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==Techniques of gaslighters== | ==Techniques of gaslighters== | ||
Gaslighters have many techniques they use to gaslight their victims such as [[obfuscation]]. Besides [[obfuscation]], other methods used are: | Gaslighters have many techniques they use to gaslight their victims such as [[obfuscation]]. Besides [[obfuscation]], other methods used are: | ||
==='''"withholding"'''=== | |||
is one technique where the abuser pretends not to understand the victim | |||
*'''"countering"''', where an abuser will vehemently call into question a victim's memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly. | *'''"countering"''', where an abuser will vehemently call into question a victim's memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly. | ||
==='''"Blocking" and "diverting"'''=== | |||
are gaslighting techniques whereby the abuser again changes the conversation from the subject matter to questioning the victim's thoughts and controlling the conversation. | |||
==='''"Trivializing"'''=== | |||
is another way of gaslighting. It involves making the victim believe his or her thoughts or needs aren't important | |||
==='''Abusive "forgetting" and "denial"'''=== | |||
can also be forms of gaslighting. In this technique, the abuser pretends to forget things that have really occurred; the abuser may deny or delay things like promises that have been made that are important to the victim. This denying or delaying, while everyone does it, in the gaslighter occurs on a regular basis in the absense of real external limitations. The gaslighter may make up or create artificial barriers to allow him/herself to deny or delay that which is important to the victim. | |||
====Example==== | |||
An example of this would be having hundreds of thousands in assets, but spending all disposable income before using the income on someone who is dependent on that income. Simultaneously verbally stating they wish to financially help the victim but for years saying they are 'out of money'. This may extend to sexual mattesr as well. | |||
source <ref>https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/gaslighting-definition-techniques-and-being-gaslighted</ref> | source <ref>https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/gaslighting-definition-techniques-and-being-gaslighted</ref> | ||