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==Meaning of the blackpill== | ==Meaning of the blackpill== | ||
Generally, the [[bluepill|blue pill]] refers to the denial of uncomfortable truths, the [[redpill|red pill]] refers to the revelation of an uncomfortable truth (in analogy to the film The Matrix), and the black pill refers to an uncomfortable truth with particularly dire or fatalistic implications. The term blackpill was first used by a blog commenter named [[Paragon]] as described in the [[#Original definition|"Original definition" section below]]. In the [[manosphere]], the three pills are more narrowly concerned with social and romantic life, and the represent different | Generally, the [[bluepill|blue pill]] refers to the denial of uncomfortable truths, the [[redpill|red pill]] refers to the revelation of an uncomfortable truth (in analogy to the film The Matrix), and the black pill refers to an uncomfortable truth with particularly dire or fatalistic implications. The term blackpill was first used by a blog commenter named [[Paragon]] as described in the [[#Original definition|"Original definition" section below]]. In the [[manosphere]], the three pills are more narrowly concerned with social and romantic life, and the represent different tribes or ideologies with differing views on issues like the importance of looks in dating. The three tribes can be summarized as follows (adapted from the BlackPillScience subreddit<ref>https://reddit.com/r/blackpillscience</ref>): | ||
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Both redpill and blackpill acknowledge the importance of looks, dominance etc. for dating, but the redpill claims that one can largely control one's own social and romantic success using this knowledge (internal locus of control), whereas the blackpill assumes | Both redpill and blackpill acknowledge the importance of looks, dominance etc. for dating, but the redpill claims that one can largely control one's own social and romantic success using this knowledge (internal locus of control), whereas the blackpill assumes one cannot, or at least it emphasizes that for some men there is no help. The dating blackpill can be seen as a counterweight to the prevalent and bluepilled assumption that poor social and romantic life are mostly [[Libertarianism|people's own fault]]. | ||
Central to the blackpill are [[LMS|three factors of attraction (LMS)]] whose relevance for dating are commonly downplayed: | Central to the blackpill are [[LMS|three factors of attraction (LMS)]] whose relevance for dating are commonly downplayed: | ||
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The blackpill is mainly concerned with the following topics: | The blackpill is mainly concerned with the following topics: | ||
=== | === Men's looks are important in the formation of romantic relationships === | ||
Women place a minimum threshold of physical attractiveness on potential mates.<ref>https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-017-0092-x</ref> Women also lie about the degree of importance of physical attractiveness.<ref>https://www.livescience.com/58607-mens-looks-may-matter-more-than-personality.html</ref> The common objection is that personality would matter too. Sadly, looks were the only factor to predict initial romantic interest.<ref>https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2005-11095-001</ref> Attractiveness and masculinity also predict a woman's chance of orgasm.<ref>https://putslab.la.psu.edu/documents/Puts%20et%20al.%20EHB%202012-1.pdf</ref> Looks play a central role both in long-term and short-term relationships for both sexes.<ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22468419</ref> Looks are highly heritable as well.<ref>https://www2.psy.uq.edu.au/~uqbziets/Mitchem%20et%20al%202013%20Estimating%20the%20sex-specific%20effects%20of%20genes%20on%20facial%20attractiveness%20and%20sexual%20dimorphism.pdf</ref> Women are also seemingly more choosy about looks. They rate 80% of men as below [[Decile|5/10]] both in online dating and elsewhere.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rate_80.25_of_men_as_.22below_average.22.2C_while_men_rate_women_on_a_bell_curve</ref> While not as drastic as their ratings suggest, there is indeed evidence of women dating up in looks, e.g. very unattractive men were less likely married in one study. Conversely, very unattractive women were more likely being married than other women. | Women place a minimum threshold of physical attractiveness on potential mates.<ref>https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-017-0092-x</ref> Women also lie about the degree of importance of physical attractiveness.<ref>https://www.livescience.com/58607-mens-looks-may-matter-more-than-personality.html</ref> The common objection is that personality would matter too. Sadly, looks were the only factor to predict initial romantic interest.<ref>https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2005-11095-001</ref> Attractiveness and masculinity also predict a woman's chance of orgasm.<ref>https://putslab.la.psu.edu/documents/Puts%20et%20al.%20EHB%202012-1.pdf</ref> Looks play a central role both in long-term and short-term relationships for both sexes.<ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22468419</ref> Looks are highly heritable as well.<ref>https://www2.psy.uq.edu.au/~uqbziets/Mitchem%20et%20al%202013%20Estimating%20the%20sex-specific%20effects%20of%20genes%20on%20facial%20attractiveness%20and%20sexual%20dimorphism.pdf</ref> Women are also seemingly more choosy about looks. They rate 80% of men as below [[Decile|5/10]] both in online dating and elsewhere.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rate_80.25_of_men_as_.22below_average.22.2C_while_men_rate_women_on_a_bell_curve</ref> While not as drastic as their ratings suggest, there is indeed evidence of women dating up in looks, e.g. very unattractive men were less likely married in one study. Conversely, very unattractive women were more likely being married than other women. | ||
=== | === Looks are largely objective, especially ugly people's looks === | ||
