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A common [[Bluepill|bluepilled]] objection to the importance of looks and income in online dating is that women wouldn't be as visual and shallow in real life and that one could make up for shortcomings with a good [[personality]]. Studies, however, consistently show men's looks matter just as much as women's, and that personality plays a small role at best, and plays no role during initial romantic contact. Having a very nice personality is outright harmful. The only beneficial personality dimensions seem to be dominance (psychopathy) and stoicism. What aggravates matters is that the perception of ones personality can hardly be changed as it is largely determined by ones looks.<ref>https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/92158/TheHaloEffect.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y</ref> Even perceived wittiness and morality is to large parts determined by one's looks<ref>https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/may/19/are-funny-people-sexy-or-are-sexy-people-funny</ref><ref>https://splinternews.com/homely-men-judged-more-harshly-than-hot-men-instantly-1793848040</ref>. These results may explain why personality could never explain romantic success: It is more about looks and status and even though women ''claim'' they care, it is only the good personalities they perceive as a [[halo effect]] of good looks and high status. Further, there is evidence that a man has to surpass a certain level of minimal looks for a woman even to consider traits beyond looks. There has to be a physical attraction at first for a [[relationship]] to be initiated. If a man is far below this threshold, it will be very difficult to make up for it provided that improving personality is futile, that making up for just one point in looks requires an increase in income of about $25,000 per year<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#A_man_having_the_.22correct.22_race.2C_height.2C_and_face_is_worth_millions_of_dollars_to_women</ref> and what can be accomplished by bodybuilding or plastic surgery is not only costly but also limited. | A common [[Bluepill|bluepilled]] objection to the importance of looks and income in online dating is that women wouldn't be as visual and shallow in real life and that one could make up for shortcomings with a good [[personality]]. Studies, however, consistently show men's looks matter just as much as women's, and that personality plays a small role at best, and plays no role during initial romantic contact. Having a very nice personality is outright harmful. The only beneficial personality dimensions seem to be dominance (psychopathy) and stoicism. What aggravates matters is that the perception of ones personality can hardly be changed as it is largely determined by ones looks.<ref>https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/92158/TheHaloEffect.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y</ref> Even perceived wittiness and morality is to large parts determined by one's looks<ref>https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/may/19/are-funny-people-sexy-or-are-sexy-people-funny</ref><ref>https://splinternews.com/homely-men-judged-more-harshly-than-hot-men-instantly-1793848040</ref>. These results may explain why personality could never explain romantic success: It is more about looks and status and even though women ''claim'' they care, it is only the good personalities they perceive as a [[halo effect]] of good looks and high status. Further, there is evidence that a man has to surpass a certain level of minimal looks for a woman even to consider traits beyond looks. There has to be a physical attraction at first for a [[relationship]] to be initiated. If a man is far below this threshold, it will be very difficult to make up for it provided that improving personality is futile, that making up for just one point in looks requires an increase in income of about $25,000 per year<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#A_man_having_the_.22correct.22_race.2C_height.2C_and_face_is_worth_millions_of_dollars_to_women</ref> and what can be accomplished by bodybuilding or plastic surgery is not only costly but also limited. | ||