Causes of celibacy: Difference between revisions

** Being physically [[Uglyceldom|unattractive]]. In one study, people of either sex with below-average attractiveness had a 1.5-3x higher chance of remaining virgin during early adulthood compared to people of above-average attractiveness, however all 26 very unattractive guys in the study did have sex by the time they were around 28 years old, and being good looking appears to be slightly more useful for women than it is for men in lowering the chances of adult virginity.<ref name="haydon2013"></ref> Among adult virgins aged 28, only 0-3% of men and 1-8% of women were judged as "very unattractive" (a [[decile|two]] or less, p = 0.02).<ref name="haydon2013"></ref> Add Health data also suggests that unattractive men are not more likely see prostitutes. However, half of the adult virgins in this study having reported to have no interest in sex, and it is unknown whether attractive virgins were more likely volcels than unattractive virgins. Looks are strongly linked to initial romantic interest, however only moderately to romantic initiation, and only weakly to long-term romantic success and in some samples even unrelated to lifetime [[reproductive success]], further, looks were also unimportant in arranged marriage decisions which used to be the primary form of human mating (see [[beauty]]).

** High BMI or being [[Fatcel|overweight]]<ref name="haydon2013"></ref> Some of the link between looks and sexual behavior may also be mediated by health as looks and health are [[Beauty#Correlations|linked weakly though consistently]].

** Premature birth<ref>https://www.newsweek.com/babies-premature-romantic-partners-sex-parents-adults-1448938</ref>

** [[medcel|Disease]], e.g. in a German sample, those with poor general health were only around 40% as likely to have had sex in the past four weeks compared to those in good health,<ref>https://www.aerzteblatt.de/archiv/215850/Gesundheit-sexuelle-Aktivitaet-und-sexuelle-Zufriedenheit</ref> though in a student sample, immunocompetency was not linked to mating performance<ref>https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/full/10.1098/rsos.160603</ref>

** Low social status or peer status,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Men.27s_social_status_accounts_for_62.25_of_the_variance_of_copulation_opportunities</ref> with the socially excluded having very low status.

** Physical disability. In a sample of physically disabled individuals, 47% did not have a partner, while in a matching sample of non-disabled individuals, 30% did not have a partner.<ref>Taleporos, G., & McCabe, M. P. (2002). Sexuality and Disability, 20(3), 177–183. doi:10.1023/a:1021493615456</ref>

** For men (not women), low [[IQ]] predicts fewer offspring,<ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_and_intelligence</ref> similar to the effect of mental disorders.

* [[Life history theory|Slow-life history strategy]] inherited from the parents thus potentially accompanied by an overall sex-negativity and high achievement expectations. Slow LH types are often [[volcel]]s. Slow LH may be related to adaptations for (late) [[arranged marriage]] as a stable bond of marriage enables investment in the offspring. Hence slow LH [[volceldom]] may eventually turn into [[inceldom]], if marriage gets delayed too much or never occurs, or when there is a lack of guidance toward marriage. In fact, lack of [[flirting]] skill has been identified as the main cause of inceldom, which may disproportionally affect slow-life strategists for whom contemporary overemphasis on [[Promiscuity|free mating]] is particularly unnatural.<ref name="apostolouArticle"></ref><ref>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7218110/</ref><ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/349428337_Involuntary_singlehood_and_its_causes_The_effects_of_flirting_capacity_mating_effort_choosiness_and_capacity_to_perceive_signals_of_interest</ref><ref>Apostolou, M., & Wang, Y. (2019). The Association Between Mating Performance, Marital Status, and the Length of Singlehood: Evidence From Greece and China. Evolutionary Psychology, 17(4), 147470491988770. doi:10.1177/1474704919887706 </ref>

** [[Asexuality]]/[[volcel]]dom is by far the strongest predictor of virginity around the age of 28, with about half of them stating they never felt attraction to the opposite sex while asexuals only make up 1% of the general population.<ref name="haydon2013"></ref> Could be [[mutation]] or slow-life trait.

** Starting puberty late as a male or being physically immature compared to your peers as a teenager,<ref>Tucker Halpern, C., Waller, M.W., Spriggs, A., & Hallfors, D.D. (2006). Adolescent predictors of emerging adult sexual patterns [Electronic version]. Journal of Adolescent Health, 39(6), 926.e1 - 926.e10.</ref> with slow sexual maturation being a primary marker of slow life history genetics.

