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Even though it is true that female infidelity is on the rise,<ref>http://www.fincham.info/papers/2017-infidelity.pdf</ref> data from 2010-2016 actually indicate the rate of infidelity is actually roughly the same for young men and women (10% in men versus 11% in women),<ref>https://ifstudies.org/blog/number-1-in-2018-who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-infidelity-in-america</ref> with the gap widening with age and men generally being more infidel (though women lie more often than men about their infidelity, which means that this gap is probably smaller than what it seems). The gap is, however, nowhere near the figure of 50% of women cheating cited by Babe.net.

The Babe.net article also notes that women get bored sexually quicker than men (which is true<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref>) and that this is evidence of a promiscuous female nature (likely false, see also the [[promiscuity]] article).

It is a feature of most monogamous species, which humans are an instance of, that the pair in the initial stages of their relationship will participate in an exhaustive amount of sex.

After this burst of sexual activity, once the pair bond is established, the amount of sex declines to leave more time for the rearing of children, and also eventually seek sexual variety to increase the genetic variation of the offspring (what is known as [[coolidge effect]]).

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Let's think purely in terms of sex and ignore the important aspect of children. It isn't all surprising that one might conclude that females are promiscuous based on the burst of sexual excitement women (which has evolved to facilitate pair-bonding) and men's experience during the beginnings of a sexual relationship. Due to the {{W|Coolidge effect|Coolidge effect}}, if the goal is to be in a state of constant sexual excitement, then one must have a multitude of partners.  

 

One problem with this is that evolutionary selection pressures don't work to ensure constant sexual excitement for the individual; rather, sexual excitement is a mechanism that has been selected to ensure the evolutionary imperative of creating as many copies of oneself as possible.

That particular individual may abuse this mechanism to be in a state of constant excitement is not sufficient evidence that women have been strongly selected for promiscuous mating.

We can expose this faulty thinking by comparing it to drug abuse. If we make the goal pleasurable sensation, just like this feminist (who's Asian btw) makes constant sexual excitement the goal. We discover that by taking certain drugs, we can produce intensely pleasurable sensations by abusing the pleasure mechanisms in the brain, it would be faulty thinking to then conclude that we are drug addicts by nature now wouldn't it. Simply because individuals abuse certain evolved mechanisms to achieve certain hedonic ends, it does not then follow that these behaviors are natural.

Similarly, the burst of oxytocin we receive with a new sexual encounter (which we know has in part evolved due to pair-bonding) can be abused to constantly receive these pleasurable bursts by having multiple partners to induce them. Still, it does not mean that those bursts of pleasure have evolved because of promiscuity. Cross-culturally, it has been shown that extremely promiscuous women were less reproductively successful than more faithful females.{{Citation needed|reason=A source would bolster this argument and likely make for interesting reading|date=April 2021}} This is because slutty women were more subject to murder and infanticide (by of their jealous partners, of course).