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[[File:67.jpg|thumb|right|What [[Wikipedia Incel Article|Wikipedia]] thinks incels want vs. what incels actually want.<br>Doubles as what women want vs. what men want.]] | [[File:67.jpg|thumb|right|What [[Wikipedia Incel Article|Wikipedia]] thinks incels want vs. what incels actually want.<br>Doubles as what women want vs. what men want.]] | ||
[[File:fragilebigots2.png|thumb|right|Incels are the vanguard of tearing down gender roles]] | [[File:fragilebigots2.png|thumb|right|Incels are the vanguard of tearing down gender roles]] | ||
'''Incel''' is a [[Donnelly Study#Incel is Now a Valid Academic Sociological Term|sociological term]] that is short for '''involuntary celibacy''', | '''Incel''' is a [[Donnelly Study#Incel is Now a Valid Academic Sociological Term|sociological term]] that is short for '''involuntary celibacy''', a common life circumstance.<ref>journal|title=Involuntary Celibacy: A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>journal|A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref> Inceldom is recognized as a medical disability in some countries and by the World Health Organization.<ref>https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF</ref><ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20170503151557/https://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/04/news/04iht-sex_.html</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Netherlands_Government%27s_Model_for_Combatting_Inceldom</ref> | ||
The condition of being ''incel'' is a certain kind of [[nonsexualities|nonsexuality]]. | The condition of being ''incel'' is a certain kind of [[nonsexualities|nonsexuality]]. | ||
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{{main_article|[[Demographics]]}} | {{main_article|[[Demographics]]}} | ||
Assuming incel to be defined very broadly such that all | The vast majority of men are not asexual or aromantic, so most men that have never been in a relationship are circumstantially lonely rather than because of preference. According to the Center for Disease Control, most Americans have penis-and-vagina intercourse by age 17.<ref>http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf</ref> Assuming incel to be defined very broadly such that all lifelong single men are incels, then this includes [[demographics of inceldom#Numbers|15-30% of 18-30 year old American men]], a third of which are 18-20 year old American men. Since a very large share of men who have not had any romantic experiences by age twenty will end up doing so at later time, only a minority of these people are likely actually "involuntarily celibate" in the strictest definitions of the term. A better estimate would look at only older heterosexual men. The same CDC report says that 10% of American men age 24 report having no sexual experience. In Japan, a more extreme case, 25% of men over the age of 30 are virgins.<ref>http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/japan/11662500/Rise-of-Japans-middle-aged-virgins-a-quarter-of-over-30s-have-never-had-sex.html</ref> It's thus possible, then, that most 30-year old American or Japenese men have an incel male acquaintance, even if that acquaintance doesn't personally identify as such. | ||
Incels are politically diverse.<ref>https://www.reddit.com/r/askanincel/comments/dn62od/political_leanings/?sort=new</ref> | Incels are politically diverse.<ref>https://www.reddit.com/r/askanincel/comments/dn62od/political_leanings/?sort=new</ref> Some incels believe in the [[bluepill]], [[purplepill]], [[blackpill]], or the [[redpill]], while others do not subscribe to any pills. The most common shared beliefs among ''self-identified'' incels are [[determinism|hard determinism]] and that most claimed [[femcel|female incels]] are [[volcel|voluntary celibates]] because of [[libido|men's higher sex drive]]. | ||
Some incels believe in the [[bluepill]], [[purplepill]], [[blackpill]], or the [[redpill]], while others do not subscribe to any pills. The most common shared beliefs among ''self-identified'' incels are [[determinism|hard determinism]] and that most [[femcel|female incels]] are [[volcel|voluntary celibates]] | |||
Polls on [[Braincels]] and [[incels.co]] show that whites constitute only half the forum populations, with East | Incels are also racially and ethnically diverse. Polls on [[Braincels]] and [[incels.co]] show that whites constitute only half the forum populations, with East Asian and Indian users being over-represented among Americans (see [[demographics#Race|Demographics § Race]]). | ||
Other facts gleaned about self-surveyed incels.co users include: | Other facts gleaned about self-surveyed incels.co users include: | ||
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*77% report being a healthy weight or underweight (only 23% report being overweight, which is far less than the general American population average). | *77% report being a healthy weight or underweight (only 23% report being overweight, which is far less than the general American population average). | ||
