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What is, however, unnatural in modern marriage is the degree of institutionalization within large nation states. E.g. alimony, the requirement for the ex-husband to provide for the ex-wife after divorce, is such an institution. It derives from the necessity of the state to make sure everyone is taken care of. [[Free rider]]s like men that like to [[pump and dump]] careless [[foid]]s create an undesirable incidence of [[single mothers]] with neglected children which incur a substantial cost on communities. Alimony solved this problem, but [[feminism|feminist]] policy pushed things so far that we are seeing an increase in single mothers, due to emphasizing personal freedom and mate choice (resulting in an overall decline in marriage) and due to no-fault divorce making it very easy for women (and men) to divorce. Unnatural is also the indefinite length of modern marriage contracts (which used to be less formal), however no-fault divorce has already largely resolved that. Unnatural may also be the close dyadic cohabitation of husband and wife, with historical societies having had a much stricter gender segregation to the point (see [[female subordination]]). There is evidence that women lose their sex drive sooner in the close cohabitation setting, but not when living apart, which may be an indication of an [[evolutionary mismatch]].<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref> Couples who marry following prior cohabitation also face a slightly higher divorce risk.<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258150996_The_Relationship_Between_Intelligence_and_Divorce</ref> | What is, however, unnatural in modern marriage is the degree of institutionalization within large nation states. E.g. alimony, the requirement for the ex-husband to provide for the ex-wife after divorce, is such an institution. It derives from the necessity of the state to make sure everyone is taken care of. [[Free rider]]s like men that like to [[pump and dump]] careless [[foid]]s create an undesirable incidence of [[single mothers]] with neglected children which incur a substantial cost on communities. Alimony solved this problem, but [[feminism|feminist]] policy pushed things so far that we are seeing an increase in single mothers, due to emphasizing personal freedom and mate choice (resulting in an overall decline in marriage) and due to no-fault divorce making it very easy for women (and men) to divorce. Unnatural is also the indefinite length of modern marriage contracts (which used to be less formal), however no-fault divorce has already largely resolved that. Unnatural may also be the close dyadic cohabitation of husband and wife, with historical societies having had a much stricter gender segregation to the point (see [[female subordination]]). There is evidence that women lose their sex drive sooner in the close cohabitation setting, but not when living apart, which may be an indication of an [[evolutionary mismatch]].<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref> Couples who marry following prior cohabitation also face a slightly higher divorce risk.<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258150996_The_Relationship_Between_Intelligence_and_Divorce</ref> | ||
== Benefits of marriage == | |||
Marriage appears to increase well-being for men, but interestingly, the opposite is true for women.<ref name="yale">https://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single</ref><ref>https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health</ref> Marriage has a protective effect for men as they received emotional support, are less likely engage in risk, potentially harmful behavior (see [[adverse effects of inceldom]]). | |||
Married women reporting lower happiness is likely not fully explained by them being more likely mothers. A United States study found that mothers with a male partner sleep less and do more housework than single mothers. The reasons for this were not determined, however another study showed that husbands create about seven hours of extra housework a week for their wives.<ref name="yale"></ref> | |||
These findings might point to modern marriages being more of an [[evolutionary mismatch]] for women than for men. For example, more women than men have lived in households with a [[harem]]. Further, women used to primarily take care of the household and childrearing, but nowadays they have an additional burden of a high inclusion in the workforce, and hence additional housework caused by the husband ends up being overwhelming. Thirdly, household chores and childrearing tasks used to be shared by elderly women and the daughters, and perhaps close friends within the community, whereas in today's very small and isolated families, women are more on their own in addition to having to work. All these observations are in line with women's happiness having declined over the recent decades.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Self-rated_female_happiness_has_been_declining_since_the_1970s_in_the_US</ref> | |||
==Divorce== | ==Divorce== | ||