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Feminist magazine Babe.net, celebrated that younger women are now cheating more than men with their article, "Women hate monogamy even more than men do, vindicating empowered [[thot|hoes]] everywhere."<ref>https://babe.net/2018/09/20/women-hate-monogamy-even-more-than-men-do-vindicating-empowered-hoes-everywhere-79623</ref> Though it is true that young women cheat more than young men, the difference extremely small (10% in men versus 11% in women).<ref>https://ifstudies.org/blog/number-1-in-2018-who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-infidelity-in-america</ref> Overtime the inverse happens and the gap widens with 20% of men having cheated versus 13% for women (though women lie more often than men about their infidelity which means that this gap is probablly smaller than what is seems). Though this is nowhere near the 50% of women cheat during marriage figure cited by Babe.net.

They also note that women get bored sexually quicker thant men (true) and that this is evidence of a promiscuos female nature (false). It is a feature of most monogamous species that the pair in the initial stages of their relationship will participate in an exhaustive amount sex after which sexual activity in order to establish the pair-bond and that once the pair-bond is established the amount of sex declines so as to leave more time available for children. For example, the prairie vole (which mates monogamously for life, though with some infidelity) will, upon finding a suitable mate, will engage in a 36 hour fuck-athon which will produce copious amounts of oxcytocin to ensure the female bonds to the male. If we think purely in terms of sex and ignore the important aspect of children, then it isn't all surprising that one might come to the conclusion that females are promiscuos based on the fact the burst of sexual excitement women (which is something that has evolved to facilitate pair-bonding), as well as men, experience during the begginings of a sexual relationship and that if the goal is to be in a state of constant sexual excitement then one must have a multitude of partners. One problem with this is that the goal of Natural selection isn't to ensure the constant sexual excitement for the individual; rather sexual excitement is a mechanism that has been selected so as to ensure the 'selfish genes' agenda of creating as many copies of oneself as possible. That a particular individual abuses this mechanism in order to be in a state of constant excitement is not evidence that Nature has selected for promiscuos females.  

We can expose this faulty thinking by comparing it to drug abuse. If we make the goal pleasurable sensation, just like this femminist (who's Asian btw) makes constant sexual excitment the goal, and we discover that by taking certain drugs we can produce intense pleasurable sensations by abusing the pleasure mechanisms in the brain, it would be faulty thinking to then conclude that we are drug addicts by nature now wouldn't it. Simply because the abuse of certain mechanisms in humans can be used to achieve certain ends (like drug abuse can produce the sensation of being high and sexual promiscuity will produce constant sexual excitement) it does not follow that these behaviours are natural i,e have been naturally selected (i.e that slutty women are more reproductively successful). The pleasure mechanisms in the brain have evolved in order to motivate the individual to do certain actions that is conducive to reproductive success; that drugs can be used to stimulate those pleasure mechanisms is not evidence that those pleasure mechanisms have evolved for humans to take drugs (unless of course taking drugs is adaptive and contributes to reproductive success). Similiarly the burst off oxcytocin we recieve with a new sexual encounter (which we know has in part evolved due to pair-bonding) can be abused so as to constantly recieve these pleasurable bursts by having multiple partners to induce them but it does not mean that those bursts of pleasure have evolved because of promiscuity. In fact cross-culturally it has been shown that extremely promiscuos women were less reproductively successful than females that were more faithful as slutty women were more subject to murder and infanticide (because of their jealous partners of course).

Finally we are told, almost braggingly, that "Anthropologists found that the best mothers, across species, are the ones who fuck the most dudes." now, whilst this is true [[Female orgasm#The development of the female orgasm and female copulatory vocalizations|for promiscuos species in order to create paternity uncertainty]], this is not true of humans. She lays out the argument that:

"By sleeping with tons of guys at the same time, women are able to "hedge against male infertility, up her odds of a healthy pregnancy and robust offspring, and create a wider network of support by lining up two or three males who figured the offspring might be theirs."" but this is just blatantly false, the only cultures (with regards to humans anyways) where it might be benificial to engage openly with multiple men would be in Southern American tribes that believe in the myth of partible paternity (a child having one or more biological fathers) but even in these societies there is often jealousy between husbands and other 'fathers' and should a child have too many fathers, nobody invests. Everybody's child is nobody's child (funnily enough the same applies to women; Everybody's woman is nobody's woman).