*57% report receiving a medical diagnosis labeling them as non-neurotypical or as having a physical disability that impairs their normal daily functions. | *57% report receiving a medical diagnosis labeling them as non-neurotypical or as having a physical disability that impairs their normal daily functions. | ||
==Adverse effects of inceldom== | ==Adverse effects of inceldom== | ||
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{{main_article|[[Adverse effects of inceldom]]}} | {{main_article|[[Adverse effects of inceldom]]}} | ||
Incel life is miserable, especially for socially | Incel life is miserable, especially for the socially disconnected. Isolation and sexlessness are associated with various [[Scientific Blackpill#tocHealth|health risks]]. One study found that losing one's virginity after their mid 20s is associated with [[erectile dysfunction]] and [[anorgasmia]] later in life.<ref>http://web.archive.org/web/20170622044005/https://abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=3932047</ref> Another study found that delayed sexual activity "creates health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being."<ref>https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/78bmza/the-cost-of-losing-your-virginity-late</ref> Most incels consider their lack of romance one of the worst aspects of their lives, and it's sometimes described by them as the most negative effect of poverty or mental/physical disability. | ||
Another study found that delayed sexual activity "creates health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being."<ref>https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/78bmza/the-cost-of-losing-your-virginity-late</ref> | |||
==Life as an incel== | ==Life as an incel== | ||
Incel life is plagued by an [[masturbation|unending attempt]] to [[cope]] with one's sexual frustration. This frustration is exaggerated by highly sexualized social and mainstream media, causing incels to feel regret and [[sexual envy|envy]] about missed or unattainable opportunities for love and sex, | Incel life is plagued by an [[masturbation|unending attempt]] to [[cope]] with one's sexual frustration. This frustration is exaggerated by highly sexualized social and mainstream media, causing incels to feel regret and [[sexual envy|envy]] about missed or unattainable opportunities for love and sex, a feeling that [[sex drive#Sexual_regret|affects men more than women]]. The general public mostly favors that [[allosexual]] incels behave in a completely asexual manner, i.e. to suppress their sexual needs. Incels are generally completely discouraged from voicing their sexual concerns, expressing sexual desire or making sexual advances. | ||
When pressed, [[anti-incel|some]] members of the public will deny to incels that sex is a need at all, despite a majority of the public rating sex the most pleasurable, joyous, and meaningful regular life experience they have.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Sex_is_the_most_pleasurable.2C_joyous.2C_and_meaningful_human_experience</ref> Women find men who do not have sex less appealing, both as romantic partners and as friends.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_more_attracted_to_men_who_are_already_in_relationships_than_single_men</ref> Incels, regardless of whether or not they identify as such, are usually fully aware on some level that missing out on pair bonding greatly negatively affects their self esteem. | |||
==Can't an incel see a hooker?== | ==Can't an incel see a hooker?== | ||
{{main_article|[[Pussy cartel]]}} | {{main_article|[[Pussy cartel]]}} | ||
As with the general public, incels cannot generally afford regular visits by prostitutes, and seeing a prostitute comes with various legal and health risks that can be prohibitive depending on where the incel lives. Most importantly, frequenting [[prostitutes]] or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without mutual affection when without money. [[escortcel]]s frequently characterize prostitution as an incomplete sexual experience, as it lacks sexual validation, a key component of most relationships. It is also not accompanied by the status- and self-esteem-elevating experience of being selected as a partner. Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the [[side effects of inceldom]], but it would never permit incels to fulfill the romantic experience of real sexual relationships. All of this being the case, more incels would see prostitutes if they were legal. | |||
[[escortcel]]s frequently characterize prostitution as an incomplete sexual experience, as it lacks sexual validation. It is also not accompanied by the status- and self-esteem-elevating experience of being selected | |||
Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the [[side effects of inceldom]], but it | |||
'''The majority of incels want genuine companionship.''' | '''The majority of incels want genuine companionship.''' | ||
