Just be first

Just be first (JBF, or JBF Theory) is the theory that deflowering a foid with being her first serious romantic partner fosters intense pair bonding that is improbable to occur at the same intensity with future partners. This gives a man a tremendous advantage allowing to date a woman out of his league he otherwise wouldn't be able to obtain if he wasn't her first partner. But even for Chad, with current divorce laws, there is no guarantee that it will last forever as soon as divorce porn starts to hit her.

Overview

This theory also posits that men who are the first sexual partner of a woman have a significantly higher chance of achieving long-term relationship stability and emotional bonding. The theory draws from evolutionary psychology, social conditioning, and statistical data indicating that female pair-bonding tends to weaken as the number of sexual partners increases.

Over 80% of women with 0 premarital partners (virgins who married their first sexual partner) were in a stable marriage by age 30+, whereas for women with 5 past partners this figure drops to around 30%, and for those with 16–20 partners it sinks below 20% . In other words, having a high number of past partners is strongly linked to a greater probability of marriage breakdown.

Data and Research

Women with 0–1 prior partners before marriage reported the lowest rates of divorce.

Women with 10+ partners had markedly higher divorce rates.

Women with just one sexual partner before marriage had a 64% chance of a marriage lasting 20 years... versus just 20% for women with 10+ partners." — Institute for Family Studies

Relationship satisfaction Multiple studies (including Teachman 2003) show women with fewer sexual partners tend to report higher levels of satisfaction and trust in long-term relationships.

“Premarital sex with multiple partners was associated with lower marital quality and higher divorce risk.” — Jay Teachman, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003

Biologically, oxytocin release during sex helps form emotional bonds in women. Repeated pair-bond breaking (i.e., breakups after sex) may weaken this mechanism over time.

“Higher partner counts are linked to reduced ability to form stable attachments.” — Psychology Today, “Pair Bonding and Human Mating”

Infidelity

Furthermore, A high number of past partners is also associated with traits and behaviors that can show a greater propensity for infidelity and weaker attachment or commitment tendencies. In psychology, the concept of “sociosexuality” is used to describe a person’s comfort with casual, uncommitted sex. Unsurprisingly, someone who has had many casual partners typically has an “unrestricted” sociosexual orientation, meaning they enjoy sex outside of committed relationships and do not see sex and emotional attachment as necessarily linked

“One of the strongest predictors of marital infidelity is one’s number of prior sex partners".

A 2005 study in Personal and Social Psychology Bulletin reported that the number of prior sexual partners was one of the strongest predictors of later infidelity

A 2007 national survey of American women found that the probability of a woman engaging in extramarital sex increased with her number of lifetime sexual partners .

A twin study in the UK even found a genetic correlation: the same genetic factors that incline a woman toward having many sex partners also make her more prone to infidelity . Not surprisingly, women who had been unfaithful in that study had double the number of past sexual partners, on average, as women who remained faithful (7.7 vs 3.8 partners)

Critiques

Some have argued that even if you were the first male to take your partners virginity, that it is not guaranteed that she is a HQNP, cheat, or become unfaithful over time.

"God placed her hymen in her pussy, not her mouth" - A wise looksmax user, Now deleted

"She told you she was a virgin, yet never mentioned the 1000 sucked dicks she's had while she kisses your lips." -Orc, looksmax moderator

Hymen Reconstruction (hymenoplasty)

The demand for hymenoplasty—a surgical reconstruction of the hymen has been on the rise. Making it impossible for many men if not all men to know wether or not their partner is an actual virgin. In many parts of the world, including Western countries, women undergo this procedure to simulate virginity before marriage, often due to pressure from partners or families.

“The popularity of hymen reconstruction reflects how deeply men value being first—whether consciously or not.” — The Guardian

As of 2022, The UK has criminalized this surgery

It attempts to recreate a woman's hymen, which in some cultures is linked to virginity, and has been described as a form of honour-based abuse.

The procedure will be criminalised, as will virginity testing.

Current Minister for Care and Mental Health Gillian Keegan said the government was "committed to safeguarding vulnerable women and girls in this country".

The very existence of this industry supports the idea that a woman’s sexual history does matter to partners, to society, and to herself.