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The term incel is an abbreviation of "involuntary celibate", a life condition with an [[Donnelly Study|academic sociological foundation]]. 'Incel' is not a subculture where there are members and members decide 'membership'. The [[incelosphere]], is mostly, but not entirely male-dominated.  

'''Under the broad definition of incel''': 'celibate against choice', incel women usually have medical conditions such as [[vaginismus]], are in sexless [[relationship]]s, are [[mentalcel]]s or are [[standardcel]]s.  Many incel forum users believe that high-[[standardcel]]s should not count as incels, thinking that women collectively refusing to even consider online dating the same 80%+ of the male population isn't comparable to an incel not being willing to fuck a 300-pound black woman.  Many incel forums members also believe in not acknowledging medical or mental conditions that would cause female involuntary celibacy beyond standards, considering them edge cases that distract from what is primarily a problem that directly affects men.

'''Under the narrow definition of incel''', 'celibate against will'... there are virtually no female incels, but many male incels.

[[incel]] is an abbreviation of involuntarily celibate, which is self-descriptive. Involuntary meaning not willfully.  Celibate meaning without sex and/or romance.  Up to 28% of American young men are incel according to the Washington Post.<ref>https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/?utm_term=.9b52429c7136</ref> "Incel", isn't a single community any more than, for example, trans people are a single community.  

As far as self-identified incels or incel forums, they are extremely disconnected and do not share radical beliefs unless you want to call [[determinism]] a radical ideology.  Individual philosophies like the original [[blackpill]] definition or subcultures like [[4chan]] culture emerge on some, but not all, forums dedicated to involuntary celibates and go in and out of fashion.

Calling involuntary celibates a movement is like calling poor people a movement or ideology. To elaborate, '[[pauperdom]]' is the state of being poor. The term is to poor people, what inceldom is to incels. Both are life situations, the terms 'incel' and 'pauper' denote a person affected by these things. It would be widely agreed by most people that poor people aren't a movement nor is there a specific ideology that all adhere too. Likewise, incels and inceldom are the same in that respect.

Although [[involuntary celibate]]s are often stereotyped as mostly white, modern polls and surveys (and general forum usage) suggest otherwise. [https://www.reddit.com/r/Braincels/comments/8mhyo7/results_of_the_rbraincels_race_poll/ This poll from braincels] shows that whites constitute only 28% of that forums population, with the largest racial demographic being [[currycel]]. The largest poll by the whitest forum: [[incels.co]] showed that only 50% of its members were [[whitecel]]s, the rest being [[ethnicel]].<ref>https://www.pressreader.com/uk/the-daily-telegraph-telegraph-magazine/20180818/282213716666395</ref> Since [[inceldom]] often results from statistical imbalances, Senegal<ref>http://family.jrank.org/pages/1482/Senegal-Polygamy.html</ref> and Qatar<ref>https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/fields/2018.html</ref>, respectively the most polygamous and unbalanced sex ratios in the world, arguably have the highest rates of [[inceldom]] worldwide.

Involuntary celibates are human and as such feel emotions (negative as well as positive) just like everyone else. Its normal to feel gloomy when lacking a [[maslow need]]. Many involuntary celibates become used to their situation and as such are content being involuntarily celibate, which may even turn them into [[volcel]]s. Involuntary celibates who take the [[whitepill]] try out stoicism and asceticism and thereby become content with their situation. The subset of incels most likely to feel upset or depressed are probably [[nymphocel]]s.

In short, no. That is a stereotype nurtured by [[pigeonholing]] and [[broadbrushing]] media portrayals. Having low testosterone levels is more common in incel demographics compared to [[noncel]]s. Unassertiveness, being obsequious and high inhibition is also more common in [[involuntary celibate]] populations according to [[Henry Flynt]]. Furthermore, the stoic and ascetic viewpoints espoused by some [[purplepill]]ed and [[blackpill]] tenets (especially when supplemented with the [[whitepill]]) tends to repudiate violent viewpoints in favor of pacifism.

Research shows that it is a myth that sexual frustration and longing for sexual intimacy is the main driver behind rape. Instead, rape is predominantly driven by anger and power, which are character attributes which [[NEET|losers]], [[social isolation|loners]], [[nice guy|shy guys]] and [[creep]]s typically lack.

Rapists do tend to have negative views of women, endorse rape myths, and identify with a hypermasculine role,<ref>Robertiello, G., & Terry, K. J. (2007). Can we profile sex offenders? A review of sex offender typologies. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 12(5), 508–518. doi:10.1016/j.avb.2007.02.010 </ref> which does overlap with views in the [[incelosphere|incel subculture]]. However, in rapists, these views are likely rather caused by a genetic [[life history|fast life history disposition]], while internet incels are simply [[redpill]]ed.

{{quote|The idea that radicalization causes terrorism is perhaps the greatest myth alive today in terrorism research. [...] [First,] the overwhelming majority of people who hold radical beliefs do not engage in violence. And second, '''there is increasing evidence that people who engage in terrorism don’t necessarily hold radical beliefs.'''}}

 

Taken together, the overall evidence suggests the link between inceldom and violence, to the extent it exists, is rather caused by motivation and incentives set up by society, rather than radicalization.

