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Costly romantic signaling may consist in relinquishing other plans just for the woman, or spending a lot of time crafting a gift or perfecting a skill just for her. The more expensive, i.e. more romantic the courtship is, the more valuable the woman becomes in men's eyes<ref name="eibl"></ref> as a result of sunk cost fallacy.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpnxd31y0Fo</ref> Hence, playing coy and downplaying their sexual interest, women can provoke more expensive courtship display and can trick men into more reliable resource investment. | Costly romantic signaling may consist in relinquishing other plans just for the woman, or spending a lot of time crafting a gift or perfecting a skill just for her. The more expensive, i.e. more romantic the courtship is, the more valuable the woman becomes in men's eyes<ref name="eibl">Eibl-Eibesfeldt I. 1989. ''Pair Formation, Courtship, Sexual Love.'' In: ''Human Ethology.'' Rougtledge. [[https://books.google.com/books?id=-CExDwAAQBAJ&lpg=PT6&ots=KctjD7Zprm&dq=Pair%20Formation%2C%20Courtship%2C%20Sexual%20Love&pg=PT335#v=onepage&q=Pair%20Formation,%20Courtship,%20Sexual%20Love&f=false Excerpt]]</ref> | ||
as a result of sunk cost fallacy.<ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpnxd31y0Fo</ref> Hence, playing coy and downplaying their sexual interest, women can provoke more expensive courtship display and can trick men into more reliable resource investment. | |||
Women have evolved this behavior as they depended on men's resources throughout human evolution.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> How much women desire such signals of investment is evidenced by their much greater expectation that any given hookup results in heavy romantic investment on part of the man, e.g. 60% of women said they hoped a recent hookup would lead to a romantic relationship compared to only 13% of men.<ref>http://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12220 (Weitbrecht 2017)</ref> Further, even feminist women prefer men who take care for them.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Even_feminist_women_tend_to_prefer_men_who_patronize_and_care_for_them</ref> Romance novels are also almost exclusively consumed by women and account for 40% of mass paperback sales in the United States.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_drawn_more_than_men_to_nonfiction_stories_of_rape.2C_murder.2C_and_serial_killers</ref> | Women have evolved this behavior as they depended on men's resources throughout human evolution.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Women_were_historically_predominantly_involved_in_cooking_and_they_never_dominated_men</ref> How much women desire such signals of investment is evidenced by their much greater expectation that any given hookup results in heavy romantic investment on part of the man, e.g. 60% of women said they hoped a recent hookup would lead to a romantic relationship compared to only 13% of men.<ref>http://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12220 (Weitbrecht 2017)</ref> Further, even feminist women prefer men who take care for them.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill_(Supplemental)#Even_feminist_women_tend_to_prefer_men_who_patronize_and_care_for_them</ref> Romance novels are also almost exclusively consumed by women and account for 40% of mass paperback sales in the United States.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_drawn_more_than_men_to_nonfiction_stories_of_rape.2C_murder.2C_and_serial_killers</ref> | ||
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As evidenced by the failure of [[nice guy]]s and women's literary interest in [[rape]]y romance novels,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_drawn_more_than_men_to_nonfiction_stories_of_rape.2C_murder.2C_and_serial_killers</ref> romance is clearly not enough (except for [[sexy son hypothesis|Good looking]] guys), or can be outright harmful, especially if the courtship efforts come across as [[cool|desparate]]. Rather, woman's mating preferences are only fully met when romance is accompanied by a demonstration of physical dominance, which women report, primarily lies merely in the threat rather than actual harm, and often seems to involve the female ''taming'' the man. (On the other hand, women do have actual [[rape]] fantasies, so it is not clear to which extent the latter is actual preference or just [[political correctness]].) | As evidenced by the failure of [[nice guy]]s and women's literary interest in [[rape]]y romance novels,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_are_drawn_more_than_men_to_nonfiction_stories_of_rape.2C_murder.2C_and_serial_killers</ref> romance is clearly not enough (except for [[sexy son hypothesis|Good looking]] guys), or can be outright harmful, especially if the courtship efforts come across as [[cool|desparate]]. Rather, woman's mating preferences are only fully met when romance is accompanied by a demonstration of physical dominance, which women report, primarily lies merely in the threat rather than actual harm, and often seems to involve the female ''taming'' the man. (On the other hand, women do have actual [[rape]] fantasies, so it is not clear to which extent the latter is actual preference or just [[political correctness]].) | ||
=== Personality === | === Personality === | ||