Humans universally prefer good looking people and agree fairly consistently about who is attractive.<ref>Di Dio C, Macaluso E, Rizzolatti G (2007) The Golden Beauty: Brain Response to Classical and Renaissance Sculptures. PLoS ONE2(11): e1201. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0001201</ref><ref>https://archive.is/tmkKW</ref><ref>Psychological Bulletin 2000, Vol. 126, No. 3, 390-423 DOI: 10.1037//0033-2909.126.3.390 | Humans universally prefer good looking people and agree fairly consistently about who is attractive.<ref>Di Dio C, Macaluso E, Rizzolatti G (2007) The Golden Beauty: Brain Response to Classical and Renaissance Sculptures. PLoS ONE2(11): e1201. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0001201</ref><ref>https://archive.is/tmkKW</ref><ref>Psychological Bulletin 2000, Vol. 126, No. 3, 390-423 DOI: 10.1037//0033-2909.126.3.390 | ||
</ref><ref>http://jonathanstray.com/papers/Langlois.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.springer.com/us/book/9783319178660</ref><ref>https://labs.la.utexas.edu/langloislab/files/2015/04/meta.pdf</ref> They agree more about the looks of very attractive and unattractive individuals, hence for them looks are more objective. People agree less about people of average attractiveness, so here individual preferences play a greater role. Even babies prefer attractive faces over non-attractive ones<ref>https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn6355-babies-prefer-to-gaze-upon-beautiful-faces</ref> Young children also make value judgements based on facial features <ref>http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/dev-dev0000734.pdf</ref> and parents treat their good looking children better. Even among widely different cultures, universal standards for beauty exist.<ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3130383/</ref> and Women prefer tall men to short men.<ref>https://research.similarminds.com/romantic-height-preferences-in-men-and-women/227</ref> | </ref><ref>http://jonathanstray.com/papers/Langlois.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.springer.com/us/book/9783319178660</ref><ref>https://labs.la.utexas.edu/langloislab/files/2015/04/meta.pdf</ref> They agree more about the looks of very attractive and unattractive individuals, hence for them looks are more objective. People agree less about people of average attractiveness, so here individual preferences play a greater role. Even babies prefer attractive faces over non-attractive ones<ref>https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn6355-babies-prefer-to-gaze-upon-beautiful-faces</ref> Young children also make value judgements based on facial features <ref>http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/dev-dev0000734.pdf</ref> and parents treat their good looking children better. Even among widely different cultures, universal standards for beauty exist.<ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3130383/</ref> and Women prefer tall men to short men.<ref>https://research.similarminds.com/romantic-height-preferences-in-men-and-women/227</ref> | ||
=== | === [[Hypergamy]] === | ||
Hypergamy is the natural inclination for women to "[[branchswinging|trade up]]" in terms of [[LMS|looks, money, or status]]. There is a host of evidence that women are much more choosy maters. For example, average women receive 20 times as many matches as average men on Tinder<ref>Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, Royal Ottawa Health Care Group A First Look at User Activity on Tinder</ref> The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating,<ref>https://hingeirl.com/hinge-reports/whats-the-biggest-challenge-men-face-on-dating-apps-a-qa-with-aviv-goldgeier-junior-growth-engineer</ref><ref>ttps://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps/</ref> and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 10 times more messages. The top 5-20% of men (ie. "Chads") are now having more sex than ever before<ref>Harper CR, Dittus PJ, Leichliter JS, Aral, SO. Changes in the Distribution of Sex Partners in the United States: 2002 to 2011–2013. Sexually Transmitted Diseases: February 2017 - Volume 44 - Issue 2 - p 96–100. doi: 10.1097/OLQ.0000000000000554</ref><ref>https://journals.lww.com/stdjournal/Fulltext/2017/02000/Changes_in_the_Distribution_of_Sex_Partners_in_the.5.aspx</ref> Women are prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S019188691500505X</ref>. There is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status and marry men with lower income. As women surpass men in socioeconomic success, hypergamy implies that more men are becoming unattractive to women. | Hypergamy is the natural inclination for women to "[[branchswinging|trade up]]" in terms of [[LMS|looks, money, or status]]. There is a host of evidence that women are much more choosy maters. For example, average women receive 20 times as many matches as average men on Tinder<ref>Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, Royal Ottawa Health Care Group A First Look at User Activity on Tinder</ref> The top 10% of men get 58% of women's likes in online dating,<ref>https://hingeirl.com/hinge-reports/whats-the-biggest-challenge-men-face-on-dating-apps-a-qa-with-aviv-goldgeier-junior-growth-engineer</ref><ref>ttps://qz.com/1051462/these-statistics-show-why-its-so-hard-to-be-an-average-man-on-dating-apps/</ref> and even in online dating platforms with an even sex ratio, like OkCupid one finds women receive around 10 times more messages. The top 5-20% of men (ie. "Chads") are now having more sex than ever before<ref>Harper CR, Dittus PJ, Leichliter JS, Aral, SO. Changes in the Distribution of Sex Partners in the United States: 2002 to 2011–2013. Sexually Transmitted Diseases: February 2017 - Volume 44 - Issue 2 - p 96–100. doi: 10.1097/OLQ.0000000000000554</ref><ref>https://journals.lww.com/stdjournal/Fulltext/2017/02000/Changes_in_the_Distribution_of_Sex_Partners_in_the.5.aspx</ref> Women are prone to instability when they are more attractive than their male partner<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S019188691500505X</ref>. There is evidence of women refusing to date down in educational status and marry men with lower income. As women surpass men in socioeconomic success, hypergamy implies that more men are becoming unattractive to women. | ||
