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What is, however, unnatural in modern marriage is the degree of institutionalization within large nation states. E.g. alimony, the requirement for the ex-husband to provide for the ex-wife after divorce, is such an institution. It derives from the necessity of the state to make sure everyone is taken care of. [[Free rider]]s like men that like to [[pump and dump]] careless [[slut]]s create an undesirable incidence of [[single mothers]] with neglected children which incur a substantial cost on communities. Alimony solved this problem, but [[feminism|feminist]] policy pushed things so far that we are seeing an increase in single mothers, due to emphasizing personal freedom and mate choice (resulting in an overall decline in marriage) and due to no-fault divorce making it very easy for women (and men) to divorce. Unnatural is also the indefinite length of modern marriage contracts (which used to be less formal), however no-fault divorce has already largely resolved that. Unnatural may also be the close dyadic cohabitation of husband and wife, with historical societies having had a much stricter gender segregation to the point (see [[female subordination]]), with women often living in separate [[harem]]s. Human's are a moderately [[polygyny|polygynous]] species, meaning some amount of marriages were polygynous. In the average forager society, 21% of married women are married polygynously,<ref>Marlowe & Berbesque, 2012</ref> hence one would expect about as many women to face an [[evolutionary mismatch]] with monogamous marriages. There is evidence that women lose their sex drive sooner in the close cohabitation setting, but not when living apart, which may be an indication of an [[evolutionary mismatch]].<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref> Couples who marry following prior cohabitation also face a slightly higher divorce risk.<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258150996_The_Relationship_Between_Intelligence_and_Divorce</ref> | What is, however, unnatural in modern marriage is the degree of institutionalization within large nation states. E.g. alimony, the requirement for the ex-husband to provide for the ex-wife after divorce, is such an institution. It derives from the necessity of the state to make sure everyone is taken care of. [[Free rider]]s like men that like to [[pump and dump]] careless [[slut]]s create an undesirable incidence of [[single mothers]] with neglected children which incur a substantial cost on communities. Alimony solved this problem, but [[feminism|feminist]] policy pushed things so far that we are seeing an increase in single mothers, due to emphasizing personal freedom and mate choice (resulting in an overall decline in marriage) and due to no-fault divorce making it very easy for women (and men) to divorce. Unnatural is also the indefinite length of modern marriage contracts (which used to be less formal), however no-fault divorce has already largely resolved that. Unnatural may also be the close dyadic cohabitation of husband and wife, with historical societies having had a much stricter gender segregation to the point (see [[female subordination]]), with women often living in separate [[harem]]s. Human's are a moderately [[polygyny|polygynous]] species, meaning some amount of marriages were polygynous. In the average forager society, 21% of married women are married polygynously,<ref>Marlowe & Berbesque, 2012</ref> hence one would expect about as many women to face an [[evolutionary mismatch]] with monogamous marriages. There is evidence that women lose their sex drive sooner in the close cohabitation setting, but not when living apart, which may be an indication of an [[evolutionary mismatch]].<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref> Couples who marry following prior cohabitation also face a slightly higher divorce risk.<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258150996_The_Relationship_Between_Intelligence_and_Divorce</ref> | ||
== Benefits of marriage == | == Benefits of marriage == | ||
toMarriage appears to increase well-being for men, but interestingly, the opposite is true for women.<ref name="yale">https://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single</ref><ref>https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health</ref> | |||
Marriage has a protective effect for men as they received emotional support, are less likely engage in risk, potentially harmful behavior (see [[adverse effects of inceldom]]). | Marriage has a protective effect for men as they received emotional support, are less likely to engage in risk, potentially harmful behavior (see [[adverse effects of inceldom]]). | ||
Married women reporting lower happiness is likely not fully explained by them being more likely mothers, and crucially | Married women reporting lower happiness is likely not fully explained by them being more likely mothers, and crucially | ||
it does not appear to be caused by the husband's [[asshole]]ishness.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Female_narcissism_reduces_marital_quality_for_men.2C_but_male_narcissism_does_not_for_women</ref> | it does not appear to be caused by the husband's [[asshole]]ishness.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Female_narcissism_reduces_marital_quality_for_men.2C_but_male_narcissism_does_not_for_women</ref> | ||