** [[Shyness]] or social anxiety, no flirting skills, [[approach anxiety]].<ref name="apostolou2018"></ref> Could be [[mutation]] or slow-life trait. Possibly an adaptation for [[arranged marriage]].<ref name="apostolou2018"></ref> Due to women's passive courtship style, introversion and social anxiety have been found to substantially reduce men's mating success more than women's.<ref>Nordsletten, AE, Larsson, H, Crowley, JJ, Almqvist, C, Lichtenstein, P, & Mataix-Cols, D. 2016. ''Patterns of Nonrandom Mating Within and Across 11 Major Psychiatric Disorders''. JAMA Psychiatry, 73(4), 354. [[https://doi.org/10.1001/jamapsychiatry.2015.3192 Abstract]]</ref>

** [[Nice guy|Niceness]] tends to slightly reduce physical attractiveness of men to women and agreeable men have a somewhat lower income,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Personality</ref> which due to women's [[hypergamy|preference for affluent men]] may also explain some of men's low sexual success, however out of the [[Big Five personality traits]], only extraversion is related to men's [[reproductive success]].<ref>Alvergne, A., Jokela, M., & Lummaa, V. (2010). Personality and reproductive success in a high-fertility human population. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 107(26), 11745–11750. doi:10.1073/pnas.1001752107</ref> Extroversion may correlate with the willingness and ability to intimidate other males, which one study has shown to predict men's access to females (even more so than women's own choices, which actually had a non-significant impact on men's mating outcomes).<ref>https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513817304105</ref>

** Long education is a significant predictor of early adult virginity,<ref name="lei2021">https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/jomf.12723</ref> though in one study only for women (long-education [[femcel]]s).<ref name="haydon2013"></ref> The phenomenon of educated women refusing to [[date]] down is also discussed in the [[hypergamy]] article, though it is unclear whether this tendency is really due to refusal to date down, or being too busy and hitting the [[wall]], or facing evolutionary [[Mismatchcel|mismatches]] regarding an [[resources for orgasms|exchange of sex in return for resources]].

** Lower use of alcohol and drugs,<ref name="boislard2016"></ref><ref name="haydon2013"></ref><ref name="irfan2020"></ref> possibly causally at individual level.<ref name="lei2021"></ref>

** Living with both biological parents<ref name="boislard2016"></ref>

** Having a highly educated mother<ref name="boislard2016"></ref>

** Having caring and monitoring parents.<ref name="irfan2020"></ref>

** Having received more sexual education.<ref name="irfan2020"></ref>

** Fast LH acquaintances might cause envy and inceldom in those who have a slower LH speed

** Low socio-economic status,<ref name="irfan2020"></ref> unemployment, affecting men more detrimentally than women.<ref>Ueda, P., & Mercer, C. H. (2019). Prevalence and types of sexual inactivity in Britain: analyses of national cross-sectional probability survey data. BMJ Open, 9(10), e030708. doi:10.1136/bmjopen-2019-030708 </ref>

** High [[standardcel|mate choice standards]], however standardcels are mostly [[volcel]]s<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/349428337_Involuntary_singlehood_and_its_causes_The_effects_of_flirting_capacity_mating_effort_choosiness_and_capacity_to_perceive_signals_of_interest</ref>

** Low mating effort, especially in case of women (which is further evidence of [[Briffault's law]]),<ref>https://www.researchgate.net/publication/320299645_The_challenge_of_starting_and_keeping_a_relationship_Prevalence_rates_and_predictors_of_poor_mating_performance</ref> often [[volcel]]s

** High achievement standards,<ref name="boislard2016"></ref> with today's students rather working to make ends meet than engaging binge drinking and sex,<ref>https://archive.is/e7SM6</ref> however career-focused singles tend to report they focus on their career because they are single rather than they stay single in order to focus on their careers<ref>https://www.springer.com/de/book/9783658059231</ref>

** Female race preferences (see [[ethnicel]]), with Asian-American males yielding the highest incel rates (see [[Demographics#Race|demographics]] and the [[Scientific Blackpill#tocRace|Scientific Blackpill]]), which could be partly explained by female [[hypergamy]] and by slow LH predisposition.

** A high degree of [[neoteny]] in males might give rise to the [[cutecel]] phenomenon. Neoteny is related to late maturation and slow life history, possibly evoking inceldom in neotenous adult and adolescent males due to envy toward faster LH-strategic peers who are already in relationships. In an informal survey by [[AB]]s (German incels), there may have been an overrepresentation of particularly neotenous males with nearly two thirds saying they are typically perceived as younger than they are.<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20130904045515/http://ab-wiki.acc.de:80/wiki/index.php/Umfragen#Scheinen_AB.C2.B4s_j.C3.BCnger_als_in_Wahrheit_zu_sein_.3F</ref> Cute looking and relatively frail overall physic may loose out in dominance competitions,<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Among_male_university_students.2C_only_cues_of_physical_dominance_over_other_men_predicted_their_mating_success</ref> especially in the modern, potentially [[evolutionary mismatch|evolutionarily mismatch]]ing fast-life dating context.