=== | === [[Strategic pluralism|The Dual Mating Strategy]] === | ||
One particular UCLA study states that, “a great deal of the evidence indicates two overlapping suites of psychological adaptations in women: those for securing [[long-term relationship|long-term]], cooperative social partnerships for rearing children and those for pursuing a [[strategic pluralism|dual-mating strategy]] in which women secure a social partner and engage in selective sexual affairs to gain access to genes [that are more in line with natural sexual desires] for offspring”.<ref>http://pillse.bol.ucla.edu/Publications/Pillsworth&Haselton_ARSR.pdf</ref> | One particular UCLA study states that, “a great deal of the evidence indicates two overlapping suites of psychological adaptations in women: those for securing [[long-term relationship|long-term]], cooperative social partnerships for rearing children and those for pursuing a [[strategic pluralism|dual-mating strategy]] in which women secure a social partner and engage in selective sexual affairs to gain access to genes [that are more in line with natural sexual desires] for offspring”.<ref>http://pillse.bol.ucla.edu/Publications/Pillsworth&Haselton_ARSR.pdf</ref> | ||
Women men who are in relationships more attractive than single men.<ref>http://digital.library.okstate.edu/etd/umi-okstate-2649.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022103109001048?via%3Dihub</ref><ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1660608/</ref> Heterosexual women's natural sexual proclivities are also a catch-22. The woman naturally highly prefers a pre-selected partner (more than men), but selected men are by definition taken. The female is naturally inclined to spend her pre-child years rejecting men who aren't highly desired by other women. Once she wants to have children, there is also an incentive to keep a non-selected man around. In this situation, she has sex with unattainable men in her more fertile years and later uses less selected men to raise the child or children of the men she slept with when she is less fertile. Her strong desire for men selected by other women often overrides her loyalty to the less selected men that are kept around for children. In societies which don't spend enough effort on preventing these natural sexual desires to realize themselves, she chooses the genes from men selected by other women and later the parental investment from a more loyal male. | Women men who are in relationships more attractive than single men.<ref>http://digital.library.okstate.edu/etd/umi-okstate-2649.pdf</ref><ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022103109001048?via%3Dihub</ref><ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1660608/</ref> Heterosexual women's natural sexual proclivities are also a catch-22. The woman naturally highly prefers a pre-selected partner (more than men), but selected men are by definition taken. The female is naturally inclined to spend her pre-child years rejecting men who aren't highly desired by other women. Once she wants to have children, there is also an incentive to keep a non-selected man around. In this situation, she has sex with unattainable men in her more fertile years and later uses less selected men to raise the child or children of the men she slept with when she is less fertile. Her strong desire for men selected by other women often overrides her loyalty to the less selected men that are kept around for children. In societies which don't spend enough effort on preventing these natural sexual desires to realize themselves, she chooses the genes from men selected by other women and later the parental investment from a more loyal male. | ||
The men who are selected by other women have historically been and are currently more masculine than men who are not selected by other women. As a result, women prefer masculine men during ovulation<ref>https://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html</ref>. Fertile women are more likely to choose a masculine man <ref>https://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html</ref>. Even when a less attractive male invests considerably into a partnership, the inclination to cheat to acquire the genes of selected men exists. <ref>https://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138(05)00093-0/fulltext</ref> | The men who are selected by other women have historically been and are currently more masculine than men who are not selected by other women. As a result, women prefer masculine men during ovulation<ref>https://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html</ref>. Fertile women are more likely to choose a masculine man <ref>https://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html</ref>. Even when a less attractive male invests considerably into a partnership, the inclination to cheat to acquire the genes of selected men exists. <ref>https://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138(05)00093-0/fulltext</ref> | ||
===Conclusion=== | ===Conclusion=== | ||
Each one of the | Each one of the central themes plays a part in deriving incel vocabulary. Looks being necessary, unevenly distributed, and objective provides two familiar categories: the [[incel]] and [[Chad]]. The social role of looks is also reflected in the use of the label [[Stacy]] to denote a better-looking female. However, there is more space left for disagreement over what constitutes a 'Stacy.' | ||
It is often suggested that the blackpill means that "[[it's over]]" for incels with | It is often suggested that the blackpill means that "[[it's over]]" for incels with poor looks and low [[social status]] or other flaws—that is, that they have next to no chance of '[[ascension|ascending]]' or attaining sexual and overall fulfillment. The 'blackpill' also forms a basis for the occasional semi-humorous spin-off that depicts a depressing human tendency, for instance, the '[[dogpill]].' | ||
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