It is true that the only unifying trait of incels is being involuntarily deprived of sex. (However, some incels argue the word incel has more to do with romance than sex) Regardless, being involuntarily deprived of sex does not mean that you want sex or that it is the only thing you want. Some incels only want a romantic companion, others want marriage, some want offspring, others want validation and others want the [[social status]] associated with having a partner. Some want to get a SO due to parental pressure, or because they want to quell rumors that they're [[homosexuality|gay]]. Others want independence from parents, i.e. "leaving the nest" that is sometimes associated with romantic [[relationship]]s. Some involuntary celibates seek the tax-breaks and other social benefits that are often associated with being in a partnership.

Although incels are often portrayed as "guys who can't get laid", the above examples show that its possible to be a graysexual, demisexual or asexual incel.

However given all of this, it does not follow that purely non-sexual avenues of trying to help incels will help incels, as many (but not all) incels simply do just want sexual intimacy period.

Again, not all incels want sex (see above). For those that do, unless they're [[escortcel]]s or pure [[mentalcel]]s, incels and in particular [[truecel]]s, are usually so ugly and physically deformed that even prostitutes reject them.

Frequenting prostitutes or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual, romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance/sociability, but not without money. Even if it did count as a sexual or romantic relationship, most self-identified incels cannot afford it regularly.  In America at least, the cost of sex is prohibitively expensive, and runs up to a $600/hour average in major cities.   

Some non-materialist incels go further to say that financial social relationships cannot be fully sexual.

The term "incel" is an umbrella term and [[sniglonym]] of the term "involuntary celibacy" whose usage reaches back at least to the [[Antoine Banier|18th century]]. Inceldom has existed throughout human history. The phenomenon even exists in the extended animal kingdom (see [[animalcel]]).

==What's the biggest misconception about inceldom?==

The most common misconception is that [[inceldom]] constitutes a belief system, label or ideology. Inceldom is simply a social phenomenon akin to homelessness, and a social demographic such as the unemployed.

In general, no. Some of the greatest minds in history lived [[involuntarily celibate]] lives. See for example [[Vincent van Gogh]]. But [[mentalcel]]s also exist.

However, inceldom can lead to mental despair and a general decline in cognitive function through sadness and drug use quite easily.

A black pill is a [[red pill]] with a fatalistic, defeatist, catastrophizing connotation, seeking to disclose systemic and potentially irreparable issues. Within the incelosphere and lookism community, this mostly refers to the meme that female mate choice is primarily about [[LMS|looks, money and status]] rather than [[personality|character]].  Not all incels subscribe to the blackpill or even any pill at all.

No.  Some don't believe in the blackpill.  Some don't agree with parts of it.  Some don't subscribe to any 'pills'. Some involuntary celibates are [[purple pilled]], others are [[bluepilled]]; others are [[red pilled]] or [[whitepilled]]. Some involuntary celibates who have never entered the [[incelosphere]] are unaware of [[pill jargon|"pill" jargon]]. There are also [[noncel blackpiller]]s such as [[Catherine Hakim]]. However, the [[blackpill]] tends to be popular among self-identified [[mancel]]s.

The degree of genuine [[narcissism]] shown by [[Elliot Rodger]] is rare in the incel forums, and it is often born from isolation and part of a broader inability to socially integrate. Most of the United States ranks high in [[narcissism]], but most incels aren't much more [[narcissism|narcissistic]] than the average person in the USA.  Many incel forum members rate extremely not-narcissistic according to threads where forum members took the NPD test online. Those who are particularly narcissistic may use it as a [[coping mechanism]] for having no one else to love.

Incels aren't a monolith. But there is some anecdotal evidence suggesting that an unspecified proportion of [[homosexuality]] is actually caused by inceldom (see [[homocel hypothesis]]). Similarly, the [[trans-vestigiality hypothesis]] also suggests that a significant proportion of transgenderism is caused by inceldom.  Jailhouse gay essentially.  Except the jail is (usually female) sexual selective pressures instead of a literal jail.

In common usage, those using the word misogyny are more likely to actually mean Gybophobia. But because the word gynophobia isn't in common usage, that word isn't common. Furthermore, gynophobia is often a subset of eurotophobia, just as misandry is often a subset of phallophobia. Imperatively, desiring someone romantically or sexually, whilst also hating them is oxymoronic, unless said person has a hatefucking fetish. Do incels have a hatefucking fetish? For the most part, no.

Being single is a symptom of inceldom as opposed to a cause. Generally, single isn't a good overall descriptor for an incel. The main separation between being single and Incel is that being single can be a choice, whereas inceldom cannot. Single people also may have many sexual/romantic encounters while being single. Something incels don't experience. As such, the terms are not synonymous, in the same way that a hungry Ethiopian in a famine and a person in Mallorca who is on a diet are not synonymous.

If it affects you psychologically, then consider trying to boost your self-esteem in some way, or try out stoicism (see [[whitepill]]). If it affects you physiologically, such as via sexual frustration, then consider taking [[antaphrodisiac]]s (medicinal substance that quells the [[libido]]) (nigga dont thats a horrible idea!) or [[anaphrodisiac]]s (food supplement that quells the libido).   

If you are male and don't live in a country with arranged partnerships you can also try adjusting your behavior more dramatically to meet your sexual desires, through [[muscle theory|hiring a personal trainer to build muscle]], [[fashion|hiring a fashion consultant]], taking pro-social photos, taking photos with pets, and/or consulting those who study [[lookism]] more broadly. If one does not want to try anymore, one can also [[:Category:Incelism|advocate for incels politically]], go [[MGTOW]], or go [[NEET]] and [[LDAR|sloth]].