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The reasoning behind their [[sexlessness]] varies from psychological issues, an unsocial life, shyness, being socially inept, or a lack of initiative in making the first move.<ref>http://www.fr.de/wissen/gesundheit/medizin/leben-ohne-sex-als-erwachsener-sexuell-unerfahren-a-795129</ref> Absolute Beginners gradually developed into communities that culminated into self-help groups of the same name.<ref>http://www.spiegel.de/panorama/gesellschaft/leben-ohne-sex-selbsthilfe-fuer-erwachsene-jungfrauen-a-571107.html</ref> AB's sometimes communicate with one another on online forums. They vary in age, including vicenarians, tricenarians and quadragenarians.<ref>http://www.faz.net/aktuell/gesellschaft/menschen/beziehungen-zuletzt-gekuesst-im-kindergarten-1410279-p2.html</ref> In some online forums, the hallmark of being an Absolute Beginner is beyond the age of twenty if one still has had no sexual or romantic experience.<ref>Maja Roedenbeck: And who kisses me? Absolute Beginners – When love is waiting for you, Berlin 2012, p. 54</ref> In online forums, AB's sometimes discuss tribulations associated with their status such as pressures to date and the embaressments and secrecy associated with their inexperience.<ref>Maja Roedenbeck: And who kisses me? Absolute Beginners – When love is waiting for you, Berlin 2012, pp. 29–30, p. 86, p. 108</ref> This is sometimes derived due to social pressure in Germany to have a romantic partner.<ref>https://www.maxima.at/2016/12/09/absolute-beginner-kein-sex-als-erwachsener/</ref> Awareness of the AB community in Germany has increased.<ref>Sprenger: Male Absolute Beginner. A communication-scientific approach to the explanation of partnerlessness, Wiesbaden, Germany</ref> Some German AB's have attempted to document their lifestyle in order to explore the reasoning behind their ineffectiveness at courtship.<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20131215173046/http://www.br.de/fernsehen/bayerisches-fernsehen/inhalt/film-und-serie/love-alien-30-maennlich-ungekuesst-dokumentarfilm-100.html</ref> There are also AB-specific coaches who specialize in giving therapy to AB's.<ref>https://www.badische-zeitung.de/liebe-familie/was-kann-man-tun-wenn-man-als-erwachsener-noch-nie-eine-beziehung-hatte--135505195.html</ref> Some of the causes of AB include having a busy career, and its time-consuming nature leaving few options for romantic pursuits,<ref>https://www.sueddeutsche.de/leben/jungfrau-mit-ende-wenn-der-sex-auf-sich-warten-laesst-1.3606372</ref> a perception of themselves as unattractive and the subsequent low-self esteem,<ref>Olaf Wickenhöfer: Unfreiwillig Single, Eine Studie zur Sozialisationsgeschichte und kulturellen Alltagspraxis, Tectum Verlag, Marburg 2004, page 42</ref> [[prudish]] [[parent]]s<ref>http://www.nordbayern.de/panorama/40-und-ungekusst-in-der-einsamkeitsfalle-1.4847923</ref> seclusion due to some [[illness]]<ref>http://www.rundschau-online.de/ratgeber/gesundheit/-leben-ohne-sex-als-erwachsener-noch-jungfrau-5592872 </ref> fear of beratement of their fetish,<ref>https://webmoritz.de/2014/03/22/sexwuensche-schweigen-ist-gold/ </ref> erotophobic family members who demonize the [[libido]],<ref>https://www.welt.de/print/welt_kompakt/vermischtes/article146134017/Man-muss-Sexualorgane-trainieren.html </ref> disagreements on who should make the first move,<ref>http://www.t-online.de/leben/liebe/id_66124640/flirt-blockade-wenn-keiner-den-ersten-schritt-macht.html </ref> or a traumatic experience during their introductory stage of sexploration.<ref>http://www.bild.de/ratgeber/2016/tipps/wie-geht-man-mit-einer-maennlichenjungfrau-um-45387214.bild.html</ref> [[Heterosexual]] ''Absolute Beginners'' have described themselves as feeling invisible to the opposite sex.<ref>http://www.zeit.de/campus/2016-04/das-erste-mal-sex-beziehung-single</ref> Factors contributing to German women being Absolute Beginners include attending a single-sex educational institution that discouraged freemixing between the genders, enochlophobia, misinterpreting flirtation as mere friendliness, a fear of being friendzoned,<ref>http://www.bild.de/ratgeber/2013/psychologie/so-geht-sex-der-grosse-ratgeber-fuer-jungfrauen-30677616.bild.html</ref> and an exigent personality.<ref>http://www.t-online.de/leben/liebe/id_65059662/singles-darum-gibt-es-so-viele.html</ref>