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Women's hypergamy is mainly a result of their higher [[Sexual selector|choosiness]], [[variability hypothesis|higher uniformity of sexual desire]], and men's [[Libido|higher sex drive]] and promiscuity. Men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, so they more readily make compromises and date down.<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref> Women's preference for high status men ties into the natural [[Dominance hierarchies|hierarchical social organization]] found in humans and female hypergamy is possibly a remnant of ancient [[courtship]] adaptations in which pair formation only succeeds when the male is able to [[mogging|dominate]] the female, a behavior that can be observed in many reptiles, birds, and mammals.<ref>Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 1989. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref> | Women's hypergamy is mainly a result of their higher [[Sexual selector|choosiness]], [[variability hypothesis|higher uniformity of sexual desire]], and men's [[Libido|higher sex drive]] and promiscuity. Men have fewer alternative mating options available to them, so they more readily make compromises and date down.<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref> Women's preference for high status men ties into the natural [[Dominance hierarchies|hierarchical social organization]] found in humans and female hypergamy is possibly a remnant of ancient [[courtship]] adaptations in which pair formation only succeeds when the male is able to [[mogging|dominate]] the female, a behavior that can be observed in many reptiles, birds, and mammals.<ref>Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 1989. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref> | ||
== | ==Causes of hypergamy== | ||
[[File:needs33.png|500x500px|right|thumb|The choosier sex (i.e. ''least interested'') gets to ''date up'']] | [[File:needs33.png|500x500px|right|thumb|The choosier sex (i.e. ''least interested'') gets to ''date up'']] | ||
=== | === Choosy, dependent women === | ||
Historically, women had to [[Bateman's principle|invest more]] into their offspring than men because pregnancy used to be physically risky,<ref>The maternal death rate used to be 1 in 100 births, but in modern societies it is around 10 / 100,000, so a hundred times lower. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternal_death#cite_note-47</ref> and by virtue of having a womb, women had more natural responsibility over children. | Historically, women had to [[Bateman's principle|invest more]] into their offspring than men because pregnancy used to be physically risky,<ref>The maternal death rate used to be 1 in 100 births, but in modern societies it is around 10 / 100,000, so a hundred times lower. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternal_death#cite_note-47</ref> and by virtue of having a womb, women had more natural responsibility over children. | ||
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As men are held more responsible economically, more men than women are expected to completely fail in life due to [[Matthew effect]]s. As women avoid such loser males due to their thirst for resources and status in men, it means women tend to date up. | As men are held more responsible economically, more men than women are expected to completely fail in life due to [[Matthew effect]]s. As women avoid such loser males due to their thirst for resources and status in men, it means women tend to date up. | ||
=== | ===Principle of least interest=== | ||
In unregulated dating markets and even though physically weaker, women turn out to be ''the chief [[sexual selector|sexual selectors]]'' and [[Briffault's law|gatekeepers of sex]] due to the ''principle of least interest'': When an activity depends on mutual agreement, the person with the ''least interest'' decides the terms of that activity.<ref>Waller & Hill, 1951</ref> This is because the person with the most interest has fewer options, thus they more likely compromise than the other party to reach an arrangement. Women desire initiating sex with a partner of average attractiveness much less than men.<ref>https://www.sciencefriday.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/gender-differences-in-receptivity-to-sexual-offers.pdf</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref> Thus, most men have few mating options and hence more likely make compromises in order to get any sex at all.<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref> | In unregulated dating markets and even though physically weaker, women turn out to be ''the chief [[sexual selector|sexual selectors]]'' and [[Briffault's law|gatekeepers of sex]] due to the ''principle of least interest'': When an activity depends on mutual agreement, the person with the ''least interest'' decides the terms of that activity.<ref>Waller & Hill, 1951</ref> This is because the person with the most interest has fewer options, thus they more likely compromise than the other party to reach an arrangement. Women desire initiating sex with a partner of average attractiveness much less than men.<ref>https://www.sciencefriday.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/gender-differences-in-receptivity-to-sexual-offers.pdf</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref> Thus, most men have few mating options and hence more likely make compromises in order to get any sex at all.<ref>https://assets.csom.umn.edu/assets/71503.pdf</ref> | ||
Making compromises means dating down, which in turn means women date up. | Making compromises means dating down, which in turn means women date up. | ||
