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When women, as well as people in general, talk about "fake [[nice guy]]s," they may be referring to autistic (or ugly) males. Autists may naturally overestimate the optimal amount of pro-social communication/behavior most people generally prefer. Overly formal or polite behavior, which is often found among autists, is counter to establishing dominance. Sexually, women do tend to prefer "[[assholes]]". Perhaps this is hard to understand for autistics, as they are claimed to be prone to black and white thinking.<ref>https://www.psychedconsult.com/blog/no-room-for-gray-here</ref> | When women, as well as people in general, talk about "fake [[nice guy]]s," they may be referring to autistic (or ugly) males. Autists may naturally overestimate the optimal amount of pro-social communication/behavior most people generally prefer. Overly formal or polite behavior, which is often found among autists, is counter to establishing dominance. Sexually, women do tend to prefer "[[assholes]]". Perhaps this is hard to understand for autistics, as they are claimed to be prone to black and white thinking.<ref>https://www.psychedconsult.com/blog/no-room-for-gray-here</ref> | ||
==Dating advice== | ==Dating advice== | ||
There has been little research on what determines dating success among the few autistics who have it. | There has been little research on what determines [[dating]] success among the few autistics who have it. | ||
One study developed three key tips for autistic online daters:<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563219301566</ref> | One study developed three key tips for autistic online daters:<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563219301566</ref> | ||
*Be consistent in your online profile (attributes and interests). | *Be consistent in your online profile (attributes and interests). | ||
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*Frame your personality attributes and interests using positive wording | *Frame your personality attributes and interests using positive wording | ||
*Be real and true to yourself. | *Be real and true to yourself. | ||
There is some evidence that autistic males may be more compatible with autistic females than with [[NT]] females (at least in the near-term that is):<ref>https://escholarship.org/uc/item/6kw0v3mf</ref> | There is some evidence that autistic males may be more compatible with autistic females than with [[NT]] [[Femoid|females]] (at least in the near-term that is):<ref>https://escholarship.org/uc/item/6kw0v3mf</ref> | ||
* "Further, similar to speed-dating studies with typical adults, participants matched from speed-dating events led to electronic communication between couples, and dates for approximately one-third of matches." | * "Further, similar to speed-dating studies with typical adults, participants matched from speed-dating events led to electronic communication between couples, and dates for approximately one-third of matches." | ||
* "the content of participants' conversations felt formal to an outside observer." | * "the content of participants' conversations felt formal to an outside observer." | ||
== Autistic behaviors == | == Autistic behaviors == | ||
* Talking to yourself orally, having debates in your head which sometimes result in you vocally speaking some parts of the debate, repeating in your head some future dialogues you may one day have which sometimes result in you speaking parts vocally<ref>[https://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-employment-job-seekers Adult with autism argues alone at night]</ref> | * Talking to yourself orally, having debates in your head which sometimes result in you vocally speaking some parts of the debate, repeating in your head some future dialogues you may one day have which sometimes result in you speaking parts vocally<ref>[https://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-employment-job-seekers Adult with autism argues alone at night]</ref> | ||
==Free lesson for Aspies== | ==Free lesson for Aspies== | ||
{{See also|[[Attraction ambiguity problem]]}}<big><b><center>A guide to female cues for our wonderful, irreplaceable brethren with Aspergers...</center></b></big><br> | {{See also|[[Attraction ambiguity problem]]}}<big><b><center>A guide to female cues for our wonderful, irreplaceable brethren with Aspergers...</center></b></big><br> | ||