in human sexuality may be a remnant of ancient courtship adaptations in which pair formation only succeeds when the male is able to [[mogging|dominate]] the female, a behavior that can be observed in many reptiles, birds, and mammals.<ref>Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 1989. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref> Though these are generally fast [[life history]] traits and does not apply to all women to the same degree. | ||
Besides (non-agressive) dominance, the ideal and natural mating strategy strategy appears to be to blend in and socialize. [[Autism|Autists]] are heavily disadvantaged in this regard as they have difficulties producing spontaneous and appropriate facial expressions and other social signals,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Autists_are_judged_as_awkward.2C_less_physically_attractive_and_less_approachable_within_seconds</ref> | |||
which appears weird to others, stands out, is a threat to the reputation of the group, and may be an instance of the [[wikipedia:Behavioral_immune_system|behavioral immune system]]. | |||
== Expensiveness of courtship == | == Expensiveness of courtship == | ||
By withholding sex, women can exploit men's sexual frustration to get more investment, commitment, and more expensive (e.g. [[romance|romantic]]) courtship display. The more the man invests in a woman, the more valuable she will appear,<ref name="ethology"></ref> as a result of the sunk cost fallacy.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpnxd31y0Fo</ref> By playing coy, downplaying their attraction and deferring sex, women can hence trick men into more commitment and reliable resource provision. | By withholding sex, women can exploit men's sexual frustration to get more investment, commitment, and more expensive (e.g. [[romance|romantic]]) courtship display, such as gifting an expensive ring, organizing an expensive wedding or relinquishing other enterprise in favor of spending time with the woman. The more the man invests in a woman, the more valuable she will appear,<ref name="ethology"></ref> as a result of the sunk cost fallacy.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpnxd31y0Fo</ref> By playing coy, downplaying their attraction and deferring sex, women can hence trick men into more commitment and reliable resource provision. | ||
== Ornament == | == Ornament == | ||