Adverse effects of inceldom: Difference between revisions

A 2008 study published in the American Journal of Public Health found that delaying sexual activity may "create health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being."<ref>https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/78bmza/the-cost-of-losing-your-virginity-late</ref> By their definition, those who had their first sexual encounter at age 22 or older were considered "later starters."  The knowledge that you are incompetent at something that comes as natural as breathing for most humans means that most on the [[inceldom spectrum]] tend to feel incompetent, and as a result, their self-esteem drops like a ton of bricks. The physical manifestation of an unfulfilled [[libido]] also creates anxiety.

A survey study found that penile–vaginal intercourse is associated with health, but masturbation and anal sex are not.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Penile.E2.80.93vaginal_intercourse_is_associated_with_health.2C_but_masturbation_is_not</ref> This suggests, if inceldom has adverse effects, it cannot be remedied by masturbation, i.e. the issue of inceldom is not merely the lack of penile stimulation.

In some countries, couples receive tax-breaks, something that nearcels, [[truecel]]s and incels are not entitled to. There is often also a lot of social pressure to get a partner from family members, friends and cultural institutions. When you don't live up to these social demands, there are sometimes consequences. The lack of validation from another person in turn can also take its toll.

Incels are also often experience loneliness which may in part be caused by being ashamed of their lack of sexual success.

It is of course not clear whether inceldom causes loneliness or vice-verse, but both is plausible.

Incels are also often depressed, e.g. in an informal survey, 59.4% of [[incels.co]] users reported to be depressed.<ref>https://incels.co/threads/survey-results-for-october-2019.147774/</ref> Again, it is not known to which extent inceldom causes depression or vice-versa, but both is plausible.

A simple Darwinian argument could be made that people should feel shitty when they cannot gain access to reproductive opportunities. From a Darwinian perspective, this is the worst place to be in, as it does not allow to propagate one's genes. For this reason, one would expect negative emotions like depression to have evolved that disincentivize men from accepting their inceldom. The explanation is simple: Individuals with a mutation to embrace their inceldom were outreproduced by those who didn't, in fact they did not reproduce at all.

Despite the fact that some people rejoice at the prospects of being childless, claiming that it has afforded them freedoms and allowed them to focus on their careers etc., there are also setbacks to being childless. Having offspring can give a person meaning to life, it can be rewarding to raise another human, and children often bring one joy. What compounds the GDE if it results from inceldom, is that unlike GDE resulting from choice, a person on the [[inceldom spectrum]] is childless notwithstanding their own will. Being an incel in general is a source of embarrassment by virtue of belonging to a minority.

The death grip syndrome (DGS) refers to a loss of sensation in the penis from excessive masturbation. According to ''sexpert'' Dan Savage, when this friction stems from repeated or learned forms of masturbation, it may result in an inability to orgasm.<ref>https://www.salon.com/2015/11/22/men_theres_an_obvious_easy_way_to_avoid_losing_penis_sensitivity_partner/</ref> Men with DGS are much more likely to break up due to their partners' resulting self-esteem issues.