=== | === Pussy cartel === | ||
<!--Due to women's dependence on men, women naturally want resource security in relationships much more than men.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S109051381730315X</ref>-->In terms of [[sexual economics theory]], women sexually ''commodify themselves'' with a certain exchange value whenever they sexually reject or accept men based on their resources. | <!--Due to women's dependence on men, women naturally want resource security in relationships much more than men.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S109051381730315X</ref>-->In terms of [[sexual economics theory]], women sexually ''commodify themselves'' with a certain exchange value whenever they sexually reject or accept men based on their resources. | ||
Sex then becomes a resource itself that men can ''purchase'' by amassing a broad array of valued goods, including non-monetary resources such as fame and competence.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016748701630277X</ref> | Sex then becomes a resource itself that men can ''purchase'' by amassing a broad array of valued goods, including non-monetary resources such as fame and competence.<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016748701630277X</ref> | ||
Women compete in "selling high" by strategically withholding sex, thereby increasing men's sexual frustration, thus inflating the "price" of sex and baiting men into engaging in more committed resource provision, even when there is an abundance of resources in society. Women are also believed to slut-shame one another to maintain the value of sex, as sex given away for free lowers the value of sex, which reduces women's leverage over men.<ref>Baumeister & Twenge, 2002</ref> In this manner, women collude, forming [[pussy cartel|pussy cartels]], and inciting one another's hypergamy. By having men work for them, women become a leisure class. | Women compete in "selling high" by strategically withholding sex, thereby increasing men's sexual frustration, thus inflating the "price" of sex and baiting men into engaging in more committed resource provision, even when there is an abundance of resources in society. Women are also believed to slut-shame one another to maintain the value of sex, as sex given away for free lowers the value of sex, which reduces women's leverage over men.<ref>Baumeister & Twenge, 2002</ref> In this manner, women collude, forming [[pussy cartel|pussy cartels]], and inciting one another's hypergamy. By having men work for them, women become a leisure class. | ||
===Bodyguard hypothesis=== | === Bodyguard hypothesis === | ||
Another explanation may be that hypergamy arises from women preferring the most powerful man available to them. Being physically weak and largely devoid of social power as a result of greater [[Bateman's principle|parental investment]], women need to secure the most powerful male possible for their relationship and offspring to be protected from contending males ([[bodyguard hypothesis]]).<ref>https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4615-5985-6_21</ref> Provided that women have on average more suitors than men, this implies an overall tendency for women to date up, especially when the most powerful/dominant men engage in [[polygyny]] or ''de facto'' polygyny such as serial monogamy (remarrying often), thus effectively hoarding a substantial share of females. | Another explanation may be that hypergamy arises from women preferring the most powerful man available to them. Being physically weak and largely devoid of social power as a result of greater [[Bateman's principle|parental investment]], women need to secure the most powerful male possible for their relationship and offspring to be protected from contending males ([[bodyguard hypothesis]]).<ref>https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4615-5985-6_21</ref> Provided that women have on average more suitors than men, this implies an overall tendency for women to date up, especially when the most powerful/dominant men engage in [[polygyny]] or ''de facto'' polygyny such as serial monogamy (remarrying often), thus effectively hoarding a substantial share of females. | ||
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==Women want poor men to die in a fire | == Women want poor men to die in a fire == | ||
Women are '''1,000 times''' pickier about a potential partner's wealth than men according to an academic research study by Guanlin Wang.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_1.2C000x_more_sensitive_than_men_to_economic_status_cues_when_rating_attractiveness</ref> | Women are '''1,000 times''' pickier about a potential partner's wealth than men according to an academic research study by Guanlin Wang.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_1.2C000x_more_sensitive_than_men_to_economic_status_cues_when_rating_attractiveness</ref> | ||
Women also like online dating profiles with a higher education status than their own ''twice'' as often, and men with lower status ''half'' as often as men with equal status.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref> | Women also like online dating profiles with a higher education status than their own ''twice'' as often, and men with lower status ''half'' as often as men with equal status.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men_like_61.9.25_of_female_profiles.2C_women_like_only_4.5.25_of_male_profiles</ref> | ||
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== | == Intensified hypergamy == | ||
=== Rising male sexlessness=== | === Rising male sexlessness === | ||
