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== Potential mismatches ==

* '''Arranged marriages vs free mate choice''': Historically, arranged marriages were often the norm, so today's dating world with emphasis on free mate choice, individualism etc., may mismatch innate expectations that we may evolved to have for our parents to be involved in partner choices, and for mate choice to occur within a community and with the approval of others. In a large sample of hunter-gatherer societies, 70% primarily practiced arrange marriage,<ref name="apostl">https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1474704919887706</ref> and also in medieval Europe arranged marriages were the norm.<ref>http://www.dfwx.com/medieval_cult.html</ref>

* '''Destruction of male coalitions and gender segregation''': Cross-cultural evidence points to men forming sex-segregated coalitions (forming [[dominance hierarchy|competence hierarchies]])<ref name="cooking">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> in order to extract resources<ref>https://carlsonschool.umn.edu/sites/carlsonschool.umn.edu/files/2019-04/baumeister_et_al_2017_j_econ_psych_competing_for_love-_applying_sexual_economics_theory_to_mating_contests_1.pdf</ref> and monopolize the women of other men.<ref name="apostl"></ref> Hence women entering these male coalitions and working side-by-side with men, as well as [[romance|romantic]] relationships in terms of equal romantic investment, are evolutionary novel, and possibly corrupt epistatic pathways in the development of male behavior.<ref>https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-32984-6_7</ref> Women have rarely ever been individuals themselves, but merely [[sex drive#Female_passivity|passive]] motivators for male [[intrasexual competition]].<ref name="cooking"></ref><ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YnEFt20qe0o</ref>

* '''Affirmative action for women''': Women have never occupied higher status than men,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> so men getting [[mog]]ged by women left and right may be a source of great confusion and [[shy]]ness in men. In women, combined with their [[hypergamy]], this also causes a mismatch as they naturally expect to find men more dominant than themselves, and rather [[femcel|stay singles]] when failing to find a partner who matches their expectations (see [[hypergamy]]). Women have always been dependent on men,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> but today, they can live entirely off of the state, so they have less incentive to pair bond with men and trade [[orgasms for resources]].

* '''Atheism''': Most human societies have also been highly religious,<ref>https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/1991-brown-humanuniversals.pdf</ref> whereas modern civilizations are highly atheistic. Atheism tends to imply lower birth rates<ref>https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10680-015-9371-z</ref> which may be evidence that it creates more inceldom, possibly because religions tend to promote procreation, enforce monogamy and cultivate community life.  

* '''Close dyadic cohabitation''': The modern family usually consists of a permanent co-residence of only mother and father with the offspring without the integration in some community or presence of extended family. In history, women have rather lived in segregation, e.g. in harems as an extreme instance of segregation. There is evidence that in such settings women lose their interest in sex sooner, giving rise to dead bedrooms and husbandcels.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref>

* '''Behavioral sink''': Other mismatches may include overpopulation, an aging population or even the rise of [[mutation]]s and disruption of social epistasis (see [[behavioral sink]]).

* '''No responsibility''': Historically, marriage directly concerned important questions about inheritance of land and wealth. Today, there is a growing disenfranchised population that has virtually nothing, is in debt and merely rents properties from landlords. This is exaggerated by economic stagnation. Millennials have only a fraction of the worth babyboomers had at the same age.<ref>https://archive.fo/wip/z8CaW</ref> As a result, traditions and adaptations concerning heritage and responsibility lose their meanings.

* '''Milder ecology''': Historically, males needed to fight and compete for survival. Today, resources are directly provided to women if necessary. Male competition is prohibited and men are shamed to be nice and agreeable, which also reduces ecological harshness (see [[antifragility]]).

* '''Environmentalism & pessimism''': Historically, it was rarely ever a question to not have children. Usually, children were needed to maintain land, power and wealth of the family. Associating something bad with reproduction is highly evolutionary novel.<ref>https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11111-021-00379-5</ref>

* '''Late marriage and no enforced monogamy''': The age of marriage is very late in many Western countries because of [[feminism]] and economic stagnation. This means nobody enforces monogamy until the late 20s or early 30s, and the result is a more feral dating landscape that [[life history|r-strategists]] heavily exploit and which does not cater to people who are rather interested in long-term [[relationship]]s ([[life history|k-strategists]]).

* '''Decline of communities''': Closely related to the decline of religion, enforced monogamy and arranged marriage, communities have suffered in recent years with loneliness rates skyrocketing. Today, the majority of couples meet online, followed by in a bar or at a restaurant, and there has been a strong decline in meeting through friends, family, school, work etc.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref> This may increase the importance of extroversion, a personality trait that is 60% genetic,<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-human-beast/201701/do-extraverts-have-more-children</ref> and thereby give rise to [[shy]]cels.

* '''Lack of inter-group competition'''  Historically warfare was very common, and in some contemporary hunter gatherer tribes the rate of deaths attributable to violence inter and intra group violence os up to 64% of the entire population in the most violent group examined, the waorani, with their being a higher ratio of male deaths than females.<ref>https://www.pnas.org/content/106/20/8134</ref> The level of intergroup conflict among historical hunter gatherer and subsistence farming peoples historically was also intense, with rates of adult mortality due to warfare reaching up to 46%.<ref>https://science.sciencemag.org/content/324/5932/1293.full?maxtoshow=&HITS=10&hits=10&RESULTFORMAT=&fulltext=Samuel%20Bowles%20of%20the%20Santa%20Fe%20Institute%20in%20New%20Mexico&searchid=1&FIRSTINDEX=0&resourcetype=HWCIT</ref> This level of conflict was likely even greater in times with harsher climactic conditions, i.e. areas with unfertile soil,  periods of global cooling, etc., as the scarcity of food or its high cost in their local area caused groups to migrate and expand towards more fecund territories.<ref>https://www.mdpi.com/2624-8611/1/1/15/htm</ref> This generally high level of intergroup conflict, as well as possibly being relevant for the development of human behaviors such as in-group altruism and ethnocentrism, would have also been expected to reduce the population of adult males regularly every generation. This deficit in the males, with a  [[sex ratio]] biased towards women, may have made women (and their families in cultures that practiced arranged marriage) less choosy in terms of the male partners they sought out, especially as women typically lacked economic independence in the past and thus frequently relied on males for resource provision. Intergroup conflict has been largely irrelevant since the second world war in Western countries, as the global US military hegemony and the development of nuclear weapons has made intergroup very costly for large, modernized nations. This historically unusual excess of adult males, combined with high life expectancy rates and low total fertility ratios (resulting in a relative paucity of fertility women, due to an aging population) may result in an operational sex ratio (the ratio of fertile males to fertile females in the population) that is highly unfavorable to men's romantic prospects in Western counties.

 

 

== References ==

== See also ==

* [[Mutation]]

* [[Behavioral sink]]

* [[Causes of inceldom]]