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==Love-shy vs. | ==Love-shy vs. Incel== | ||
{{main_article|[[Love-shy]]}} | {{main_article|[[Love-shy]]}} | ||
Being [[Love-shy|love-shy]] means fear of engaging in or attempting to start romantic or sexual [[relationship]]s. It is possible for a person to be both incel and [[love-shy]], and many are to a certain degree. For instance, | Being [[Love-shy|love-shy]] means fear of engaging in or attempting to start romantic or sexual [[relationship]]s. It is possible for a person to be both incel and [[love-shy]], and many are to a certain degree. For instance, it is common for incels to suffer large numbers of negative courting experiences, and eventually become [[love-shy]] and unable to approach. Love-shyness can sometimes even persist after an incel succeeds in becoming more sexually attractive. Despite this, love-shyness is usually not considered a reason in of itself for inceldom if it is unaccompanied by other factors. | ||
==Incelosphere== | ==Incelosphere== | ||
{{main_article|[[Incelosphere]]}} | {{main_article|[[Incelosphere]]}} | ||
There are a loosely connected set of websites and forums wherein people gather to discuss being romantically unsuccessful, not all of which use incel terminology or portray themselves as "incel forums". Those who visit these sites are affectionately referred to as [[cybercel]]s or incelospherians. This network of online communities wherein people experiencing inceldom gather is sometimes called the [[incelosphere]]. | |||
Frequenters of the [[incelosphere]] are unrepresentative of inceldom as a whole, as the vast majority of incels do not participate in these forums. For example, there are millions of American men over the age of 35 with no sexual experience, a large portion of which could be described as "involuntarily celibate", but no incelosphere forum comes close to reaching this membership. This is for several reasons, but the largest one is probably popular portrayal of incels as extremely violent and misogynistic. The [[incelosphere]] constitutes the segment of inceldom that is sociable enough to have a proclivity for joining these online communities and choose to do so despite the strong negative sentiment against them. | |||
[[Incelosphere#Concurrent|Click here for a full list of active incel forums.]] | [[Incelosphere#Concurrent|Click here for a full list of active incel forums.]] | ||
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==Incelism== | ==Incelism== | ||
{{main_article|[[:Category:Incelists|List of incelists]]}} | {{main_article|[[:Category:Incelists|List of incelists]]}} | ||
Incelism is any sort of activism that attempts to solve involuntary celibacy on a societal scale. | Incelism is any sort of activism that attempts to solve involuntary celibacy on a societal scale. An ''incelist'' is someone who advocates on behalf of incels. Some of these efforts include: | ||
*Larger public spending on mental health resources, with specific help for mentally ill people navigating courtship. | |||
*Advocating for socially arranged partnerships. | |||
*Increasing public acknowledgement and consciousness of the halo effect, and the privileges of the sexually attractive. | |||
*Supporting wealth redistribution from the beautiful to the ugly, or rich to the poor. | |||
*Support for public subsidization of plastic surgery, a practice with obvious positive externalities. | |||
*Greater acceptance of male makeup, fashion, and grooming, so that naturally ugly men have better prospects. | |||
*Large-scale improvements in male sexual attractiveness via exercise or date coaching. | |||
*Socially encouraging men to keep sexual standards, and discouraging casual sex in general. | |||
*Calling out the practice of polygyny, especially inadvertent or unannounced polygyny, and cheating. | |||
*Helping men migrate out of areas with unnaturally lopsided gender ratios. | |||
==Chadsplanation== | ==Chadsplanation== | ||
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==Special types of incels== | ==Special types of incels== | ||
{{cel_see_also|inline}} | Incels are often divided into categories via a term preceding suffix -cel, where the precedent indicates the reason for their sexlessness. There are many of these terms, and since sexual unattractiveness can be a result of many things at once, an incel can be apart of several of these categories at once. Not all of these categories necessarily fixed lifelong problems and some are even self-imposed. Incels also often disagree on which of these statuses represent actual sexual disadvantage, so some articles may contradict each other.{{cel_see_also|inline}} | ||
==Synonyms for incels== | ==Synonyms for incels== | ||
The term "incel" is now politically charged, but there are, of course, many other words and phrases with exactly or nearly the same meaning. For the mass noun version of synonyms, click on [[synonyms of inceldom]]. For gender-specific words see [[mancel]] or [[femcel]]. Synonyms of incel include: | |||
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