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[[File:Prideflag.png|thumb|right|<center>[[Incel pride flag|Inceldom pride flag]]</center>]] | [[File:Prideflag.png|thumb|right|<center>[[Incel pride flag|Inceldom pride flag]]</center>]] | ||
[[File:67.jpg|thumb|right|What [[Wikipedia Incel Article|Wikipedia]] thinks incels want vs. what incels actually want <br> | [[File:67.jpg|thumb|right|What [[Wikipedia Incel Article|Wikipedia]] thinks incels want vs. what incels actually want.<br>Doubles as what women want vs. what men want.]] | ||
[[File:fragilebigots2.png|thumb|right|Incels are the vanguard of tearing down gender roles]] | [[File:fragilebigots2.png|thumb|right|Incels are the vanguard of tearing down gender roles]] | ||
'''Incel''' is a [[Donnelly Study#Incel is Now a Valid Academic Sociological Term|sociological term]] that is short for '''involuntary celibacy''', defined in academia as a common life circumstance.<ref>journal|title=Involuntary Celibacy: A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>journal|A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref> Inceldom is recognized as a medical disability in some countries and by the World Health Organization.<ref>https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF</ref><ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20170503151557/https://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/04/news/04iht-sex_.html</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Netherlands_Government%27s_Model_for_Combatting_Inceldom</ref> | '''Incel''' is a [[Donnelly Study#Incel is Now a Valid Academic Sociological Term|sociological term]] that is short for '''involuntary celibacy''', defined in academia as a common life circumstance.<ref>journal|title=Involuntary Celibacy: A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>journal|A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html|journal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=</ref><ref>encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451</ref><ref>Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). "Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework". Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155</ref><ref>Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref><ref>Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.</ref> Inceldom is recognized as a medical disability in some countries and by the World Health Organization.<ref>https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF</ref><ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20170503151557/https://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/04/news/04iht-sex_.html</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Netherlands_Government%27s_Model_for_Combatting_Inceldom</ref> | ||
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The [[Donnelly]] Study defined incels as adults who fail to find a sexual partner for six months or more without choosing so. | The [[Donnelly]] Study defined incels as adults who fail to find a sexual partner for six months or more without choosing so. | ||
There remains disagreement about whether this definition is appropriate due to conceivable loopholes. For example, [[Bluepill|Bluepillers]] often argue in bad faith about such definitions and say male incels could simply have gay sex or pay for a prostitute and, therefore, they are [[volcel|volcels]] and incels don't exist. Hence, a definition in good faith would include an addition that incels are adults who are overwhelmingly rejected by the ''members of the sex they are sexually attracted to''. | There remains disagreement about whether this definition is appropriate due to conceivable loopholes. For example, [[Bluepill|Bluepillers]] often argue in bad faith about such definitions and say male incels could simply have gay sex or pay for a prostitute and, therefore, they are [[volcel|volcels]] and incels don't exist. Hence, a definition in good faith would include an addition that incels are adults who are overwhelmingly ''romantically'' rejected by the ''members of the sex they are sexually attracted to''. | ||
On incel forums, [[gatekeeping]] and infighting about who counts as incel is common. | On incel forums, [[gatekeeping]] and infighting about who counts as incel is common. | ||
[[Uglycel]]s complain that [[love-shy]]s and [[standardcel]]s simply lack ''will'' to find a partner. | [[Uglycel]]s complain that [[love-shy]]s and [[standardcel]]s simply lack ''will'' to find a partner. | ||
In an effort to weed out standardcels, some incel forums reject incels who have not seriously and repeatedly attempted dating. | In an effort to weed out standardcels, some incel forums reject incels who have not seriously and repeatedly attempted dating. | ||
In doing so, however, they | In doing so, however, they inadvertently marginalize non-standard mentalcels. | ||
This is the source of a lot of conflict in the [[incelosphere]]. A solution to this longstanding conflict would be an incel definition that rejects [[standardcel]]s but includes non-[[standardcel]] [[mentalcel]]s as incel. This has been formalized before, but has not been popularized or adopted yet by any major forum, perhaps because of the effort required in enforcing such a complicated definition. | This is the source of a lot of conflict in the [[incelosphere]]. A solution to this longstanding conflict would be an incel definition that rejects [[standardcel]]s but includes non-[[standardcel]] [[mentalcel]]s as incel. This has been formalized before, but has not been popularized or adopted yet by any major forum, perhaps because of the effort required in enforcing such a complicated definition. | ||
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Frequenting [[prostitutes]] or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual, romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance/sociability, but not without money. | Frequenting [[prostitutes]] or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual, romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance/sociability, but not without money. | ||