[[File:Aaqa.jpg|thumb|500px|right|The rise of the sexless affects men more than women. See [[Demographics]].]] | [[File:Aaqa.jpg|thumb|500px|right|The rise of the sexless affects men more than women. See [[Demographics]].]] | ||
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* ''Similarly, there was a statistically significant overall increase in reported lifetime partners for men in the top 5% from 38 in 2002 to 50 in 2011–2013 (95% CIs, 30–40 and 50–50, respectively).'' | * ''Similarly, there was a statistically significant overall increase in reported lifetime partners for men in the top 5% from 38 in 2002 to 50 in 2011–2013 (95% CIs, 30–40 and 50–50, respectively).'' | ||
===Women surpassing men | === Women surpassing men === | ||
There are indications that both male and female inceldom is partially born from college educated women and the like. | There are indications that both male and female inceldom is partially born from college educated women and the like. | ||
Technology and liberalism have allowed more women to enter the workforce and surpass men in educational and socioeconomic status, hence rendering more men unattractive to women due to women's hypergamous preference to date up. | Technology and liberalism have allowed more women to enter the workforce and surpass men in educational and socioeconomic status, hence rendering more men unattractive to women due to women's hypergamous preference to date up. | ||
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{{quote|Women whose mate value increases substantially will become (1) more emotionally dissatisfied with their current partner, (2) more likely to evade a partner's mate guarding efforts, (3) more likely to cultivate backup mates, (4) more likely to initiate new [[relationship]]s with higher mate value men, and (5) less inclined to stay with their current partners.<ref>https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/files/2013/02/The-Mate-Switching-Hypothesis-FINAL-PUBLISHED-2017.pdf</ref>}} | {{quote|Women whose mate value increases substantially will become (1) more emotionally dissatisfied with their current partner, (2) more likely to evade a partner's mate guarding efforts, (3) more likely to cultivate backup mates, (4) more likely to initiate new [[relationship]]s with higher mate value men, and (5) less inclined to stay with their current partners.<ref>https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/files/2013/02/The-Mate-Switching-Hypothesis-FINAL-PUBLISHED-2017.pdf</ref>}} | ||
===Online dating and social media | === Online dating and social media === | ||
Sexually frustrated men and the abundance of them in online dating and social media, likely also intensify hypergamy: Frustrated men aim down more, which inflates women's self-esteem and gives them hope of securing a mate with exceptional high mate value, so they become even more choosy and date up more or show [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Decision_fatigue decision fatigue] which creates even more sexually starved men, forming a [https://en.wikipedia.org/w/Positive_feedback feedback loop].<ref>https://www.technologyreview.com/s/601909/how-tinder-feedback-loop-forces-men-and-women-into-extreme-strategies/</ref> | Sexually frustrated men and the abundance of them in online dating and social media, likely also intensify hypergamy: Frustrated men aim down more, which inflates women's self-esteem and gives them hope of securing a mate with exceptional high mate value, so they become even more choosy and date up more or show [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Decision_fatigue decision fatigue] which creates even more sexually starved men, forming a [https://en.wikipedia.org/w/Positive_feedback feedback loop].<ref>https://www.technologyreview.com/s/601909/how-tinder-feedback-loop-forces-men-and-women-into-extreme-strategies/</ref> | ||
Growing economic inequality and decreasing economic growth likely have the same effect as fewer men can attain reliable high status, which is what women go for.<ref>https://journals.openedition.org/chs/737</ref><ref>http://ftp.iza.org/dp4456.pdf</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_sexualize_themselves_online_to_attract_high_status_mates</ref> | Growing economic inequality and decreasing economic growth likely have the same effect as fewer men can attain reliable high status, which is what women go for.<ref>https://journals.openedition.org/chs/737</ref><ref>http://ftp.iza.org/dp4456.pdf</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_sexualize_themselves_online_to_attract_high_status_mates</ref> | ||
===Marriages are falling apart | === Marriages are falling apart === | ||
[[File:WantSexOften.png|right|thumb|400x400px|Women's interest in sex declines rapidly while men's interest remains relatively stable. [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man|More information]].]] | [[File:WantSexOften.png|right|thumb|400x400px|Women's interest in sex declines rapidly while men's interest remains relatively stable. [[Scientific Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man|More information]].]] | ||
There are other indications of intensified hypergamy besides the rise of singlehood and sexlessness, namely less stable relationships. | There are other indications of intensified hypergamy besides the rise of singlehood and sexlessness, namely less stable relationships. | ||