* [[Life history theory|Fast-life strategists]] have an overall higher [[sex drive]], hence may experience inceldom and dryspells as a greater psychological burden.

** Good looks might matter more in fast LH, short-term context<ref>https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797615579273</ref>

** Fast life history races/immigrants living in slow LH host countries with increasingly strong norms against teen sexuality and casual sexuality (though also benefiting from laxer norms regarding out-of-wedlock births and sexuality).

** The psychological burden of inceldom is likely often amplified by [[sexual envy]] provoked by sexually successful fast LH types boasting about [[sex haver|having sex]] and fast LH women [[whore|self-sexualizing]] online and in public, which they appear to do more in areas with greater economic inequality.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_sexualize_themselves_online_to_attract_high_status_mates</ref>

* Ideology and religion can be either a positive or negative factor:

** Religious or strict environment predicts remaining virgin during early adulthood.<ref name="irfan2020"></ref><ref name="haydon2013">Haydon, A. A., Cheng, M. M., Herring, A. H., McRee, A.-L., & Halpern, C. T. (2013). Prevalence and Predictors of Sexual Inexperience in Adulthood. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 43(2), 221–230. doi:10.1007/s10508-013-0164-3</ref>

** Parents who do not care about their children marrying/reproducing due to disinterest or ideology, [[evolutionary mismatch|mismatching]] the universal prevalence of [[marriage]] and [[arranged marriage]] across human societies.

** Weakly enforced monogamy and marriage likely causes unstable relationships which in turn causes [[dry spell]]s.

* Husbandcels in [[deadbedroomer|dead bedroom]] marriages, as women lose their sex drive much sooner than men, seemingly especially when cohabiting closely.<ref>https://incels.wiki/w/Scientific_Blackpill#Women_rapidly_lose_interest_in_sex_once_in_a_stable_relationship_or_living_with_a_man</ref>

* A string of bad luck

** Only met fast [[life history]] [[BPD|BPD chicks]] who crave being humiliated by [[Chad]]

** No access to opposite sex partners e.g. due to [[locationcel|location]], life situation, low prevalence of same-aged people, skewed [[sex ratio]]s, etc.

*'''Outsourcing and automation''': Outsourcing and automation cause a shift toward the service sector which has high cognitive requirements and pushes people into a slow life history speed, high achievement standards and long education.  

|I don’t put any effort or make any moves. I’ve never been really all that into actively seeking out a relationship. I’ve always believed relationships come and go on their own.

|I have no avenues for meeting women. While being a mechanical engineering contractor is a pretty attractive job to have, you aren’t exactly surrounded by women.

|I get terrible anxiety around women. Overwhelming anxiety whenever I try to speak with any woman I′ m interested in.

|I don’t value the things that a relationship brings, I value the things that casually dating brings. I usually date girls casually for a month or so then find someone new. Keeps things fresh and exciting for me. I’m lucky enough to be good looking enough to have random women sleep with me. So I’m pretty much going to stay single until my buying power declines and I’m forced to settle down.

|I am a high-functioning autist and feel deeply uncomfortable of physical contact.

|I quite literally do not know how to be in a relationship. relationship I don’t know shit about dating and flirting.

|I don’t have money for dates, I barely pay my gas bill. Money…I don’t have a lot of it to treat a lady.

|I do not trust women.

|I have trust issues and made the decision to avoid relationships. I’m single because I can’t trust women for now.

|I cant tell the difference if a girl is just nice to me or she is in to me. So I kinda let everything slip away. I’m terrible at picking up on signals.

|I am not interesting.

|I am the most thoroughly boring person I know. Dull job (to most people). Dull interests, unremarkable body, unremarkable personality. I’m not exactly the kind of person who interests people.

|I will not be a good partner.

|I am scared that maybe I’ll not be a good boyfriend since I don’t know anything about romantic stuff and what girls like. Because I don’t want to bring some poor girl into the depressing pit that is my life.

|I somehow became unable to maintain any kind of relationship My relationships never last over 3 months. Girls break up with me without ever telling me the real reason.

|I am not ready Just damn clingy.