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== There is no simple solution except limiting women's sexual freedom and | == There is no simple solution except limiting women's sexual freedom and independence == | ||
A common [[Bluepill|bluepilled]] objection to the importance of looks and resources in online dating is that women wouldn't be as visual and shallow in real life and that one could make up for shortcomings with a good [[personality]]. Studies, however, consistently show men's looks matter just as much as women's and that personality plays a small role at best, and plays no role during initial romantic contact. Acting exclusively in a friendly manner is outright harmful. The only personality dimensions that does seem to play a role is dominance, wittiness, as well as showing signals of investment in a convincing manner without showing despair. What aggravates matters is that the perception of ones personality can hardly be changed as it is largely determined by ones looks.<ref>https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/92158/TheHaloEffect.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y</ref> Even perceived wittiness and morality is to large parts determined by one's looks<ref>https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/may/19/are-funny-people-sexy-or-are-sexy-people-funny</ref><ref>https://splinternews.com/homely-men-judged-more-harshly-than-hot-men-instantly-1793848040</ref>. These results may explain why personality could never explain romantic success: It is more about looks and status. Further, there is evidence that a man has to surpass a certain level of minimal looks for a woman even to consider traits beyond looks. | A common [[Bluepill|bluepilled]] objection to the importance of looks and resources in online dating is that women wouldn't be as visual and shallow in real life and that one could make up for shortcomings with a good [[personality]]. Studies, however, consistently show men's looks matter just as much as women's and that personality plays a small role at best, and plays no role during initial romantic contact. Acting exclusively in a friendly manner is outright harmful. The only personality dimensions that does seem to play a role is dominance, wittiness, as well as showing signals of investment in a convincing manner without showing despair. What aggravates matters is that the perception of ones personality can hardly be changed as it is largely determined by ones looks.<ref>https://deepblue.lib.umich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/92158/TheHaloEffect.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y</ref> Even perceived wittiness and morality is to large parts determined by one's looks<ref>https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/may/19/are-funny-people-sexy-or-are-sexy-people-funny</ref><ref>https://splinternews.com/homely-men-judged-more-harshly-than-hot-men-instantly-1793848040</ref>. These results may explain why personality could never explain romantic success: It is more about looks and status. Further, there is evidence that a man has to surpass a certain level of minimal looks for a woman even to consider traits beyond looks. | ||