As with the general public, incels cannot generally afford regular visits by prostitutes, and seeing a prostitute comes with various legal and health risks that can be prohibitive depending on where the incel lives. | As with the general public, incels cannot generally afford regular visits by prostitutes, and seeing a prostitute comes with various legal and health risks that can be prohibitive depending on where the incel lives. | ||
[[escortcel]]s frequently characterize prostitution as an incomplete sexual experience, as it lacks sexual validation. It is also not accompanied by the status- and self-esteem-elevating experience of being selected for who one is. | |||
Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the [[side effects of inceldom]], but it does not permit them to fulfill the romantic experience of real sexual relationships | Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the [[side effects of inceldom]], but it does not permit them to fulfill the romantic experience of real sexual relationships. All of this being the case, more incels would see prostitutes if they were legal. | ||
'''The majority of incels want genuine companionship.''' | '''The majority of incels want genuine companionship.''' | ||
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*They will insist that sexual freedom is a sorting mechanism for [[male feminist|male feminists]], or good personalities like [[OJ Simpson]] and [[Jeremy Meeks]], and that your local [[wagecuck|grocery store bagger]] deserves to be an incel because of his political opinions or "entitlement". This is also known as the [[wikipedia:Appeal_to_nature|appeal to nature fallacy.]] | *They will insist that sexual freedom is a sorting mechanism for [[male feminist|male feminists]], or good personalities like [[OJ Simpson]] and [[Jeremy Meeks]], and that your local [[wagecuck|grocery store bagger]] deserves to be an incel because of his political opinions or "entitlement". This is also known as the [[wikipedia:Appeal_to_nature|appeal to nature fallacy.]] | ||
In reality, since inceldom is miserable for most self-identified incels, most have spent large amounts of time, money, and social capital researching and attempting sexual success. Simple attitude or outlook changes almost never succeed in | In reality, since inceldom is miserable for most self-identified incels, most have spent large amounts of time, money, and social capital researching and attempting sexual success. Simple attitude or outlook changes almost never succeed in helping ugly men find sexual partners. Commonly attempted remedies include showers, rigorous exercise, haircuts, cosmetology, skin/face treatments, feminist dating advice, manosphere dating advice, aggressive and nonaggressive courting strategies, income and status-maxxing, and even surgery. Unfortunately, as would be implied by the term "incel", these were not successful to the point that future attempts seem depressingly futile. | ||
==Incels in history== | ==Incels in history== | ||
{{main_article|[[Protocel]]s}} | {{main_article|[[Protocel]]s}} | ||
Since inceldom is a life circumstance or deprivation, as opposed to a modern internet based subculture, there have of course been many incels throughout human history. A famous story of historical inceldom is the tale of the [[bridenapping|rape]] of the Sabine women by the ancient Romans. | |||
According to Roman tradition, after the city of Rome was founded by the legendary Romulus, the city was originally inhabited by mainly male pioneers who had followed Romulus in establishing the city. Due to the lack of marriageable women, this lead to many Roman men becoming involuntarily celibate. The elders of Rome planned to redress this by sending diplomats to foreign tribes asking for arranged marriages between their women and Roman men. However, the neighboring tribes of the Romans deeply distrusted the Romans, and feared their ascendant power. This led to Romulus devising a ruse; where he established a festival (Consualia) dedicated to a newly discovered god named Consus. He then invited several neighboring tribes to attend this festival. The entire population of a neighboring tribe named the Sabines apparently attended the festival. Romulus had previously arranged with his men that, when he gave the signal during a feast attended by the Sabines, they would violently spring into action and abduct and run off with the Sabine women. This mass rape led to a war between the Romans and the Sabines, which concluded with a peace treaty being concluded between the Romans and the Sabines, (with the Sabine women acting as intermediary's between their new Roman husbands and their Sabine male relatives). This ultimately resulted in the two tribes being united under Roman rule. | According to Roman tradition, after the city of Rome was founded by the legendary Romulus, the city was originally inhabited by mainly male pioneers who had followed Romulus in establishing the city. Due to the lack of marriageable women, this lead to many Roman men becoming involuntarily celibate. The elders of Rome planned to redress this by sending diplomats to foreign tribes asking for arranged marriages between their women and Roman men. However, the neighboring tribes of the Romans deeply distrusted the Romans, and feared their ascendant power. This led to Romulus devising a ruse; where he established a festival (Consualia) dedicated to a newly discovered god named Consus. He then invited several neighboring tribes to attend this festival. The entire population of a neighboring tribe named the Sabines apparently attended the festival. Romulus had previously arranged with his men that, when he gave the signal during a feast attended by the Sabines, they would violently spring into action and abduct and run off with the Sabine women. This mass rape led to a war between the Romans and the Sabines, which concluded with a peace treaty being concluded between the Romans and the Sabines, (with the Sabine women acting as intermediary's between their new Roman husbands and their Sabine male relatives). This ultimately resulted in the two tribes being united under Roman rule. | ||