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The degree of the phenomenon varies as some AB's never had any form of physical intimacy, including kissing or holding hands. Sexologist Jakob Pastötter recommends therapy to remove inhibition and anxiety. In the [[Netherlands]] the organization Aquarion helps AB's by giving lessons on [[dating]] and [[relationship]]s, as well as offering reservations wherein AB's can book sex sessions with one another.<ref>http://www.nordbayern.de/panorama/40-und-ungekusst-in-der-einsamkeitsfalle-1.4847923</ref> Author Arne Hoffman recommends any phyisical activity such as dancing or sports as a method to increase an AB's [[confidence]] levels.<ref>https://www.abendblatt.de/ratgeber/article109915745/Ein-Leben-ohne-Sex-Als-Erwachsener-noch-Jungfrau-sein.html </ref> Members of some online German forums have set up self-help groups, fellowships and therapeutic programs on the topic.<ref>http://www.t-online.de/leben/liebe/id_17362324/absolute-beginners-mit-40-noch-jungfrau.html</ref> Some analysts have suggested using the internet to facilitate opportunities for mingling with others.<ref>http://www.focus.de/digital/internet/internetforen-jungfrau-40-findet-im-internet_aid_327631.html </ref> However, others suggest that the increasing individualization of society suggests singlehood is normal.<ref>http://www.t-online.de/leben/liebe/id_55738496/so-vermeiden-singles-ueber-30-die-torschlusspanik.html</ref>

In 2012, director Wolfram Huke published a [[German language]] autobiographical documentary, ''[[Love Alien]]'', wherein he documents a year of his life as an "Absolute Beginner" between his 29th and 30th birthday. The film features his platonic connection with two female acquaintances; a female distant relative, and a Croatian woman, both of whom he viewed as potential partners. The latter parts of the film show him discussing courtship strategies with a pschotherapist, several family members and random women who tell him how he should present himself. The film ends with a trip to [[Camino de Santiago]] on his 30th birthday where he declares that in spite of his efforts, he is still single.<ref>https://www.welt.de/kultur/kino/article116261835/30-liebenswert-und-noch-nie-eine-Freundin-gehabt.html</ref><ref>http://www.spiegel.de/kultur/kino/kinodoku-love-alien-wolfrum-huke-auf-der-suche-nach-liebe-a-900181.html </ref><ref>https://www.welt.de/vermischtes/article159149444/Ich-muss-das-erst-lernen-Sex-ist-nicht-so-einfach.html |title=Erstes Mal mit 31: „Ich muss das erst lernen – Sex ist nicht so einfach</ref>