With the decline of marriage norms, greater acceptance of polygamy<ref>https://news.gallup.com/opinion/polling-matters/214601/moral-acceptance-polygamy-record-high-why.aspx</ref> and [[divorce]] laws that greatly benefit women, women more readily [[Marriage#Move Toward Polyamory with Rise in Divorce|jump ship]] when a better man is available. This can be seen in women initiating divorces more often than men and a closing gender gap in infidelity,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Blackpill#cite_note-46</ref> despite the fact that men oppose their partner's infidelity much more strongly.<ref>http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196146/Why-affairs-unforgivable-Six-women-forgive-partner-strayed-twice.html</ref><ref>http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1745691617698225</ref> Women appear to have a fundamental anxiety about not having made the ideal partner choice in terms of wealth and power and no-fault divorce laws and other institutions and norms that facilitate mate switching satisfy this female desire. | With the decline of marriage norms, greater acceptance of polygamy<ref>https://news.gallup.com/opinion/polling-matters/214601/moral-acceptance-polygamy-record-high-why.aspx</ref> and [[divorce]] laws that greatly benefit women, women more readily [[Marriage#Move Toward Polyamory with Rise in Divorce|jump ship]] when a better man is available. This can be seen in women initiating divorces more often than men and a closing gender gap in infidelity,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Blackpill#cite_note-46</ref> despite the fact that men oppose their partner's infidelity much more strongly.<ref>http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196146/Why-affairs-unforgivable-Six-women-forgive-partner-strayed-twice.html</ref><ref>http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1745691617698225</ref> Women appear to have a fundamental anxiety about not having made the ideal partner choice in terms of wealth and power and no-fault divorce laws and other institutions and norms that facilitate mate switching satisfy this female desire. | ||
===Cock Carousel=== | === Cock Carousel === | ||
The increase in single motherhood, and a higher rate of childless men,<ref>https://sciencenorway.no/childlessness-fathers-forskningno/a-quarter-of-norwegian-men-never-father-children/1401047</ref> likely also points to hypergamy as a minority of men engages in ''serial monogamy'' (i.e. remarries often) which is ''de facto polygamy''. Single motherhood may also come from riding the "[[cock carousel]]" too much. Young women chase the [[666 dating rule|666 rule]] and then turn bitter when they have to settle with an ugly [[betabux]], and so end up lonely with their kids. The fact that they've been "[[pump and dump|pumped and dumped]]" is evidence that these women have aimed excessively high and carelessly, i.e. that their high [[SMV]] men lost interest due to their plentiful better options (backburners), especially after the woman hits [[the wall]]. Women are known to turn bitter towards other men once rejected by a high SMV man.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_bitterly_reject_unattractive_men_after_facing_rejection_themselves_by_an_attractive_man</ref> | The increase in single motherhood, and a higher rate of childless men,<ref>https://sciencenorway.no/childlessness-fathers-forskningno/a-quarter-of-norwegian-men-never-father-children/1401047</ref> likely also points to hypergamy as a minority of men engages in ''serial monogamy'' (i.e. remarries often) which is ''de facto polygamy''. Single motherhood may also come from riding the "[[cock carousel]]" too much. Young women chase the [[666 dating rule|666 rule]] and then turn bitter when they have to settle with an ugly [[betabux]], and so end up lonely with their kids. The fact that they've been "[[pump and dump|pumped and dumped]]" is evidence that these women have aimed excessively high and carelessly, i.e. that their high [[SMV]] men lost interest due to their plentiful better options (backburners), especially after the woman hits [[the wall]]. Women are known to turn bitter towards other men once rejected by a high SMV man.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_bitterly_reject_unattractive_men_after_facing_rejection_themselves_by_an_attractive_man</ref> | ||
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== | == Sexual inequality == | ||
=== 80/20 Rule === | === 80/20 Rule === | ||
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According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 56 percent of women and 59 percent of men have had sex by the time they finish high school.<ref>https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/2017_tables/sexual_behaviors.htm#t133_down</ref> If access to sexual intercourse in real life followed an "80/20 rule", then we would expect less people having sex by the time they left high school. At the same time, more people are online dating, and the real-life dating sphere will become more unequal over time as online dating becomes even more popular. --> | According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 56 percent of women and 59 percent of men have had sex by the time they finish high school.<ref>https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/2017_tables/sexual_behaviors.htm#t133_down</ref> If access to sexual intercourse in real life followed an "80/20 rule", then we would expect less people having sex by the time they left high school. At the same time, more people are online dating, and the real-life dating sphere will become more unequal over time as online dating becomes even more popular. --> | ||
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== Brutally honest women on hypergamy == | == Brutally honest women on hypergamy == | ||
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== Meme gallery == | == Meme gallery == | ||