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The 80/20 rule or Pareto principle refers to the observation that in systems in which limited resources are being distributed in a competitive manner, a small minority mostly ends up dominating a majority of the resources, in fact, about 20% end up owning 80% of the resources{{citation needed}}.

Another description of this is seen in the "Matthew principle": Successful individuals get opportunities to improve even more due to higher motivation and reputation, whereas unsuccessful individuals get fewer opportunities to do so due to demotivation and worsened reputation.  

Similar tendencies can also be observed in the sexual market in which men and women of highest [[SMV]] have a disproportional number of sex partners. The current body of evidence favors the assumption that the inequality is greater among men, and roughly follows a 80/20 distribution{{citation needed}} (perhaps a bit less extreme).

Evidence of imbalances in the dating market are the most extreme in online dating: An internal OkCupid study revealed that, on average, women consider most men to be unattractive, whereas men found an equal number of women to be attractive and unattractive.<ref>http://archive.is/489UV</ref> Further, women receive 8 times as much attention in terms of number of received messages. On average, the least attractive women receive as many messages as above average men. These crass differences exist even though the sex ratio on OkCupid is roughly even. Even harsher statistics can be found in online dating apps such as ''Tinder''. E.g. one analysis of data from Tinder suggested that "the bottom 80% of men are fighting over the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are fighting over the top 20% of men".<ref>https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a</ref> Some of these differences might be explained by an excess of males on Tinder with a sex ratio of 79:21{{citation needed}}.

In a study of Belgian Tinder users, women could get 2-3 times as many casual sexual relationships than men, which is bound to be more because women are known to lie about their partner counts.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_get_2-3_times_as_many_casual_sexual_relationships_from_Tinder_than_men</ref>

But there are many other results pointing to substantial imbalances in the dating market, as summarized in the [[Scientific_Blackpill#Hypergamy|Scientific Blackpill]] article. For example women have been found to rate men considerably worse also outside of online dating, to similar extent as on OkCupid. Studies also show that relationships tend to be less stable and sex lives suffer when the woman earns substantially more.

 

The available data is fairly consistent with a 80/20 distribution among men's number of sex partners{{citation needed}} and likely a bit less inequality among women, with growing sexlessness for both sexes, but more so for men. Overall, the data prove that women are [[Sexual gatekeeper|sexual gatekeepers]]. They have substantial power over mating decisions because men are innately more drawn to women than vice-versa. Further, [[Gynocentrism|gynocentric]] welfare states have allowed women to be financially independent having their own incomes, often higher than men's, which likely renders more men sexually unattractive to women.

 

A common [[Bluepill|bluepilled]] objection to the importance of looks and income in online dating is that women wouldn't be as visual and shallow in real life and that one could make up for shortcomings with a good [[personality]]. Studies, however, consistently show men's looks matter just as much as women's, and that personality plays a small role at best, and plays no role during initial romantic contact. Having a very nice personality is outright harmful. The only beneficial personality dimensions seem to be dominance (psychopathy) and stoicism. What aggravates matters is that the perception of ones personality can hardly be changed as it is largely determined by ones looks.<ref>https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/92158/TheHaloEffect.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y</ref> Even perceived sense of humor and morality are to large parts determined by one's looks<ref>https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/may/19/are-funny-people-sexy-or-are-sexy-people-funny</ref><ref>https://splinternews.com/homely-men-judged-more-harshly-than-hot-men-instantly-1793848040</ref>. These results may explain why studies found that personality  only weakly predicts romantic success or not at all: It is more about looks and status and even though women ''claim'' they care, it is only the good personalities they perceive as a [[halo effect]] of looks and status. Further, there is evidence that a man has to surpass a certain level of minimal looks for a woman even to consider traits beyond looks. There has to be a physical attraction at first for a [[relationship]] to be initiated. If a man is far below this threshold, it will be very difficult to make up for it provided that improving personality is futile, and that making up for just one point in looks requires an increase in income of about $25,000 per year<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#A_man_having_the_.22correct.22_race.2C_height.2C_and_face_is_worth_millions_of_dollars_to_women</ref>, and what can be accomplished by bodybuilding or plastic surgery is not only costly but also ultimately limited.

It is conceivable that since women regard the vast majority of men to be physically unattractive, women's sexual freedom and financial independence, plus their seemingly innate tendency to prefer a man of higher socioeconomic status than their own, will increase sexual inequality because only a few men are desired by women, far beyond the small imbalances that already exist and that already render some men's lives not worth living.