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Research on [[blind dating]] and semi-blind dating suggest during initial pair-bonding personality traits do not play any role,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> so what is called "romance" probably mostly boils down to the female [[Sex drive#Female_passivity|passively accumulating information]] in terms of [[LMS|looks, money and status]] about the suitor, and any additional courtship efforts are mere costly signals of investment and [[virtue signaling]]/[[political correctness]] as mentioned above or means of intimidating other suitors, i.e. gaining status. | Research on [[blind dating]] and semi-blind dating suggest during initial pair-bonding personality traits do not play any role,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_speed_dating</ref><ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_video_dating</ref><ref name="walster">https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Looks_are_most_important_to_women_in_blind_dating</ref> so what is called "romance" probably mostly boils down to the female [[Sex drive#Female_passivity|passively accumulating information]] in terms of [[LMS|looks, money and status]] about the suitor, and any additional courtship efforts are mere costly signals of investment and [[virtue signaling]]/[[political correctness]] as mentioned above or means of intimidating other suitors, i.e. gaining status. | ||
=== Direct courtship vs arranged mating === | |||
Cross cultural evidence suggests that arranged mating was the most prevalent form of human mating practices rather than direct face-to-face courtship. This may suggest that the heavy modern emphasis on courtship, mutual romantic investment, finding one's soulmate etc., are unnatural and [[mismatchcel|evolutionary mismatches]], as mating typically occurred in a social context. | |||
==History== | ==History== | ||